At the Not Vanilla Podcast, hosted by the dynamic mother-daughter duo, Roxana and Dominique, our mission is simple yet powerful: Cultivating meaningful connections and promoting wellness, both mental and emotional every episode.
We're here to dive deep into the intricacies of relationships, exploring topics that resonate with both the wisdom of age and the freshness of youth. From navigating life's milestones to dissecting the latest trends, we cover it with humor, a touch of sass and lots of love .
But we're not just about talk; we're about connection. Through our engaging discussions and diverse guest lineup, we will bridge generational divides and spark moments of shared understanding and healing.
Together, let's make every conversation a little less vanilla and a whole lot more vibrant!
Listen to the Not Vanilla Podcast wherever you get your favorite podcasts! 🎧✨
At the Not Vanilla Podcast, hosted by the dynamic mother-daughter duo, Roxana and Dominique, our mission is simple yet powerful: Cultivating meaningful connections and promoting wellness, both mental and emotional every episode.
We're here to dive deep into the intricacies of relationships, exploring topics that resonate with both the wisdom of age and the freshness of youth. From navigating life's milestones to dissecting the latest trends, we cover it with humor, a touch of sass and lots of love .
But we're not just about talk; we're about connection. Through our engaging discussions and diverse guest lineup, we will bridge generational divides and spark moments of shared understanding and healing.
Together, let's make every conversation a little less vanilla and a whole lot more vibrant!
Listen to the Not Vanilla Podcast wherever you get your favorite podcasts! 🎧✨
Holiday Joy vs. Holiday Blues: How to Show Up Either Way
Navigating Friendsgiving, Family Gatherings & Feelings
Episode Summary:In this vibrant, honest, and hilariously real episode of Not Vanilla, your favorite mother–daughter duo, Roxana and Dominique, explore the emotional mix that comes with Friendsgiving and the full “Thank-mas” holiday season.
Whether you’re thriving and full of joy, or moving through grief, burnout, and holiday blues, this episode breaks down how to show up authentically without dimming your light or overwhelming your spirit. From shifting family traditions to inner-child healing, boundaries, burnout, and hosting etiquette, this conversation gets real, gets spicy, and stays full of heart.
Real conversations. Real emotions. A little spice. A whole lot of love. đź’›
Key Takeaways
• Holiday pressure is real: emotions, expectations, and shifting family dynamics collide this time of year
• Ground your joy without dimming yourself
• Avoid energy vamping; bring calm, warm presence
• Acknowledge people’s feelings without trying to fix them
• Invite don’t pressure: let people participate at their own pace
• Showing up when you don’t feel like it is valid
• Three show-up styles:
Full Show-Up, Soft Show-Up, Love You From a Distance
• Create a personal plan: know your limits and exit strategy
• Protect your inner child and honor meaningful traditions
• Hosting matters: set the vibe and create safe spaces
• Presence is more important than performance
Resources Mentioned
• Hulu series “Unprisoned”
• Holiday traditions and family rituals
• Friendsgiving and hosting ideas
• Emotional boundaries and self-awareness
If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs comfort, joy, or a real conversation this season. Like, follow, and subscribe to hear more real, vibrant, and spicy episodes from Not Vanilla.
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Mastering De-Escalation: Avoid Your Joseline Hernandez Era
Mindfulness, maturity, and avoiding emotional regret
In this episode of Not Vanilla, Roxana and Dominique get real about emotional roller coasters, unhealthy coping habits, and what it actually takes to de-escalate in real life — not just in theory.
They talk about “de-escalation options” (A: alcohol, B: coffee, C: casino, D: shopping) and how those quick fixes can feel good in the moment but leave you with more anxiety, clutter, debt, or regret later. Through honest stories about emotional eating, impulse spending, gambling urges, overdoing coffee and tea, and even relying too much on meds, they show how easy it is to call something “self-care” when it’s really self-sabotage.
They also unpack why having a true de-escalation friend matters — someone who doesn’t just hype you up, but lovingly challenges you and helps you step back from the edge. From Jocelyn Hernandez’s explosive TV moments to the public toxicity of Krishan Rock and Blueface, they reflect on how algorithms normalize chaos and why we have to choose a different pattern for ourselves, our relationships, and our futures.
This is a funny, vulnerable, mother–daughter conversation about catching yourself before you spiral, choosing maturity, and building a life where you don’t keep apologizing for “going off.”
Key Takeaways:
• De-escalation starts with self-awareness: notice your patterns before they take over.
• Not everything that feels good in the moment is actually de-escalation; some habits quietly escalate stress (shopping, gambling, bingeing, over-drinking, etc.).
• A real de-escalation friend doesn’t just cosign your feelings; they help you slow down, think, and choose better.
• How you react has consequences—for your money, health, relationships, and how safe people feel with you.
• Growth is when you can see yourself choosing differently than you would have in the past—and feeling proud of that.
Resources:
* 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique (CALM Guide): https://www.calm.com/blog/5-4-3-2-1-a-simple-exercise-to-calm-the-mind
*HelpGuide: Understanding Emotional Regulation: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/emotional-regulation.htm
*988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 anytime for support. https://988lifeline.org
If this episode made you think, laugh, or reflect, share it with someone who needs it. Tell us your favorite de-escalation strategy, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. New episodes drop bi-weekly.
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New Year, Same You? Tackling Blue Monday, MLK’s Legacy, and Life’s Potholes
Podcast Show Notes:
Welcome to Season 2 of the Not Vanilla Podcast with your favorite mother-daughter duo, Roxana and Dominique! 🎙️ We’re kicking off the new year with a blend of reflection, motivation, and real talk.
In this episode, we’re diving into a few things that might be on your mind:
✨ Happy New Year: Is it really “new year, new me”? Or can we embrace who we are while making space for growth? We discuss our thoughts on this timeless question.
🌨️ Blue Monday: The third Monday of January is often called the “saddest day of the year.” We unpack why it feels that way and share tips to beat the blues—stay present, journal, and keep the holiday spirit alive all year long.
✊🏾 Honoring MLK’s Legacy: We reflect on Martin Luther King Jr.’s message of unity, equality, and hope, and how his words continue to guide us in challenging times.
🛞 Getting Over Life’s Potholes: Life isn’t always smooth sailing. From financial stress to the winter blues, we discuss how to tackle life’s setbacks with resilience, self-care, and a healthy dose of humor.
We’re also excited to announce that Season 2 will be a biweekly podcast, and we’re bringing you a new format! Get ready to meet our friends, hear new perspectives, and get to know us even more. We’re ready to share our journey with you and bring you along for the ride.
Join us for a fun, inspiring episode that’s anything but vanilla!
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Not Vanilla - After Dark Edition: The Power of Sibling Bonds
In this engaging episode of Not Vanilla, Roxy and Nique dive deep into the world of sibling relationships. Joined by special guests Anthony Feenster and Roxy's son, they explore the cherished memories and varied experiences that shape sibling bonds. From nostalgic childhood games to collaborative adult decisions like buying a car, this conversation captures the essence of growing up together.
The discussion also addresses the complexities of sibling dynamics. While celebrating the joys and support siblings provide, our hosts tackle the inevitable challenges and conflicts, offering practical insights into maintaining healthy relationships. A focal point is the importance of being there for one another in ways that truly meet each sibling's unique needs—emphasizing personalized support, honesty, and nurturing diverse perspectives.
As the episode reflects on the powerful role siblings play in shaping our lives, it highlights key elements like trust, confidentiality, and forgiveness that help keep these relationships strong. Ending on a note of gratitude, Roxy and Nique encourage listeners to cherish their sibling connections while teasing future episodes that will extend the conversation to close friendships.
Key Takeaways:
1. Strong Bonds Through Shared Experiences: Memories with siblings, whether playful or profound, forge lasting connections that span a lifetime.
2. Support and Healing: Siblings can provide a unique blend of joy and comfort during both good times and bad, offering a deep source of healing.
3. Navigating Challenges: Reflecting on positive experiences can help overcome challenges, reinforcing the importance of maintaining healthy dynamics.
4. Personalized Support: Show up for siblings in ways that genuinely meet their individual needs, fostering a supportive and nurturing environment.
5. Embracing Diversity: Valuing diverse perspectives and personalities within sibling relationships enriches these bonds, making each interaction meaningful.
6. Foundations of Trust: Building trust, maintaining confidentiality, and practicing forgiveness are pillars that sustain and strengthen sibling relationships.
7. Express Gratitude: Always express gratitude for your siblings and the irreplaceable role they play in your life.
Tune in to celebrate the joy, complexity, and strength of sibling relationships! Don’t forget to subscribe for future episodes where we expand the conversation to the powerful bonds of friendship.