⚠️ Trigger Warning
This episode contains discussions around toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised.
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin Taylor, a mindset and nervous system regulation coach, to explore the realities of toxic and abusive relationships.
Together, they unpack why emotional abuse can be so difficult to recognise and leave, how narcissistic traits and love bombing show up in relationships, and why the question “Why don’t they just leave?” oversimplifies a deeply complex situation. Erin shares insights from her work supporting people in domestic abuse situations, highlighting the emotional, financial, and nervous system factors that keep people stuck.
The conversation also focuses on healing after abuse — from rebuilding self-trust and independence to regulating the nervous system through breath work and meditation. Erin introduces her membership Regulate, designed to support emotional healing, safety, and self-discovery.
This episode is a compassionate, informative listen for anyone questioning a relationship, healing from emotional abuse, or wanting to better understand toxic dynamics.
🆘 Support Resources
If this episode brings up anything difficult for you, please consider reaching out for support:
Ireland
Women’s Aid National Freephone: 1800 341 900
24/7 Online Chat: womensaid.ie
Emergency: 999 or 112
UK
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
Website: nationaldahelpline.org.uk
International
Love Is Respect: loveisrespect.org
Find local helplines worldwide: hotpeachpages.net
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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📲 Follow Erin on Instagram: @iamerintaylor
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A new year can feel like pressure- or it can be permission to reinvent yourself!
In Episode 27 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly reflects on the past year and guides listeners through a grounded, empowering approach to setting intentions for the year ahead. Whether you’re navigating breakup recovery, redefining your identity, or simply craving a reset, this episode is about creating clarity, balance, and momentum — without overwhelm.
Kelly explores practical tools like the Wheel of Life, SMART goals, manifestation with action, and the power of self-love, gratitude, and accountability. This episode encourages listeners to stop waiting for the “perfect version” of themselves and start building a life that feels aligned, intentional, and supportive — one step at a time.
You won't become someone new over night but you'll become more you!
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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Christmas week can be a vulnerable time after a breakup — emotions are heightened, loneliness feels louder, and old memories can creep back in. In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores one of the most common (and complicated) questions people ask during a breakup: Should I get back with my ex?
Kelly unpacks the difference between missing someone and missing connection, and why reconciliation should never be a reaction to loneliness, nostalgia, or fear. This episode invites listeners to slow down, reflect honestly, and assess whether getting back together would actually create emotional safety, trust, and long-term fulfillment — or simply repeat old patterns.
Kelly walks through the key questions you need to ask yourself before reopening the door to a past relationship, including why the breakup happened, whether anything has truly changed, and how to identify red flags versus green flags in a potential reconnection. She also encourages listeners to define their ideal partner and to prioritise their own happiness, growth, and future — especially during emotionally charged times of year.
This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not the same as giving up on love.
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Heartbreak has a way of shaking your identity, your confidence, and your sense of direction but what if it’s also the beginning of something bigger?
In Episode 25 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Caroline McKenna, author of Breakups to Breakthroughs, to explore how heartbreak can become a powerful catalyst for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth.
Caroline shares her own journey through a painful breakup that forced her to slow down, feel her emotions, and completely re-evaluate who she was outside of a relationship. Together, Kelly and Caroline unpack why breakups can feel as devastating as a bereavement, how identity often becomes entangled with partnership, and why rushing the healing process can do more harm than good.
The conversation dives into attachment styles, how they shape our relationship patterns, and why understanding them can bring clarity and compassion — both for ourselves and our exes. They also explore the theory of the three loves, helping listeners reframe past relationships without romanticising them or seeing them as failures.
This episode is a reminder that being single — especially in your 30s — is not something to “fix,” but something that can be deeply fulfilling. From mindset shifts and emotional processing to trusting the timing of your life, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective, and hope for anyone navigating heartbreak or learning how to thrive on their own.
If you’re going through a breakup, questioning your path, or learning how to trust yourself again, this episode will help you see that healing doesn’t mean going backwards — it often means stepping into something better.
✨ In This Episode, We Cover:
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📲 Follow Caroline on Instagram & TikTok: @acountydownunder
🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree
In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly Hunt dives into the reality of being single during Christmas—a time when emotions feel louder, memories feel sharper, and comparison hits harder than ever. Whether you’re navigating your first Christmas post-breakup or your fifth, this episode offers the validation, grounding, and practical support you need.
Kelly explores the emotional weight of “this time last year” thoughts, the triggers of festive couple content, and why loneliness tends to spike during the holiday season. She also shares ways to create your own Christmas magic, reconnect with yourself, and soften the sting of missing someone who used to be part of your traditions.
This episode is your warm, honest, no-BS reminder that being single at Christmas is not a failure — it’s a season you can move through with intention, compassion, and even joy.
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly opens Season Three by tackling one of the most gut-wrenching parts of heartbreak: when your ex moves on before you.
Whether you found out through social media, mutual friends, or pure accident, that moment hits like a punch to the chest. Kelly breaks down why this triggers panic, intrusive thoughts, comparison spirals, and the sudden fear that “I’ve been replaced.”
Rather than focusing on the other person, this episode helps you understand your nervous system, your emotions, and why this moment does not mean you’ve lost, failed, or fallen behind.
Kelly explains:
💛 Why your brain spirals into “what does this mean?”
💛 Why your ex moving on isn’t evidence that they’re happier
💛 How avoidant or unhealed partners often jump into something new as a distraction
💛 Why the person who sits with their pain actually heals deeper
💛 How to avoid making their new relationship about you
💛 And how to re-centre yourself when your confidence is shaken
This episode is your reminder that your healing isn’t a race, your worth hasn’t been touched, and someone else’s relationship is not a reflection of your value.
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this powerful episode, Kelly sits down with Orla Foster — therapist, coach & specialist in helping women recover from toxic and narcissistic relationships.
Orla opens up about her own journey through toxic dynamics and how it shaped her mission to support women rebuilding their self-worth. Together, Kelly and Orla unpack:
The subtle signs of toxic relationships
What narcissistic traits actually look like in real life
How emotional abuse erodes confidence and identity
Why shame belongs to the abuser, not the survivor
How to stop repeating patterns with emotionally unavailable partners
The role of therapy, coaching, meditation, and support systems in long-term healing
This episode is a reminder that healing is possible, support is available & nobody has to navigate toxic relationship recovery alone.
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree
✨ Connect with Orla Foster:
Instagram: Orla_Foster_
Podcast: Because I Loved Myself First
📚 Resources for Support:
• Women’s Aid (Ireland) — https://www.womensaid.ie
• Samaritans — https://www.samaritans.org
• Therapy Directory — https://www.psychologytoday.com
In Episode 21 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the messiest — but most transformative — parts of healing after a breakup:
the post-breakup clear out.
From physical belongings to photos, social media, and the sentimental bits that keep you emotionally tied to your ex, Kelly breaks down exactly how to navigate the clear-out stage without spiraling… or sobbing over a hoodie.
Kelly shares her own experiences from the end of her marriage and her most recent relationship — the anger, the awkwardness, the redecorating, the archiving, the box-in-the-storage-room era — and the strategies she used to reclaim her space and identity.
You’ll learn why clearing out your ex’s belongings isn’t erasing your past — it’s creating space for your future. She also breaks down why archiving photos is better than keeping them visible, how social media prolongs heartache, why blocking is a form of self-respect, and how your algorithm can either help you heal or keep you stuck.
The episode ends with a powerful Where Is She Now? listener story — a woman blindsided by a breakup who rebuilt her life, found peace, and realised she was never the problem.
This episode is a must-listen if you’re heartbroken, stuck, or procrastinating the clear-out that you know you need to do.
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this episode, Kelly dives into the viral Vogue article titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” and unpacks what this cultural shift really means for women navigating modern dating and healing.
Kelly explores why being in a relationship, something once seen as a badge of honour, now feels complicated or even “uncool” in certain spaces. From social media “soft launches” to the fear of losing your independence, she breaks down how culture, healing, and self-worth intersect when it comes to love.
This episode challenges listeners to question why they want a relationship, whether they’re choosing love from wholeness or from fear, and how to avoid performing relationships for social media validation.
Because at the end of the day- wanting love isn’t embarrassing. Losing yourself for it is.
📖 Read the original Vogue article: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? (Vogue)
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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Takeaways
💬 The Vogue article explores how “being partnered” no longer defines women the way it once did.
💬 Some women now hide or “soft launch” their relationships due to cultural shifts in how we see commitment.
💬 There’s a fine line between empowerment and emotional avoidance when it comes to staying single.
💬 Being single isn’t automatically “healed” — and being partnered isn’t automatically “lost.”
💬 You can want love and still prioritise self-awareness, boundaries, and growth.
Keywords
Vogue, relationships, dating, single, breakup healing, attachment styles, modern love, self-worth, emotional growth, identity, feminism, independence, social media, self-discovery, dating culture
In this heartfelt episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with yoga teacher Gráinne to explore her journey through heartbreak, healing & the realities of co-parenting after separation.
Gráinne opens up about the emotional challenges of her breakup- from anger and hurt to rediscovering herself as both a woman and a mother. She shares how she learned to separate personal emotions from parenting responsibilities, the importance of communication with her ex-partner & how she found joy again through yoga, self-care & moments of independence.
Together, Kelly and Gráinne dive deep into what it really means to rebuild after a breakup when children are involved, how to find balance, create new boundaries & redefine happiness on your own terms.
Whether you’re co-parenting, navigating a separation, or simply learning to start over, this episode is a grounded, hopeful reminder that healing is always possible & you can thrive, not just survive.
Connect
💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.
If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.
Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.
This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.
Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healing
How to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they were
Why we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)
The power of no contact and creating emotional distance
How to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreak
What avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love
💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment?
Email info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.
If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.
She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.
This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimism
Because you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.
Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.
💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com
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What do you do when your husband cheats, your next boyfriend dumps you before your big Europe trip & life completely implodes?
If you’re Gabrielle Stone, you buy a plane ticket, grab your journal & write a book about it that becomes a global phenomenon!
In this week’s episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with actress, author & queen of heartbreak-to-healing, Gabrielle Stone, to talk about everything from betrayal & love bombing to solo travel & the infamous Self-Love Cocktail.
Together, they dive into:
✨ The messy truth about healing (spoiler: it’s not linear)
✨ How to stop confusing love bombing for real connection
✨ Why solo travel is the ultimate breakup glow-up
✨ The importance of self-awareness and owning your patterns
✨ How to turn rejection into redirection & pain into purpose
This episode is equal parts therapy session and girls’ night- complete with laughter, brutal honesty & the reminder that the person you really need to fall in love with is you.
So grab your matcha (or a cocktail) & get ready to feel seen, empowered & maybe even inspired to book that solo trip!
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode)
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
In this episode, Kelly shares her personal journey through relationships, focusing on the lessons learned from her past mistakes. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, taking responsibility for one's actions & the need for personal growth after breakups. Kelly reflects on her experiences with anxiety, trust issues & the challenges of maintaining a sense of self-worth in relationships. She emphasises the significance of setting boundaries, recognising red flags & the journey towards healing & independence. Ultimately, Kelly encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences & to embrace the lessons learned from their past.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Takeaways
Kelly reflects on her past relationships and the lessons learned.
Self-awareness and taking responsibility are crucial for growth.
Anxious attachment styles can impact relationships significantly.
Trust issues often stem from insecurity and paranoia.
Reassurance should come from within, not solely from partners.
Avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues in relationships.
Having an identity outside of a relationship is essential.
Recognising red flags is important for future relationships.
Shame can be transformed into valuable lessons for personal growth.
Healing involves compassion for oneself and understanding past behaviours.
In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly discusses the often-taboo subject of divorce in Ireland, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She explores the stigma surrounding divorce, the legal processes involved, & the differences between legal separation and divorce. Kelly also highlights the benefits of a DIY divorce, emphasising the importance of mindset and self-empowerment in moving forward. Additionally, she addresses the challenges of dating after divorce and encourages listeners to celebrate new beginnings with a divorce party. The episode concludes with a listener's inspiring story of resilience and personal growth after leaving an abusive relationship.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Takeaways
Divorce is still stigmatized in Ireland, affecting many people's decisions.
Choosing happiness over an unhealthy marriage is essential.
Legal separation and divorce are two different processes with distinct implications.
DIY divorce can be a cost-effective option for amicable separations.
The divorce process in Ireland can be lengthy and confusing.
Mindset plays a crucial role in healing after a divorce.
Dating after divorce can be daunting, but honesty is key.
Celebrating a divorce can be empowering and liberating.
It's important to acknowledge the emotional journey of divorce.
Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone in their experiences.
In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly & Dating Coach Lisa-Marie discuss the complexities of dating, healing from breakups & the importance of setting standards in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey through heartbreak & how it led her to become a coach, emphasising the significance of self-worth & belief in love. They explore the process of manifesting love, raising standards & the value of investing in personal growth through coaching or therapy. The conversation highlights the transformative power of breakups & the opportunities they present for self-discovery and growth. In this conversation, Kelly & Lisa-Marie discuss the nuances of dating, the importance of a supportive dating environment & the work required before entering a new relationship. They emphasise the significance of healing & self-awareness in recognising readiness for dating, navigating breakup phases & the necessity of surrendering to the process of finding love. The discussion also touches on the value of investing in oneself & the idea that there are multiple soulmates in life, each serving a purpose in personal growth
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Welcome to Season 2 of The Breakup Debrief! In this first episode, Kelly is breaking down the most common breakup myths that keep women stuck in heartbreak, anxious attachment, and situationships & and replacing them with the truths you actually need to heal.
From the lie that “time heals all wounds” to the fantasy that “closure comes from your ex”, these myths might sound familiar… but believing them is exactly what keeps you spiralling, waiting or holding on to someone who isn’t choosing you.
✨ In this episode, Kelly debunks myths like:
Why “time heals all wounds” keeps you passive (and what really creates healing)
The truth about closure (and why it never actually comes from your ex)
Why “staying friends” isn’t maturity
The danger of “maybe one day” & exes who circle back
Why “getting under someone else” doesn’t actually help you get over your ex
The myth that healing has a timeline (“half the time you were together”)
& why walking away from the wrong relationship isn’t failure, it’s freedom
💡 Key takeaway: Breakup healing doesn’t come from myths, distractions or waiting. It comes from self-awareness, no contact & the choice to start choosing you.
🔗 Links & Resources
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & meditations: Kelly’s Linktree
In this special bonus episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly guides you through a powerful Cutting the Cord Meditation, designed to help you release lingering emotional ties with an ex (or anyone you’re struggling to let go of!)
Whether you’re stuck in breakup limbo, still checking their socials or replaying old conversations in your head, this practice will help you:
✨ Energetically release the connection that’s keeping you feeling stuck✨ Calm your nervous system and return to a sense of safety✨ Reclaim your energy so you can move forward feeling lighter and freer
This isn’t about pretending the relationship never happened, it’s about acknowledging what was & then choosing to let go so you can step into your next chapter.
Find a quiet space, put your phone on airplane mode & let Kelly guide you through a gentle but deeply transformative process.
💡 Remember: healing doesn’t come from waiting for someone to choose you, it comes from choosing yourself, right here, right now.
🔗 Links & Resources
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore Kelly’s offerings: Kelly’s Linktree
Welcome to the final episode of Season 1 of The Breakup Debrief! In this solo episode, Kelly unpacks a painful but common stage of heartbreak: The Breakup Limbo.
Breakup limbo is when you’ve technically ended the relationship, but you’re still:
Texting your ex
Hooking up “one last time” (again and again)
Holding on to a “maybe in the future” promise
This stage is especially difficult for women with anxious attachment styles, who cling to breadcrumbs of hope while avoiding the reality of the breakup.
In this episode, Kelly shares:
What breakup limbo is and why it keeps you stuck
How avoidant partners use “maybe one day” to stall commitment
The emotional cost of staying in contact with an ex
Why no contact is the fastest path to healing after a breakup
How to take your power back and start building self-worth again
💡 Key takeaway: If he doesn’t want you right now, that is your answer. Don’t wait for the future version of him- choose yourself today.
👉 Bonus: Kelly also introduces her brand-new Cutting the Cord Meditation, a guided practice to help you release your ex & finally let go of lingering emotional ties.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode dropping soon)
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
In Part 2 of this powerful conversation with Molly Smith from The Healing Gals Podcast, we dive even deeper into the realities of heartbreak, growth & reclaiming your self-worth.
Molly opens up about the transformation that happens when you stop chasing love in others & start pouring that energy back into yourself. We talk about the messy but beautiful process of healing, the lessons learned from heartbreak & the thriving, empowered place she’s found herself in today.
✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:
How Molly’s perspective on love and self-worth has shifted since her breakups
The turning point that helped her rebuild confidence and identity
Why heartbreak can be a catalyst for personal growth
Encouragement for women to know they deserve so much more than settling
The importance of sharing our stories honestly to empower others
This episode is a reminder that while heartbreak can feel like the end, it often becomes the beginning of a whole new chapter- one where you’re thriving, flourishing & no longer settling for less than you deserve.
🔗 Links & Resources
Connect with Kelly: Instagram / TikTok @kellyskoaching
Email your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Join the community + offerings: Kelly’s Linktree
Listen to Molly’s work: @healinggalspodcast