Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries. Discussed in this episode:  Find Your Purpose, Find Your People Clarify Desire & Capacity: Close Friend or a Casual One? 7 Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult 3 Apps That Help You Build Aligned Friendships Effective Conversation Skills for New Friendships When "Letting It Fizzle" Doesn't Work Friendship Breakups: Talking vs. Blocking Let’s Talk About the Term “Best Friend” Setting New Boundaries in Old Friendships Friendship Takes Many Forms: The Remarkable Life of Ibelin ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson How To Un-F*** Your Relationships: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22c987e4/how-to-un-fck-your-relationships The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapman How Enmeshment Trauma Impacts Every Relationship You Have with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieri Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington—flipping the narrative of “we’re in a mental health crisis." They explore the loneliness epidemic sweeping our generation, even amid unprecedented access to people and information. They unpack record levels of burnout, the real dangers of disconnection (including life-threatening consequences), and how our society (not our minds) is often the problem. Dr. Jody shares practical tools for emotional regulation, fostering authentic interactions, and reconnecting with the best parts of ourselves—and why nothing can replace the power of in-person connection in a hyper-digital world. Discussed in this episode:  A Jaw-Dropping Parenting Stat From Our Great-Grandparents’ Era  #1 Skill Every Kid and Adult Needs To Learn For Consistent Wellbeing  Hidden Cost of Lost Proximity (and How to Get it Back)  The 4-Minute Challenge That Exposes Your Capacity for Connection  Why “Boys Don’t Cry” Culture Must End For Good  The Greatest Predictor and Habit of Mental Wellness Today The Difference Between Being Alone vs. Being Lonely  What If It’s Not Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, or Autism? What’s Behind The 2006 & 2009 Decline in Mental Health  Does Your Daily Routine Reduce Cortisol or Heighten It? ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Netflix Documentary Discussion: The Social Dilemma: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/230bfddf/netflix-documentary-discussion-the-social-dilemma The Future of Mental Health and Medicine: Psychedelic Therapy, Technology, and Ancient Healing with Dr. Dave Rabin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/f08920eb/the-future-of-mental-health-and-medicine-psychedelic-therapy-technology-and-ancient-healing-with-dr-dave-rabin 12 ADHD Life Hacks with Em Schulz: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/252910dc/12-adhd-life-hacks-with-em-schulz 7 Reasons Why You May Have Insomnia (And How To Treat It) with Dr. Brian F. Licuanan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/215f937b/7-reasons-why-you-may-have-insomnia-and-how-to-treat-it-with-dr-brian-f-licuanan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Dane Johnson, founder of CrohnsColitisLifestyle and Board-Certified Nutritionist, who specializes in supporting people with Crohn’s disease and Ulcerative Colitis. They explore the factors that contribute to IBD, IBS, Crohn’s, and Colitis, practical ways to take control of your health and environment, and how to step away from the “culture of fake.” Dane also shares his life-threatening experience with Crohn’s and the strategies he used to reverse his symptoms without medication or surgery. Whether you have one of these conditions or simply want to elevate your health, there are 50+ actionable takeaways from this episode. Discussed in this episode:  Navigating Conflicting Health Info (and Becoming Your Own Sherlock Holmes) 3 Areas of Focus for Creating Your Healing Home What To Audit in Your Bedroom for Optimal Sleep Made Lifestyle Changes but Still Unwell? Try This Next What’s Really in Your Peanut Butter and How It Impacts Your Gut 2 Book Recommendations for Understanding Toxins & Mold This Could Help Clear Your Skin and Reverse Acne Why You Might Be Exhausted — and Why Coffee Isn’t Working You Don’t Need To Eliminate, Swap! (+ Product Tips) 4 Questions To Ask Before Trying Something New ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: What's Your Poo Telling You? With Dr. Anish Sheth: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/72b07ffc/whats-your-poo-telling-you-with-dr-anish-sheth Mysterious Symptoms (And Finally Getting Answers) with Sharon Okun: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2248a087/mysterious-symptoms-and-finally-getting-answers-with-sharon-okun Adrenal Insufficiency with Dr. Shirisha Avadhanula: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/19d5b231/adrenal-insufficiency-with-dr-shirisha-avadhanula A Shocking Connection Between Trauma And Thyroid Health with Judith Gonzalez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22ae66d2/a-shocking-connection-between-trauma-and-thyroid-health-with-judith-gonzalez Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Suzanne Warye, author of The Sober Shift and host of The Sober Mom Life, about the culture, conditioning, and emotional underpinnings of alcohol. They unpack everything from mommy wine culture, dude beer culture, and the dark side of normalizing drinking to the marketing tactics increasingly targeting women, how relationships can shift in sobriety, and the freedom, opportunity, and unexpected impact that come from simply not thinking about alcohol. Discussed in this episode:  Mommy Wine Culture vs. Daddy Beer Culture Have We Been Duped? Pink Labels, “Wellness” Wine , and Champagne Yoga 5 Alcohol Myths (and Why Rock Bottom Isn’t Required for The Sober Life) How Alcohol Blocks Intimacy and Connection + Forming Fake Friendships The Impact of Alcohol on Social Anxiety, OCD, and Overall Health “I Know It’s Bad for Me, But Alcohol is What I Look Forward To” What to Ask Yourself About Your First (and Most Recent) Drink Criticism, Pressure, and How Relationships Shift When You Stop Drinking 2 Book Recs, Simple Drink & Lifestyle Swaps, and Exit Plans for Parties The Freedom of Not Thinking About Alcohol (and Its Ripple Effect) ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Is Hangxiety Worth The Buzz?: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/263a8ad9/is-hangxiety-worth-the-buzz Rock Bottom vs. High Bottom and Working The 12 Steps with Amanda Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/237b7862/working-the-12-steps-with-amanda-hill I Quit Drinking And Had The Best Year Ever with Helen Hong: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23e92cd3/how-i-had-the-best-year-ever-with-helen-hong When You're A High Functioning Addict (And Modernizing The 12 Steps) with Dr. Samantha Harte: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/233469a8/when-youre-a-high-functioning-addict-and-modernizing-the-12-steps-with-dr-samantha-harte Coping With Social Anxiety: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22bb89df/coping-with-social-anxiety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with author of Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism, and Beauty Kaila Yu to discuss the dangerous side of fetishization. She shares about the evolving perception of Asian women, the impact of media and representation (or lack thereof), and practical ways to recognize and dismantle harmful patterns. * This episode contains sensitive subject matter. Listener discretion is advised. Discussed in this episode:  Preference vs. Fetish: Where's The Line? The Origin of "Yellow Fever" and Its Impact What Lies Beneath Perceived "Compliments" 4 Asian Tropes in TV, Music, and Film Asian Violence: Past and Present The "Model Minority" and Infighting The Belief That Asian Women Serve 3 Masters The Love Island Incident and Cancel Culture Kaila's Favorites: TV Character & Book Recommendation Addiction, Recovery, and a Healing Routine ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: How Confidence, Culture & Self-Worth Shape Success with Big Asian Energy’s John Wang: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228fec8c/how-confidence-culture-and-self-worth-shape-success-with-big-asian-energys-john-wang “You’re So Sensitive”: Understanding Everyday Microaggressions, Implicit Bias, and Best Practices with Billie Lee & Dr. Gina Torino: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2396d366/youre-so-sensitive-understanding-everyday-microaggressions-implicit-bias-and-best-practices-with-billie-lee-and-dr-gina-torino Cancel Culture vs. Accountability with Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/38432784/cancel-culture-vs-accountability-with-sonya-renee-taylor Exploring Fetishes, Kinks, and Pleasure with Goody Howard: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/234275b9/exploring-fetishes-kinks-and-pleasure-with-goody-howard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Arielle Loupos, founder of Flower Girl, for a revealing look at the hidden toxins in mainstream menstrual products and their impact, the history of “feminine hygiene” marketing, and the safe alternatives everyone should know about. They explore cycle stigma, period traditions, and why rethinking our everyday products is essential for our health. Please share this with the females in your life. ✨ This episode is part of the Self-Helpless “Subscriber Stories” series! Got a story, resource, or experience that could help others? Email selfhelplesspodcast@gmail.com to be considered as a guest. Discussed in this episode:  - 2024 Menstrual Products Study Results - How The Industrial Revolution Changed Periods - Ancient Traditions for Celebrating Cycles - Is The Free Bleed Movement The Future? - Toxic Shock Syndrome Causes and Risks - Tampons, Pads, Cups, Period Underwear - Cramps and Infertility Questions - Postpartum, Perimenopause, and Leaks - Cycle Syncing Tips in the Workplace - Ending Period Stigma (and Starting Young) ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: 20 Documentaries To Watch This Year: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2542cab6/self-helpless-snack-whats-your-favorite-documentary-20-documentaries-to-watch-this-year Hormone Imbalances and Your Menstrual Cycle with Dr. Jolene Brighten: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/c4a75fbe/hormone-imbalances-and-your-menstrual-cycle-with-dr-jolene-brighten UTIs, Interstitial Cystitis, and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction with Dr. Rena Malik: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/1c573a89/utis-interstitial-cystitis-and-pelvic-floor-dysfunction-with-dr-rena-malik Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with bestselling author and artist Rebecca Campbell about how creativity, ritual, and our connection to nature can transform the way we think and feel. They dive into how belief systems shape our health and choices, approaching traditions with mindfulness and respect, and what happens when we start listening to the natural rhythms around us — and within us. Discussed in this episode:  The Question of Free Will Herbalism and Nature-Based Rituals The Rational vs. Intuitive Mind Using Your Skills for What You Love Creativity and Open-mindedness Career Transitions and Sharing Dreams 3 Tips for a Mindful, Respectful Practice A Fresh Way to Use an Oracle Deck Full Circle Life and Career Moments Learning from the Earth's Intelligence ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: Unblock Yourself With These 7 Oracle Deck Prompts with Lucy Sherman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/40ac1320/unblock-yourself-with-these-7-oracle-deck-prompts-with-lucy-sherman Rethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23db0212/rethinking-intuition-belief-and-the-nature-of-reality-with-vincent-genna A Step-By-Step Manifestation Exercise with Intuitive Consultant, Jennifer Wai: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/224cee0c/a-step-by-step-manifestation-exercise-with-intuitive-consultant-jennifer-wai Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation with Trevia Woods: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2505c934/cultural-appropriation-vs-cultural-appreciation-with-trevia-woods Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with board-certified pediatrician Dr. Joel Warsh about vaccines and why it’s crucial to navigate this divisive topic with clarity. They explore vaccine research gaps, misinformation, and what’s taught in medical school, as well as how vaccines are tested, the influence of pharmaceutical companies on healthcare and media, and systemic safety and efficacy concerns. This episode highlights the path to rebuilding public trust and encourages curiosity, open dialogue, and practical solutions on an issue that impacts millions worldwide. Discussed in this episode:  Why People Fear Asking Vaccine Questions What Med School Teaches - and Doesn’t - About Vaccines Vaccine Research Gaps & How Vaccines Are Tested Biggest Parental Concerns: Asthma, Allergies, Autism, SIDS Can Someone Be Allergic to a Vaccine? Studies We Assume Exist, But Don’t How Pharmaceutical Companies Shape Healthcare & Media The Decline of Public Trust in Medicine (and How to Rebuild It) The Double Standard Between Vaccines and Other Products Tylenol During Pregnancy: What You Need to Know --- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: How Alternative Education Saved My Kid: Homeschooling, Microschools, and More with Jennifer Kempin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/254502fe/how-alternative-education-saved-my-kid-homeschooling-microschools-and-more-with-jennifer-kempin 10 Fertility Myths Debunked with OBGYN and Fertility Doctor Natalie Crawford, MD: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23741396/10-fertility-myths-debunked-with-obgyn-and-fertility-doctor-natalie-crawford-md Nervous You'll Mess Up Your Kids? Remember These 3 Things with Dr. Sahar Martinez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21863951/self-helpless-snack-nervous-youll-mess-up-your-kids-remember-these-3-things-with-dr-sahar-martinez 3 Big Misconceptions About Adopting A Child with Adoption Attorney, Lucrece Bundy: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/231c9085/self-helpless-snack-3-big-misconceptions-about-adopting-a-child-with-adoption-attorney-lucrece-bundy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer is sharing some updates and announcements about the podcast including why you can no longer find Self-Helpless on social media, how you can count on the podcast for your commutes, tasks, and bedtime existential crisis even more regularly, and some exciting new features and opportunities. Everything discussed in this episode can be found at www.selfhelplesspodcast.com ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: "Subscriber Stories" Submissions (Instructions, Tips, and More): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/238bc48c/subscriber-stories-submissions-now-open-instructions-tips-and-more Breakup Recovery, Toxic Behavior, and Relationship Lessons with Em Schulz & Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/330eb6cf/breakup-recovery-toxic-behavior-and-relationship-lessons-with-em-schulz-and-delanie-fischer The Future of Mental Health and Medicine: Psychedelic Therapy, Technology, and Ancient Healing with Dr. Dave Rabin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/f08920eb/the-future-of-mental-health-and-medicine-psychedelic-therapy-technology-and-ancient-healing-with-dr-dave-rabin AI, Robotics, and The Future of Work and Life with Dr. Catie Cuan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2458ba1f/ai-robotics-and-the-future-of-work-and-life-with-dr-catie-cuan Making World History with Cattle Rancher Turned Sanctuary Founder, Renee King-Sonnen; https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23a747f0/making-world-history-with-cattle-rancher-turned-sanctuary-founder-renee-king-sonnen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Gen X viral content creator and entrepreneur Sherri Dindal about midlife transformation — diving into the fluidity of identity, purpose, and the realities of reinvention. Sherri opens up about her bold career pivot in her 40s, leaving behind a 26-year career as a corporate investigator to pursue entrepreneurship, and how she’s released the baggage of societal expectations while redefining what work, aging, and success truly mean to her. Discussed in this episode:  Why Staying Loyal to a Company Might Screw You Hitting the Wall of Dread and Exhaustion in Your Job Corporate Stress vs. Entrepreneurial Stress What Does “Old” Even Look Like — and Who Says? How Media Shapes Our Perception of Aging The Evolution of "Retirement" and What it Means Now What Sherri (52) Wishes She Knew at Delanie's Age (35) The First Steps Sherri Took to Build Her Business Guidance for Creators (Social Media or Otherwise) You're Never Too Old (or Too Late) to Reinvent Yourself --- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davis Mortality Awareness: Meaning, Motivation, and Your To-Die-For Life with Karen Salmansohn: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2367345e/mortality-awareness-meaning-motivation-and-your-to-die-for-life-with-karen-salmansohn It's Not Too Late To Start with Jared Champion: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23f7190f/its-not-too-late-to-start-with-jared-champion Is The "Dream Job" Concept A Lie? What To Look For Instead + Tips For Transitioning with HR Expert Shelby McGuire Canlas: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2279bacd/is-the-dream-job-concept-a-lie-what-to-look-for-instead-tips-for-transitioning-with-hr-expert-shelby-mcguire-canlas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Kelsey Perry about her experience living and working abroad in New Zealand through a Working Holiday Visa. Kelsey shares practical travel tips, different visa options, and advice for finding accommodations and seasonal work. She also breaks down what to consider when preparing (and packing) for a big international move. Whether you’re heading to New Zealand or planning to live abroad anywhere in the world, this episode is packed with helpful insights, hacks, and inspiration. ✨ This episode is part of the Self-Helpless “Subscriber Stories” series! Got a story, resource, or experience that could help others? Email selfhelplesspodcast@gmail.com to be considered as a guest. Discussed in this episode:  Working Holiday Visa and Student Internship Visa How To Choose Between Destinations WWOOFing, Workaway, and HelpX Interview, Resume, Cover Letter , and Networking Tips A Fun Job for Lord of the Rings Fans (Hobbiton!) A Passport Detail Travelers Often Overlook 10 Things Most Don't Consider Before Moving Abroad Kelsey's Favorite Travel Quote 5 Logistics Tips for Prepping and Packing A Creative Way To Bring Sentimental Items With You --- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: Lessons Learned From 5 Years of RV Life with Jamie Feinberg: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23bebe71/lessons-learned-from-5-years-of-rv-life-with-jamie-feinberg Get Unstuck And Think Globally: Tips For Living, Working, And Traveling Abroad with Will Mulford: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/234d73dc/get-unstuck-and-think-globally-tips-for-living-working-and-traveling-abroad-with-will-mulford Our Favorite Travel Hacks with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/c8333c47/our-favorite-travel-hacks-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer How To Crush The Job Search (Even If You Feel Like Crap) with HR Expert Shelby McGuire Canlas: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21ce2f57/how-to-crush-the-job-search-even-if-you-feel-like-sht-with-hr-expert-shelby-mcguire-canlas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting these over-functioning behaviors to let go of what’s not your responsibility—freeing up your time and energy while empowering those around you. Discussed in this episode:  Busting The Biggest Codependency Myth Hyper-Independence and Anticipatory Planning Auto Advice-Giving and The Auto-Yes Taking Your Resentment Inventory Let Them Be The Hero of Their Story Escaping the Cult of Nice 5 Scripts for Setting New Boundaries How To Identify a Transference Primary vs. Secondary Gain 8 Questions to Ask Before You Fix or Rescue --- If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ---- Episodes related to this topic: What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez⁠ 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain The Real Reason Women Don't Trust Themselves With Money (And How They Actually Spend It): ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/20bc245f/self-helpless-snack-the-real-reason-women-dont-trust-themselves-with-money-and-how-they-actually-spend-it⁠ Exposing False Choices, Narratives, and Pulling Wisdom From Wounds with Dr. Thema Bryant: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/26cdb69d/exposing-false-choices-narratives-and-pulling-wisdom-from-wounds-with-dr-thema-bryant Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Elliott Connie, Psychotherapist and renowned leader in the field of Solution Focused Brief Therapy, about shifting the questions we ask ourselves in order to transform our lives. They discuss the difference between comfort and happiness, how to go deeper in times of indecision and struggle, and simple practices and rituals that create lasting change. Discussed in this episode:  SFBT and The Diamond Approach Rejecting Perfect Timing Syndrome  Has What You Want Changed? And Can You Trust It? The Worst Question We Ask Ourselves Comfort vs. Happiness (and Why Comfort Can Kill Us) Will Therapy As We Know It Become Obsolete? Can't Do It In The Ideal Way? Do It A Little Bit. What's Your Version of Sunday Pizza Night? Capitalism, Social Media & Pursuing What Matters The Toughest Life Lesson Elliott's Learned ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you in some way, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416 Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/ Ad-free episodes now available on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com ---- Episodes related to this topic: Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell 10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c60009/10-fascinating-tricks-for-more-wins-and-improved-well-being-with-janice-kaplan Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, about confidence, culture, and the power of conversation. They unpack how cultural conditioning, fear, and the desire to be "good enough” shape identity and self-worth. John shares the lessons he learned from his year-long experiment in radical honesty—during which he came clean to friends and family about past lies and committed to always speaking his mind in every interaction—and reflects on how this experience led to deeper connections and a new way of being. Discussed in this episode:  What Is Charisma, Gravitas, and Executive Presence?  Biases, Stereotypes, Discrimination, and Coded Language  Asian American Culture and the Workplace  Fear of Conflict, Confrontation, and Avoidance  The 1 Year of Radical Honesty Experiment 7 Adaptive Patterns: Achiever, Fixer, Chameleon, Charmer, Commander, Rebel, Invisible One  The Belief Behind Your Behavior and The Fear (and Illusion) of Death  Rejection as Redirection to Alignment + Finding Community and Belonging  The Achievement Monster & How To Get off the Treadmill  Internal vs. External Validation & When Affirmations Don’t Work (Try This) Self-Worth and Creating Your Own Metric for Success  High-Context vs. Low-Context Conversation  Self-Diminishment vs. Respecting Cultural Norms  The 6 Levels of Mitigating Language (Great for Baby Steps!) Saying No, Giving Direct Feedback & Becoming More Assertive  ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you in some way, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven't already) means so much!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416 Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/ Ad-free episodes now available on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com ---- Episodes related to this topic: “You’re So Sensitive”: Understanding Everyday Microaggressions, Implicit Bias, and Best Practices with Billie Lee & Dr. Gina Torino: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2396d366/youre-so-sensitive-understanding-everyday-microaggressions-implicit-bias-and-best-practices-with-billie-lee-and-dr-gina-torino How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head (And How To Get It Out) with Kara Loewentheil: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23318969/how-a-sexist-society-gets-in-your-head-and-how-to-get-it-out-with-kara-loewentheil Why You Became A People-Pleaser: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/27c52c66/why-you-became-a-people-pleaser Mortality Awareness: Meaning, Motivation, and Your To-Die-For Life with Karen Salmansohn: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2367345e/mortality-awareness-meaning-motivation-and-your-to-die-for-life-with-karen-salmansohn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Em Schulz, co-host of And That’s Why We Drink and one of Delanie’s best buds, to discuss past heartbreak, healing from breakups, and what they wish they would’ve known - like how to avoid tolerating, and dishing out, toxic behavior. Having been with their current partners for nearly a decade, they share their perspective on what’s led to the most relationship growth.  Plus: + 8 Things To Try During A Breakup (Weird Stuff Works)  + The Worst Things They’ve Done In Relationships  + Healthy Partnership, Marriage, and Personal Growth  Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Your Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealto The Psychology of Infidelity: Why People Cheat, Non-Monogamy vs. Monogamy, and Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Tara: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24240595/the-psychology-of-infidelity-why-people-cheat-non-monogamy-vs-monogamy-and-sexual-mindfulness-with-dr-tara Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frew Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Chika Uwazie, writer, cultural commentator, and someone instrumental in amplifying the soft life movement, to discuss life transitions, normalizing pivots, and prioritizing presence, rest, and joy along the way. They discuss timeline grief (when life doesn't go as planned), rebuilding and reinventing yourself as needed, and embracing who you truly are vs. who you've been told to be. Plus: + Lessons: The 20s and 30s (and Hopes for the 40s) + 2 Questions To Ask Yourself When You're Stuck + Your Phone Doesn't Have To Be Your Morning Routine Self-Helpless on Patreon: ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer: ⁠⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠⁠ EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: How To Crush The Job Search (Even If You Feel Like Crap) with HR Expert Shelby McGuire Canlas: ⁠⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21ce2f57/how-to-crush-the-job-search-even-if-you-feel-like-sht-with-hr-expert-shelby-mcguire-canlas⁠⁠ It's Not Too Late To Start with Jared Champion: ⁠⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23f7190f/its-not-too-late-to-start-with-jared-champion⁠⁠ How To Let Your Ideal Lifestyle Inspire Your Next Step with Olivia Mulford: ⁠⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24291d42/self-helpless-snack-how-to-let-your-ideal-lifestyle-inspire-your-next-step-with-olivia-mulford⁠⁠ Hurry Sickness And The Busy Brain Cure with Dr. Romie Mushtaq: ⁠⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/243d15fa/hurry-sickness-and-the-busy-brain-cure-with-dr-romie-mushtaq Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Dave Rabin, board-certified psychiatrist, translational neuroscientist, and inventor, to discuss the future of mental health and medicine. They discuss the efficacy of psychedelic-assisted therapy, technological therapeutics, ancient modalities, and ground-breaking discoveries about consciousness. * This episode is not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult your doctor to determine which therapeutic practices are appropriate for you. Plus: + The Root of Mental Illness, Epigenetics, Trauma, and Consciousness + Psychedelics & Medications: Psilocybin, Ketamine, MDMA, and SSRIs + Near-Death Experiences, Synchronicities, and Extrasensory Ability Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Depression and Serotonin Syndrome with Dr. Tracey Marks: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/36a8f408/depression-and-serotonin-syndrome-with-dr-tracey-marks Rethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23db0212/rethinking-intuition-belief-and-the-nature-of-reality-with-vincent-genna 7 Reasons Why You May Have Insomnia (And How To Treat It) with Dr. Brian F. Licuanan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/215f937b/7-reasons-why-you-may-have-insomnia-and-how-to-treat-it-with-dr-brian-f-licuanan 20+ Years Thriving with Stage IV Cancer with Kris Carr: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22f2b084/20-years-thriving-with-stage-iv-cancer-with-kris-carr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Brittany Moore, who shares her experience being married to Steve Moore, a past guest on Self-Helpless and someone who has struggled with porn addiction (and now helps others overcome it). She describes how she found out, the impact it’s had on her, and where her and Steve are now after 20 years of marriage. Plus: + The Unexpected Way Brittany Found Out  + The Signs She Noticed But Didn’t Understand + Potential Isn’t Enough, You Need This Too Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Is It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastleman 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain Sex and Love Addiction with Sex Addiction Therapist, Alex Katehakis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/316e9795/sex-and-love-addiction-with-sex-addiction-therapist-alex-katehakis When You're A High Functioning Addict (And Modernizing The 12 Steps) with Dr. Samantha Harte: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/233469a8/when-youre-a-high-functioning-addict-and-modernizing-the-12-steps-with-dr-samantha-harte Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Judy Ho, licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, tenured professor at Pepperdine University, and TV host, about attention-seeking behavior. They take a deep dive into one common type, sympathy-seeking, to explore its root causes, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy attention-seeking, and share practical tips for approaching conversations with empathy. Plus: + Breakdown of 6 Common Attention-Seeking Behaviors + The Biggest Myth About Neuroplasticity—Busted + 15 Tips: Self-Auditing, Parenting, and Tough Conversations Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez 15 Signs of Emotional Abuse with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/246a6f64/self-helpless-snack-15-signs-of-emotional-abuse-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Delanie Fischer chats with actor and filmmaker Kit Williamson, best known for Mad Men, Eastsiders, and Unconventional , about the ebbs and flows of a long-term creative career. They dive into the resilience and recommitment required for longevity, navigating big breaks and dead projects, exercising creative agency, and behind-the-scenes insights into filmmaking. Plus: + The Process of Selling a Project vs. Creating a World + Avoiding Perfection Paralysis and Releasing Shame + Repurposing, Financing, and Getting Resourceful Unconventional: https://www.revry.tv/originals/unconventional?srsltid=AfmBOoqpHDsMf__K9un9PxTtwQO4rU5U2HGBxcf4lpN7JgG1bcpS429h Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: We Need Your Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-fcking-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcnee It's Not Too Late To Start with Jared Champion: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23f7190f/its-not-too-late-to-start-with-jared-champion Q&A: Publishing, Podcasting, and Creative Entrepreneurship with Literary Agent Lindsey Smith and Podcaster Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23bfb9d7/qanda-publishing-podcasting-and-creative-entrepreneurship-with-literary-agent-lindsey-smith-and-podcaster-delanie-fischer Making Less And Living More with Creator of Lore and Lust Karla Nikole: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24656068/making-less-and-living-more-with-creator-of-lore-and-lust-karla-nikole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices