If you have a wife or girlfriend in your life, then there isabsolutely no reason for you to pull down your zipper and beat your tool to avideo of others getting intimate. If you’re a young single man, healthy andhearty, you have no reason to spending your parents’ money of videos orpictures or explicit content. It’s a conversation that you have with yourfriends but it’s a reality you will never admit. Look at yourself in the mirrorfor 5 seconds and then say that you addicted to porn. You will do it becauseyou’re not afraid to lie to yourself. But if I had to ask you the same questionnow in this context: look at your neighbour sitting next to you dead in the eyeand say that you addicted to porn. There you go, you won’t do that because it’ssomething that you do when the door is closed, and people are asleep. It’ssomething that you do when your wife or girlfriend is sleeping in the room, andyou make your way to the office to get your fix. Let me ask you something: ifyour parents’ love you, you have friends that care for you and you have apartner that will do anything for you, then why the hell are you ruining yourlife and perception of reality!

Be careful of who you follow and allow you to tell you what success is and what it looks like.

You are good at hiding things. It is no secret that you hideyour emotions from the world and sometimes you get so caught up in hiding thatyou hide it from the people that care about you. Maybe it’s because you don’ttrust them with the emotions that you have because you are afraid of beingjudged as weak or unready for what life has to throw at you. Maybe it’s becauseyou feel like a burden and you do not want to let anyone know because yourpeople are going through much worse. Or maybe you just don’t know how toarticulate in a way that your people will understand because they don’t knowhow to handle sadness.

The key to a good self care routine is that it must promote psychological and emotional wellness while at the same time providing you with a sense of purpose and helps boost your confidence and self esteem. Are you promoting these things with your self care routine?

Consistency Includes Error 

If you are going to consciously think about not making a mistake, the chances of you making a mistake is high and likely. And what follows after that, is this deep, unsettled feeling of regret, feeling unaccomplished and feeling like a failure. 

The are fundamental elements that develop consistency. These elements are non-negotiable if you want to be a successful human being, living a healthy, happy life. Failure to follow these elements will result in walking an unbalanced, rocky road and it will also result in a malevolently adjusted mind, clustered with thoughts and scenarios that do not belong. Failure to follow these fundamentals results in feelings failure, retreat and regret and these do not belong in your life. 

The first element is practice 

In order to remain consistent, you must able to put your efforts into practice. Weather you’re studying for a test, starting a new job, business or if you’re a competing Athlete, you must put in the time and energy in becoming a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. You must have a refined plan than what you had yesterday and you must keep this momentum going even if you do not have the motivation to continue. You do not work on motivation, motivation a poor attempt of making excuses as to why you cannot continue the journey you made for yourself. Consistency will never require motivation over discipline. Discipline is what you are putting to practice. 

The element practice requires discipline over motivation. Regardless of the several reasons why you can’t, discipline is demanding you to keep going irrespective of how you feel. Keep the practice alive. 

The Second Element is Purpose 

Practicing consistency reveals one thing about a person, they have a drive, something that they are passionate about, something that they dream about, something that they envision every day. This is defined as purpose — the true goal of your existence. 

Forget about the unexplainable philosophy of what purpose could be. Your purpose is subjective to you and it can be whatever it is that drives you, that commands your attention. That wakes you up in the middle of the night because you didn’t do enough, that ensures you are achieving your goals for your future, that makes you realise that if the mind has not limitations, you have no barriers to keep going and achieving what belongs to you. It only doesn’t belong to you, if you stop. 

Keep your mind closed to doubt, envision your purpose, remain consistent. 

The Final Element is Making Mistakes 

You are the champion of your own life’s journey and you need to realise that just as much as you can budget for a good life, they are going to be times when life will just not go your way. Mistakes will happen when you least expect it and when those mistakes happen, you will think about the doubt and you will think about the limitations and you will think about the people that said your purpose isn’t big enough. Mistakes, errors are not something that you turn away from. You have to embrace it because that’s the lesson you need vs the incident that you walk away from. 

Errors and mistakes are the stories that you will talk about more as you reflect on journey. When you have made it to that place you envisioned, when you applied discipline to achieve your purpose. When you left doubt behind, and realised that you irrespective what people said, you made it work. The journey isn’t interesting without making mistakes. The journey isn’t worth taking if there aren’t errors that occur. The journey is not yours if what should go wrong, doesn’t go wrong. 

The only difference between beating yourself about mistake and being consistent is the fact that you have applied discipline, envisioned purpose, accepted errors in order to achieve your goals, dreams and desires. 

Don’t think about your mistakes. Prepare for them. This is consistency.