Send JKO a Text Message In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love. The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing se...
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Send JKO a Text Message In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love. The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing se...
Send JKO a Text Message In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love. The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing se...
Send JKO a Text Message Dreaming can feel risky after repeated disappointments. In this episode, JKO explores why women in survival mode struggle with vision, and how faith and a single written goal can help you move forward. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Why women in the trenches stop dreaming The power of writing down your vision when life is unstable What faith looks like when certainty is unavailable How vision + faith move you forward Key Scripture...
Send JKO a Text Message Labels shape our identity, especially during vulnerable seasons. In this episode, JKO explores how labels form, why they stick, their psychological and social impact, and how women can refuse the harmful names that life gave them. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode What labels really are and why they’re powerfulThe psychological process of labels becoming identityThe social consequences of being labelledBiblical insight on naming and identityPractical ...
Send JKO a Text Message Many women in the trenches live with chronic disrespect starting in childhood, showing up in friendships, and continuing into intimate relationships. Some even experience it from people who they shared their struggles with. Over time, that disrespect slowly reshapes how a woman sees herself. In this episode, JKO explores how disrespect erodes identity and shares seven steps that can help rebuild self-respect. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode What disrespect looks like...
Send JKO a Text Message A New Year reset for women living through hidden abuse or heavy seasons. JKO shares three lessons to carry into 2026. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode A pinpoint of light can make a difference in a tunnel of darkness. You don’t need the whole map, just take the first step. Your value is real even in chaos. It’s okay to have ebbs and flows. When you’re overwhelmed, show yourself compassion. Safety Note: Please use these ideas i...
Send JKO a Text Message Peace can feel impossible when you’re in the middle of life’s challenges. In this episode, we discuss why peace is hard when trauma and stress overwhelm a woman, and the steps that help women in the trenches of life reclaim their peace. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Why peace feels impossible in long-term stress Common thieves of peace Steps to reclaim your peace Key scriptures: John 14:27, Isaiah 26:3, Philippians 4:7 Support ...
Send JKO a Text Message When you’ve been in the trenches long enough, compromise can start to feel like survival. This episode explores how exhaustion, fear, and not knowing your values lead to quiet compromise and how, step by step, you can realign with who God created you to be. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode How self-protection leads to compromise Being raised to please, perform, or “keep the peace” trains you to ignore your own inner compass. Signs of compromise Practical steps to over...
Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever felt that twinge of pain on seeing a friend’s Facebook highlight? That is the twinge of comparison and though it shows up sometimes as jealousy or envy, we are talking about that twinge that makes us wonder if you’ve been forgotten. This episode explores how comparison steals our peace and distorts our worth, and reminds us that our worth was written long before the timeline we see online. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Comparison dra...
Send JKO a Text Message Have you learned to smile through the pain, to “forgive and move on,” to shrink your rage into something polite and acceptable? Repressed and unspoken anger turns inward but when purified by purpose, it can lead to advocacy, creativity, and healing. If you are a woman who knows what it feels like to seeth with that silent but simmering force that shows up in sarcasm, cynicism and irritability, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode ...
Send JKO a Text Message From the fear of rejection to the fear of being alone, from staying quiet to keep the peace to walking on eggshells for approval, we explore how fear shows up in the lives of women who’ve been overlooked, dismissed, or hurt. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The voice of fear The difference between the fear that protects and fear that paralyzes.How fear shows up as “wisdom” or “self-preservation”How to heal from the fear that holds you downKey Scriptur...
Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever replayed a moment you wish you could undo over and over again? You may be teetering between conviction and condemnation. This episode explores the difference between guilt that convicts and guilt that condemns, and how guilt can become a path to improving our lives. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The difference between helpful and harmful guilt The contrast between conviction and condemnation The psychology of guilt and how it affects our brains Three ...
Send JKO a Text Message Shame is one of life’s most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The effect of shame How shame attacks our identity and silences our potential How to counter shame’s lies The kryptonite that weakens shame Key Scriptures: Genesis 3, Isaiah 54:4, Romans 10:11 References Why G...
Send JKO a Text Message What if gratitude could literally change your brain? As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture. If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Words change our brains Gratitude is an instruction fro...
Send JKO a Text Message Are you worrying about your marriage, finances, health, children, or even the unrest in our world? Then you know how anxiety can take hold and refuse to let go. This episode explores the scientific and spiritual reality of anxiety in our lives and how to uncover a path to peace that surpasses understanding. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode God recognizes your anxiety Science confirms the effect of anxiety God provides help for your anxiety Key scriptures: Philippians ...
Send JKO a Text Message If you’ve been wrestling with disappointment, unmet expectations, or regret, OR you’ve been holding tightly to the life you thought you’d have, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your worth isn’t tied to the life you imagined Letting go is not weakness Letting go involves grief, and wrestling with fear and shame Faith is believing that God is faithful even when life doesn’t match your dreams Key scriptures: Ecclesiastes 3:11, Lamentations ...
Send JKO a Text Message This episode shares six powerful lessons from the life and legacy of Charlie Kirk. Whether or not you agreed with him, his story offers insights that can inspire women in the trenches of life. If you believe you are open to learning, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Define your mission and focus on itDon’t despise the little you have in your handCultivate kindness in every situationLive Your Faith Out Loud, every day, everywhere, and in every ...
Send JKO a Text Message For the woman in the “in-between”, still waiting for her turnaround, her answered prayer, her breakthrough. From Hannah’s waiting and the woman with the issue of blood, learn how faith, honesty, and community sustain us when we’re stuck in that long, slow wait. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The In-Between from the pit to the promise is where your spiritual roots grow deeper The power that propels lies in your self-talk 3 practical tips to get through the weary in-b...
Send JKO a Text Message For women in the trenches: Discover the power of prayer in the trenches of life from the Washington Post, science and scripture. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Prayer may not always change your circumstances but it calms your body, anchors your worth, and reshapes your relationships Science shows that prayer reduces stress, anxiety, and improves resilience often more effectively than secular meditation Five-minute prayer strategies Key scriptures: Luke 22:42, ...
Send JKO a Text Message Do you find yourself always trying to earn love, safety, or belonging in relationships? Then, this episode is for you. Discover the signs of emotional hustle culture in relationships, its effects on mental and physical health, and how to heal and deal with it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Links between hustling for love and health issues like insomnia, anxiety, and weight gain The standard for real love Practical healing tools and practices...
Send JKO a Text Message Have you ever heard or even believed that people like you should not be talking? That your challenges make you unworthy to add value to anyone’s life? Let’s uncover the truth from the stories of Rahab, Tamar and Annie Lobert, Hookers for Christ. God doesn’t wait for perfection before He uses us. He chooses you just the way you are. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The surprising role of Rahab the harlot in God’s redemption story How Tamar’s bol...
Send JKO a Text Message In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love. The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing se...
