🎙️ EPISODE 7 — Kamusta, Kaibigan? | Self Talk with Ken-Ken Somera
This episode took months to record—literally. Not because I didn’t want to, but because I kept skipping it on my to-do list.
And ironically, that’s exactly what we talk about here:
✅ Delayed actions
✅ Unprocessed thoughts
✅ And how to finally show up when your mind's been overthinking the whole time.
This isn’t a scripted, sugarcoated monologue.
This is a raw, real-time check-in—with myself… and with you.
Inside this comeback episode:
Why most people can’t speak up around authority figures—and what to do about it
The missing skill in sales and interviews (Hint: It’s not confidence. It’s pattern exposure)
How betrayal affects trust—and the real reason mentors get burned
That awkward moment when you coach better than you record content 😅
Why your 1-2-3-count method might just be your next productivity hack
What to do when your thoughts run faster than your actions
PLUS: Are you being too nice… or just setting yourself up for emotional blackmail?
This episode is your permission slip to pause, reflect, and restart—without waiting to “feel ready.”
🎧 Listen in if:
You’ve been meaning to do something for months (and it still haunts your task list)
You’re a coach, creator, or leader who gives too much—but rarely checks in with yourself
You’re craving real talk on confidence, communication, and the psychology of action
📌 Self Talk isn’t just a podcast. It’s a mental mirror.
So ask yourself: Kamusta ka na, kaibigan?
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🔥 Got questions or coaching topics you want me to dive into next?
Send me a DM or comment below. Your question might just be the next episode.
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#10 NLP Series – Modeling in Neuro-Linguistic Programming with Dr. Strix Toledo
Welcome to Episode 10 of the Self Talk Podcast, hosted by Ken-ken Somera, a certified NLP coach and master practitioner! In this special episode, we explore one of the most powerful yet often overlooked techniques in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP): "MODELING"
Joining us is Dr. Strix Toledo, a physician, clarity coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and NLP Master Practitioner. Dr. Toledo specializes in helping individuals and professionals enhance productivity, overcome procrastination, and develop a success-driven mindset.
🔍 What You'll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ (06:56) – What is NLP? Understanding the foundation of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
⏳ (07:50) – NLP Modeling: The Art of Skill Transfer – How top performers replicate excellence.
⏳ (13:38) – How to Model Success in Any Skill – Creating step-by-step, teachable frameworks.
⏳ (21:24) – The Origins of NLP Modeling – Insights from Bandler, Grinder, and Milton Erickson.
⏳ (25:10) – Practical Examples of Modeling – From pain management to elite performance.
⏳ (29:47) – The Power of Immersion Learning – How copying experts can accelerate your growth.
⏳ (39:00) – Selective Modeling – Learn from the best while discarding limiting traits.
⏳ (46:22) – How to Apply NLP Techniques for Self-Image & Confidence – Future pacing and visualization.
🎯 Key Takeaways:
✅ NLP Modeling is the ultimate "cheat code" to mastering new skills.
✅ Curiosity is at the heart of NLP—find, observe, and absorb excellence.
✅ You can model greatness without inheriting someone’s struggles.
✅ Application is key – practice first, then personalize.
This episode is packed with insights that can transform how you learn, grow, and succeed in any field. Whether you're in leadership, sales, personal development, or just looking to improve yourself, NLP Modeling can unlock your full potential.
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🔗 Connect with us:
📌 Ken Ken: https://www.facebook.com/kenkensomeratraining
📌 Dr. Strix Toledo: https://www.facebook.com/sanstrix
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Wala ka nanamang FOCUS?! Self:Talk with Ken-ken Somera Episode #9 FOCUS, ADHD, SHINY OBJECTS, MULTI-TASKING, MOTIVATION - Discussion with Dr. Strix Toledo In this episode, Ken-ken Somera and Dr. Strix Toledo explore the nature of focus, the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD, the pitfalls of multitasking, and the role of motivation in driving progress. They emphasize the importance of subtracting distractions, creating effective systems, and finding motivation within personal progress. Here's a detailed overview of the things we've discussed for this episode * Dr. Strix Toledo is recognized for expertise in productivity, clarity of mind, and focus. He has conducted workshops focused on improving focus planning, which is held annually in December and January. * Focus is explained as the process of removing unnecessary elements and distractions to concentrate on a single task or objective. It involves subtracting attention from non-essential matters. * The hosts discuss their own experiences with focus, mentioning that concentration was a challenge for them while growing up. * The misconception of focus is highlighted, where many people assume it's about narrowing attention to a single point, but Dr. Toledo clarifies that it involves removing attention from irrelevant areas, leaving only what's essential. * The hosts share insights about how focusing on one task at a time is more effective than attempting to multitask. Multitasking is described as focusing on one signal while relegating other tasks to the background as noise. * The concept of "shiny object syndrome" is introduced, suggesting that the allure of new and exciting things often distracts people from their main objectives. * Individuals who struggle with ADHD are often chastised for being lazy or unfocused. Dr. Toledo suggests that creating systems with environmental cues can help those with ADHD maintain focus. * Strategies for helping individuals with ADHD include breaking tasks into smaller steps and using external cues or reminders to keep them on track. * We talked about motivation and its connection to progress. We shared the viewpoint that progress is a strong motivator, and that focusing on making continuous improvements leads to sustained motivation. * Dr. Toledo emphasizes that motivation is not solely an external force, but rather, people should seek motivation within themselves by recognizing the progress they make. ============ Learn more with SELF:TALK with Ken-ken Somera More episodes here (Easy access links below!) Spotify: bit.ly/SelfTalkWithKenkenSomera_Spotify Apple Podcast: bit.ly/SelfTalkWithKenkenSomera_Apple Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkkgheXJH_LcMbw5kELthkmmvqx4d5hEV -------------------------------------- For 1 on 1 Coaching / Mentoring / Training in regards to * Confidence Building * Improving Communication * Persuasion and Sales * NLP and Hypnotherapy Feel free to connect with me on Facebook https://facebook.com/kenkensomera
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Episode #8
I've gotten the chance to interview one of my mentors in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Coaching!
Manila NLP / John Boja" is one of the top mentors I know in regards to NLP here in the Philippines who started practicing NLP during the 80's, He trained with people who created and developed NLP. He coached executives from high technology companies in California like HP, Yahoo, Apple and Seagate. He already coached well known personalities, politicians and people from different all walks of life to achieve great success in life.
Let's get to know more of his experience and insights
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Here's an overview of what was covered this Episode
💎John Boja's personal journey with NLP showcases how it provided him with practical instructions on how to bring about change in his life and overcome self-sabotaging behaviors.
💎NLP, as John describes, offers language patterns and techniques that are useful in sales, persuasion, and communication. It has found application in various fields, including politics, law, and business.
💎John highlights the importance of mastering the foundational aspects of NLP before advancing to higher levels of training, emphasizing the value of practical experience and implementation.
💎He mentions that the inner dialogue or self-talk within individuals can play a significant role in their actions and decision-making. Understanding and managing this internal dialogue can lead to more constructive behaviors.
💎John discusses the significance of setting specific, ambitious, and realistic goals, accompanied by actionable plans and evidence of progress. He suggests that effective goal-setting involves considering timelines and engaging in consistent effort and activity.
💎Addressing the concept of multiple internal parts, John explains that individuals may have conflicting aspects within themselves, such as the desire for success and fear of failure. Recognizing and reconciling these parts can contribute to personal growth and achievement.
💎John advises individuals who may feel lost or uncertain about their direction in life to stay physically active, as the mind and body are interconnected. Maintaining an active and healthy lifestyle can positively impact mental well-being and combat depression.
💎He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and planning for potential challenges and setbacks when pursuing goals. Incorporating strategies to overcome obstacles and staying positive amidst difficulties can lead to greater resilience and success.
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""LIMIT" IS A WORD THAT LIMITS YOU"
“I CAN’T do this”
“I’m NOT good enough”
“WHO am I to do this?”
Lagi mo bang sinasabi ‘yan sa sarili mo? but if you think about it...
"WHAT IF YOU’RE WRONG?"
Leeeeeeeet's gooooooo deeeeppeeeeerrrrr
Come and Join us with our first interview session
We go inside the mind of Productivity and Transformative coach, speaker, trainer, and good friend, Dr. Strix Toledo.
Alamin natin kung paano makakatulong sa atin ang mga bagay na ‘to:
* Work through your LIMITING BELIEFS and NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
* Ano ba ang FEAR? At pwede ba ito ma-UNLEARN?
* INSIGHTS and how a fresh new thought can help you get to change
How do you make decisions?
Ano ano nga ba yung mga influence sa paligid mo?
Notice that there are people who set trends and are naturally charismatic
Ano meron sa kanila?
Think about how social media influences your choices
and manage what you subconsciously communicate
All these in this coming episode entitled "INFLUENCE"
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SHORTCUTS, TIPS, TRICKS, TECHNIQUES!
It's always nice to have an understanding of these
these can help us with reaching our goals faster
If you know a shortcut would you use it?
Malaking bagay din yung nasasave mong TIME if you had one, Right??!
Having more than one TOOL / OPTION may help us create better decisions rather than just having one option or NO OPTION at all.
Tara! Come and join us in this episode as we talk about having your unfair advantages, an edge over your competition, and knowing the importance of having more (advanced) tools (o tools o techniques na hindi pa alam ng karamihan) to your ADVANTAGE!
If you think about it, what's stopping you from using these new-age tools like AI (Chatgpt)? When most people are already taking advantage of it already ;)
With listening to this podcast, I'll just repeat one thing. ADAPTABILITY and remember, if you have more options you can better adapt to things! Cheers!
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Who are you?
- in front of your friends?
- in front of your family?
- in front of your coworkers?
- in front of your relatives?
Who are you when you're alone?
“Sino ka nga ba talaga?” (In a general sense)
A simple question, yet, ang daming tao ang hindi sigurado sa sagot sa tanong na ‘to.
Tara, pag-usapan natin:
“What makes you YOU?”
And
How we can be our “AUTHENTIC SELF"
At kung nakatulong ang episode na‘to sayo to gain clarity, always remember to share to your family and friends para makatulong ka din sa kanila at maka pag spread tayo ng awareness
"When we become more aware of things, We also gain the power to change things"
- What makes you YOU?
- How to unleash your authentic self?
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"I can't do it!"
"kulang ako ng confidence"
"Nahihiya ako eh"
Most of the time we miss opportunities because we're not confident.
Today we will center on just that.
"Confidence"
If you think about it,
* Ano nga ba ang confidence para sayo?
* Kailangan ba talaga natin ang confidence?
* Saan ba nakukuha ang confidence?
* Ano nga ba ang mga nagpapababa ng confidence ko sa sarili ko?
Allow this Episode to help you be more aware of what you're capable of.
Let's discuss some techniques and approaches to build your confidence
and
Basahin mo ulit yung title
"Becoming MORE Confident"
yes you've read that right, YOU ALREADY HAVE THE CONFIDENCE INSIDE YOU
take the lessons here and use it
and be MORE!
You deserve it!
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As we can both agree that WORDS HAVE POWER
We begin with understanding how we can have more control over our lives by managing our thoughts.
In this pilot episode, i-establish natin yung mga importante
* Learning how can we use our words to motivate us
* Noticing kung paano tayo naaapektohan ng mga salita na ginagamit natin at binabato sa atin
* Creating more options and strategies to have better control over situations
* Having higher levels of thinking and decision making
Let's go beyond podcasts and mix behavior programming tools like Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy to work with our subconscious mind and be better versions of ourselves
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Personal development is one of the key ingredients to success which involves developing mindsets to find yourself and regain your confidence through thought-provoking questions.
Join NLP Practitioner and Conversational Hypnotherapist, Ken-ken Somera each Friday as he helps you align your subconscious mind to awaken your true potential and create better options for yourself.
Each episode contains transformational topics revolving around leadership, persuasion, negotiation and positive mental health. He will also be interviewing key thought leaders in relative fields to give more insight on said topics.
Our main goal is to create a better thought process to help you manage your emotions.
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