The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

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Episode 143 - Self-Silencing is Making You Sick

1 week ago

20 minutes 55 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

A lot of the women I work with are carrying the same fear: the fear of disappointing other people. We were taught that being good means being nice, low-maintenance, and emotionally contained–even when it costs us. But staying silent doesn’t just strain our relationships; it takes a real toll on our bodies and our health. In this episode, I explore how self-silencing is making women sick, why it quietly creates resentment and loneliness, and simple ways to start speaking up and building more health, honesty, and real connection in your life. Here’s what I cover:

A Time article that dives into the statistics and psychology behind women and self-silencing
How staying quiet to keep the peace actually prevents real closeness
The cultural conditioning that causes self-silencing and why it’s not your fault
Why your emotions are a rich source of information about your needs and well-being
Three core skills that will help you be more honest without abandoning yourself

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 142 - Understanding Religious Trauma Part 2 with Kendra Hill

2 weeks ago

29 minutes 50 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Some social structures can hold us for a time, but if they don’t expand as we grow, they eventually become suffocating and cause more harm than good. The decision to step out of that container can feel destabilizing, but it opens you up to a deeper sense of self-trust and allows you to see your own growth with more clarity. In part two of my conversation with licensed therapist Kendra Hill, we explore her Religious Trauma Checklist and discuss how naming these patterns can help you recognize the progress you’ve already made, and continue unraveling religious trauma with love. If you haven’t listened to part one yet, make sure to start there. Here’s what we cover:

Why it can feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you when you lose religious certainty
How trauma reorganizes your inner world and why old structures eventually stop working
The grief of outgrowing a belief system or community that once felt like home
Kendra’s “soup” metaphor for rejecting everything before reclaiming what still fits
What it looks like to rebuild self-trust and walk away from environments that don’t honor you

Kendra Hill is a neurodivergent artist, beauty seeker, exvangelical, and believer in people. By profession she is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Colorado and an online coach across the nation with a specific focus on providing space for those who have some kind of religious background, religious trauma, are deconstructing their faith, or come from high control environments. She has recently relocated to New York City but remains passionate about holding space for people's stories - especially the ones it seems like no one else understands. Kendra co-owns a private practice called Unraveling Free Therapy & Coaching and is currently accepting new clients.

Find Kendra here:

www.unravelingfree.com

https://www.instagram.com/unravelingfree

https://unravelingfree.com/religious-trauma-checklist-freebie

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 141 - Understanding Religious Trauma Part 1 with Kendra Hill

3 weeks ago

32 minutes 8 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

People-pleasing and codependent tendencies often stem from a religious upbringing. In my own journey of unraveling those behaviors, I’ve had to confront what I was taught to believe about God, obedience, and how “being good” kept me in line. In part one of my conversation with licensed therapist Kendra Hill, we define religious trauma and explore how fear, bypassing, and chronic self-surveillance get wired into us. Here’s what we cover:

Why many women feel terrified to stop people pleasing when religion is involved
How growing up with a fear of divine punishment can shape your nervous system
The difference between religious trauma and religious hurt
How spiritual bypassing teaches us to ignore our emotions
What happens when you’re taught to trust authority instead of trusting yourself

Kendra Hill is a neurodivergent artist, beauty seeker, exvangelical, and believer in people. By profession she is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Colorado and an online coach across the nation with a specific focus on providing space for those who have some kind of religious background, religious trauma, are deconstructing their faith, or come from high control environments. She has recently relocated to New York City but remains passionate about holding space for people's stories - especially the ones it seems like no one else understands. Kendra co-owns a private practice called Unraveling Free Therapy & Coaching and is currently accepting new clients.

Find Kendra here:

www.unravelingfree.com

https://www.instagram.com/unravelingfree

https://unravelingfree.com/religious-trauma-checklist-freebie

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 140 - Being a Highly Sensitive Woman with Allyssya Gossett

1 month ago

31 minutes 14 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

In this episode, I talk with coach and host of The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast, Allyssya Gossett. Sensitivity has shaped Allyssya’s life and how she moves through the world, and now she helps other highly sensitive women understand that nothing is “wrong” with them, but that there’s actually incredible strength in the way they’re wired. Today, we talk about what it means to be highly sensitive and how embracing your sensitivity allows you to live more authentically. Here’s what we cover:

The definition of a highly sensitive person and how to recognize the signs in yourself
How I discovered my sensitivity after years of not having the language for it
The wide spectrum of sensitivity and how it shows up differently for everyone
Barriers that prevent sensitive women from understanding and honoring their needs
How embracing your sensitivity empowers you to advocate for yourself without shame
Resources for learning how to take care of yourself as a highly sensitive person

For decades, Allyssya struggled to believe she was worthy of taking up space in the world. She listened to society’s rules for how she “should” be or feel, made herself small to accommodate others, and tried to put herself in a box just to fit in. Not embracing her true self led to years of debilitating anxiety and depression. Once she embraced who she is and how she was created, Allyssya learned to challenge those old beliefs, stop worrying so much about what others think of her, and step outside her comfort zone so she could confidently live a life she created instead of one chosen for her. The self-acceptance journey fueled her passion for sharing her experiences and knowledge with others as a life coach and podcast host, helping other highly sensitive women just like her let go of self-doubt, find their voice, and live with internal peace and bold confidence.

Find Allyssya here:

info@allyssya.coach

https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach_allyssya

https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachallyssya

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-highly-sensitive-woman-confidence-set-boundaries

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 139 - A Four-Step Plan for a Holiday That Actually Feels Good

1 month ago

39 minutes 59 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

We all want the holidays to feel meaningful and connected, but the pressure to meet expectations often pulls us away from what truly matters to us. Between obligations, traditions, cooking, cleaning, and planning, we often miss out on quality time with the people we care about or a chance to rest. If you’re exhausted just thinking about putting on another holiday for everyone else, this episode will walk you through a simple four-step framework to help you create the holiday season you actually want. Here’s what I cover:

Why people-pleasing is at an all-time high during the holidays
Three questions to help you pause and ask yourself what you truly want
How to predict the discomfort that comes with prioritizing yourself
An exercise to write down what support you need to make the holiday you want possible
How to mentally rehearse the holiday and regulate your nervous system beforehand

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 138 - Grief Isn’t Linear: Learning to Carry What You’ve Lost with Krista St-Germain

1 month ago

17 minutes 26 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Many of us know that grief isn’t linear, yet so much of what we’re taught still has us trying to get it “right.” In this conversation, I’m joined by Krista St-Germain, life coach, grief guide for widows, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista shares how she helps women navigate grief with self-compassion, gentleness, and kindness, and stop making themselves wrong for what they feel. This episode isn’t just for those who’ve lost a spouse, but for anyone navigating loss and learning not to “fix” their feelings, but to create more capacity to hold them. Here’s what we cover:

Why grief can’t be defined by the familiar “stages” and why it doesn’t end with acceptance
How healing comes from increasing your capacity to support yourself, not from trying to change what you feel
What secondary losses look like and how they reveal the ongoing nature of grief
How to stop making yourself wrong for what you feel and practice meeting your emotions with compassion instead
Why we sometimes feel uncomfortable around grief and how to show up for others in a way that is truly helpful
The importance of normalizing sadness and modeling healthy grief, especially for children

Find Krista here:

https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/happier-holidays-for-widowed-moms/

https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/

https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 137 - Why Are We Trying To Make It Look Easy?

1 month ago

38 minutes 38 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

On the surface, high-achieving people-pleasers are admired by everyone. We seem to have it all together—never complaining about our workload and always showing up prepared and polished. But the effort to make everything look easy, even when we’re struggling, comes at a huge cost. In this episode, I discuss why we do this and how to start releasing ourselves from the constant performance so we can feel supported, helped, and loved, rather than staying trapped in a cycle of loneliness and resentment. Here’s what I cover:

Examples that highlight how high-achievers hide their struggles
The underlying beliefs that drive this behavior and where they come from
Why your body eventually refuses to keep up the performance
The red flags that signal when you’ve become trapped in trying to make things look easy
What it takes to begin unraveling this pattern and show up with authenticity instead

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 136 - Choosing Love Over Certainty with Meagan Skidmore

2 months ago

42 minutes 43 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Our good girl programming is built on the certainty that if we follow the rules and keep everyone happy, we’ll belong. But what happens when stepping into deeper love and connection also means stepping into the uncertainty that comes with unraveling that conditioning? In this episode, I talk with Meagan Skidmore, Life Transformation Coach and author of TransparentSEE: How I Learned to SEE through My Journey as a Parent of a Transgender Kiddo. We explore what it means to trust your inner knowing, even when it leads you down an unfamiliar path, and how doing so can radically transform your relationships with others and with yourself. Here’s what we cover:

How growing up in the LDS faith shaped Meagan’s sense of belonging
The pain of feeling forced to choose between two things that are meaningful to you
Why slowing can provide you with the patience and openness needed to make space for uncertainty
The importance of creating safe spaces where you can explore and questions
Why the loss of certainty can be a doorway to a new version of yourself, your family, and your faith

Meagan Skidmore is a Life Transformation Coach who empowers her clients to navigate life transitions and step into their fullest potential. Life transitions have a way of presenting the opportunity to reset our identity, reassess our values, and process emotions—becoming the witnessing observer of our experiences instead of letting them define us.

Meagan helps people awaken to their truth, crush the boxes that confine them, and step boldly into their power, stop lying to themselves and live authentically and unapologetically. With a holistic approach, Meagan guides clients to use emotional alchemy to help them connect with their bodies and hear their Inner Wisdom. This creates space to truly embody their core values and live in alignment. Whether you’re facing change or seeking alignment, Meagan offers the support and tools you need to turn what seems a life crisis into a beautiful metamorphosis.

Find Meagan here:

https://meaganskidmorecoaching.com

https://www.instagram.com/meaganskidmorecoaching

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064267982984

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-inner-catalyst/id1843004454

https://www.youtube.com/@meaganskidmorecoachingllc8331/featured

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 135 - Staying in Relationships Even with Differences

2 months ago

33 minutes 24 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Sometimes it's hard to imagine how we can stay in relationships where there are huge differences–political, religious, or otherwise. In this conversation with my friend Katherine Golub on her podcast Conflict Decoded, I talk about how I’ve worked with the part of myself that just wants to stay safe–to only talk to people who agree with me and see information that confirms my beliefs–to stay in relationships that matter, even when we don’t share the same views. Here’s what I cover:

How people-pleasing kept me at the church even after my mind and heart had left the building
The moment I realized, “I think we’re wrong about this,” and how terrifying it was to hold that belief
How I used scripture to back up my personal beliefs and was punished for it within the church
The complexity of discerning who to maintain relationships with despite your differences
Why safety must come first when moving toward relationships with people that you disagree with

Find Katherine here:

https://callingsandcourage.com/

https://callingsandcourage.com/podcasts/

https://www.instagram.com/katherinegolub/

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 134 - Keep Going but Be Gentle

2 months ago

53 minutes 15 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Even with the powerful growth that can happen in coaching, the pressure cooker we’re all living in—the broken systems, the financial stress, the world that feels terrifying—can make everything feel harder, and much of it is beyond our control. But it doesn’t feel hard because you’re weak; it feels hard because it is hard. In this episode, I talk about how remarkable it is that we keep going—keep showing up for ourselves and others—despite it all, and how to be gentler with ourselves in the process. Here’s what I cover:

A powerful coaching conversation about self-doubt and resilience
What it looks like to let more than one thing be true at once
Why “every little bit counts” when everything feels impossible
How to know when your body is asking for rest instead of pushing harder
The power of staying connected to yourself when you can’t fix everything in the world

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 133 - What Avoiding Conflict Really Costs You

2 months ago

20 minutes 31 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Conflict is one of the most paradoxical things I’ve encountered—in my own life and in the lives of my clients. For those of us who have been shaped by good girl conditioning, conflict most often feels like danger and disconnection. But when it happens within a container of safety and self-connection, it becomes a doorway to vulnerability, intimacy, and power. In this episode, I explore why we avoid conflict and share personal stories that demonstrate the freedom you can find when you say what needs to be said. Here’s what I cover:

How the emotional burden of unspoken words lives in the body
How cultural and gender conditioning teach people socialized as women to stay silent
Two real-life examples of how I apply what I teach about conflict and communication
Why self-love and compassion are essential for knowing when and how to speak up
How practicing the skills to have hard conversations leads to freedom and connection

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 132 - How Over-Apologizing Hurts You and How to Stop

3 months ago

29 minutes 50 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Because every one of us has been raised with the good girl rules—to be nice, agreeable, and never rock the boat—almost every woman I work with has the habit of over-apologizing. You’re capable, you’re accomplished, and you work hard, yet “sorry” slips out at the beginning of every sentence. In this episode, we explore how over-apologizing hurts you and how to practice a different way of showing up. Here’s what I cover:

How over-apologizing lowers your authority in other people's eyes and trains your own brain to see yourself as less valuable
Why it’s important to consider what you’re trying to accomplish with your apology
Why pausing before you speak is the foundation for breaking your over-apologizing habit
The power you’ll reclaim when you replace “I’m sorry” with “thank you”
Why increasing your capacity for discomfort is key to stopping over-apologizing
A practical homework assignment to complete your own apology audit

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 131 - End Emotional Outsourcing with Béa Albina

3 months ago

32 minutes 49 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

When you stop outsourcing your safety, belonging, and worth, you discover the freedom of authenticity–of knowing who you are and what you want. In this episode, I speak with Béa Albina about her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. You’ll hear how this book not only outlines a clear path to end this painful way of living, but reframes emotional outsourcing in powerful new ways. Here’s what we cover:

The definition of emotional outsourcing and how it shows up in our relationships, careers, and decision-making
Why emotional outsourcing is a brilliant survival strategy, not a personality flaw
The truth about authenticity and why it’s often the cost of people-pleasing and perfectionism
How emotional outsourcing lives in the nervous system and why healing has to include the body
Béa’s five-part process for rebuilding self-trust through small, “kitten-sized” steps

Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" ( Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.

Find Béa here:

https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/

https://www.facebook.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp

https://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 130 - Being Seen in the Relationships that Matter Most

3 months ago

46 minutes 19 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Do you edit parts of yourself out of relationships because you're afraid of how people will react? Do you self-silence when you know what you have to say might not be pleasing to others? There is real discomfort in showing up authentically because it means risking rejection from the people we’re closest to. But the alternative comes with its own pain: the sadness and loneliness of not being seen for who we truly are. Neither type of discomfort is easy to face, but in this episode, I share how you can choose between them and take small, brave steps toward relationships where you can be fully seen. Here’s what I cover:

The two types of discomfort that people pleasing creates in relationships
Why it’s easy to choose authenticity in some relationships but not others—and why that difficulty is completely normal
A personal story about a friendship where I felt the pull between hiding and being seen
Why loving the parts of yourself that used to hide is essential for change
Questions to help you identify where you can choose authenticity in your relationships

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 129 - How to Break the Habit of Auto Accommodating

3 months ago

35 minutes 57 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

When you’re asked to take on extra work, stay late at the office, or do a favor for a friend or family member, do you ever say “yes” automatically, without thinking about what it will actually cost you? This habit is known as auto-accommodating, and it’s so common among people pleasers that I've decided to dedicate an episode to it. In this episode, we explore the programming behind auto-accommodating and how to practice pausing before you respond so your answer is actually aligned with your needs and desires. Here’s what I cover:

How we are programmed to conflate accommodation with reward, safety, and connection
3 questions to help you understand the part of yourself that habitually auto-accommodates
How toxic capitalism reinforces the idea that our worth comes from serving others at our own expense
Why going back and revising an automatic “yes” will help you build your pause muscle
How to avoid self-judgment around your fear of saying “no”
A phrase to use when you want to contribute without auto-accommodating

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 128 - How to Get Out of the Self-Doubt Spiral

4 months ago

36 minutes

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Have you ever caught yourself in a self-doubt spiral, wondering if you’re overreacting, if you’re missing something, or if everyone else just knows better than you? The experience of self-doubt is so familiar for women, especially because of the patriarchal system we live in. But you deserve to feel confident in your emotions and your assessments. In this episode, I dive into why it feels so automatic to doubt ourselves and how you can begin to change that inner monologue. Here’s what I cover:

What internal self-doubt actually sounds like
Examples of behaviors that stem from self-doubt
How Dr. Becky Kennedy explains the development of self-doubt in children
How patriarchy gives boys and girls very different messages about the validity of their self-doubt
The two voices inside us as women—the voice of care and the voice of self–and how to balance them
An exercise to help you work with both voices so you can feel more confident

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 127 - Radical Discernment: Balancing Self-Care and Collective Care with Katherine Golub

4 months ago

34 minutes 22 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

I’m so excited to welcome Katherine Golub to the podcast today. Katherine and I have so much in common–not only our journeys of breaking free from good girl rules, but also our commitment to community organizing and social change. She is a coach for leaders and activists who want to continue showing up for their communities without burning out. In this conversation, we explore the polarity between personal and collective needs, and how radical discernment can help you step into the life you want. Here’s what we cover:

Why we have to choose to take care of our needs before we can do so
The definition of radical discernment and how it helps balance personal and collective care
What resonance actually looks like and how it can help when you're overwhelmed
The importance of only focusing on the next right thing
How curiosity can help when it’s difficult to imagine what you want

Find Katherine here:

https://callingsandcourage.com/

https://callingsandcourage.com/podcasts/

https://www.instagram.com/katherinegolub/

Find Sara here:

https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

Episode 126 - The Body Knows: Faith, The Wisdom of Desire, and Telling the Truth with Michaelann Gardner

4 months ago

49 minutes 21 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

In this conversation, I’m joined by the author of Sovereign, hypnotist, and fellow ex-Mormon, Michaelann Gardner. Sovereign explores chronic pain, marriage, and faith in a way that connects to the experiences and stories of so many women—even those who don’t share the same religious background. It’s about sex, disordered eating, and divorce, but it’s also about finding your desire and allowing it to guide you into a promised land that may look different from what you imagined. Here’s what we cover:

How the story of Adam and Eve became a framework to explore ideas about faith, bodies, and reconciliation
How the wisdom of desire can act as a powerful guide if we trust it to lead us
The reawakening of hunger and desire as a catalyst for telling the truth to ourselves and others
How cultural conditioning impacts the way both men and women show up in marriage and sex
The disconnect between the church’s view of sex as “sacred” and the lived experience of sex
How the pain of disconnection and dishonesty manifests in the bodies

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Episode 125 - What I'm Learning About Joy, Rest, and Pleasure

4 months ago

1 hour 27 seconds

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

In the self-help space, it’s easy to assume someone else has it all together. The truth is, nobody does. While I have some answers—and I certainly can provide help to stop people-pleasing—I’m still learning, too. Today, I’m sharing recent changes and insights from my own life to offer an honest look at the messy, yet beautiful, journey of healing—and to remind you that joy, grief, and desire can all coexist. Here’s what I cover:

How religious scriptures shaped my beliefs about worthiness–and how I’ve grown into a deeper sense of connection
Why rest, joy, pleasure, and loving your f*cking life are powerful acts of resistance
Why I stepped away from social media and how it has allowed me to show up more fully in my life
How retreating to my love of fiction provided me with a soul-deep relief
How I have become more fully present in my body and my power through pleasure
How I learned that “Am I enough?” was never the right question to ask

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!