Welcome to another Sunday Live broadcast where we dive deep into one of the most critical issues facing marriages today: the silent epidemic of emotional disconnection. In this episode, my wife Melissa and I have a raw, honest conversation about why so many couples are living like roommates instead of intimate partners—and what you can do about it. I’m witnessing something alarming in my ministry work: husbands and wives who rarely speak about matters of the heart, families sitting together in restaurants without any meaningful conversation, and couples who’ve convinced themselves that “not fighting” equals a healthy marriage. The truth is, we’re becoming relationally and emotionally dormant, and technology is playing a bigger role in this than we want to admit.



I also address the plague of Christian perfectionism and spend some extended time walking through pursuing your passion of creative art.



What We Cover in This Broadcast:




* Christian Perfectionism: “Just Right But Never Enough” – Deep dive into how perfectionism infiltrates our faith walk, from preoccupation with salvation to obsessing over spiritual routines, and why the “I was miraculously healed” mindset can be harmful



* The Disobedience Trap – Why we need to stop labeling every struggle or transition as “disobedience” and learn to see our journey through the lens of God’s grace and learning over time



* The Church Lady and the Church Gentleman go out on a date and I got the report from the restaurant manager on what happened!



* Pursuing Creative Passions Without Shame – Addressing the fear, doubt, and father wounds that come up when stepping into creative work (music, writing, art, etc.) and practical wisdom for turning your passion into sustainable work



* The Roommate Syndrome Crisis – Why couples are losing emotional intimacy and settling for surface-level coexistence instead of deep relational connection



* Practical Tools for Restoration – The eye-to-eye prayer practice that transformed our marriage and can transform yours



* OCD, ROCD, and Marriage – Addressing how obsessive-compulsive patterns impact relationships and the path toward healing for both spouses




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Do you know how to access nurture and practice healthy care for your heart? This is a critical healing skill that we all need to learn when it comes to receiving comfort and recovery through the difficult emotions that we experience hardship, trauma and the neglect that many experience in life.



When mental and emotional challenges arise in us, we can feel trapped within ourselves. At times, our instinct is often to reach out—call someone, text someone, schedule an appointment. And that’s good. We need community and support. But there are also moments when it’s just you, God, and the devil. In those moments, we need more than a crisis reaction. You need something cultivated and built up inside of you—a healing atmosphere of nurture that you’ve learned to cultivate.



But most of us recognize that nurture is not something that always flow easily, especially for ourselves. So today, I am going to address nurture, self-compassion, and the practice of caring for your heart. This is critical in trauma healing, but also for every aspect of our mental and emotional health.



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What Is Nurture?



When I talk about nurture, I’m referring to the provision of spiritual and emotional nourishment that builds healthy connection, equips us, fosters growth, and empowers us for recovery during hardship and trials.



Nurture has a two-fold impact. It first welcomes you into compassionate connection, care and comfort. But it also equips you with emotional and spiritual resilience so you can step back into life and embrace an overcoming journey.



Three Main Keys of Nurture



1. Provision of Spiritual and Emotional Nourishment



When we think of nourishment, we think of food and nutritional health. You’ve probably eaten a meal where you felt full but weren’t actually nourished because it was junk food. What about your emotions and spiritual life? What does it look like to feel truly nourished?



There are four components I call the “4 Cs”:



Compassion sets the stage for relationship connection. It’s how love operates—seeing yourself and others through the lens of loving kindness, patience, and embrace.



Connection has to do with the bond that is built. Your ability to bond to someone in a healthy way is established first and foremost by your parental relationship. The first person you meet is your mother coming right out of the womb, with your father right alongside. Through the father and mother relationship, you learn nurture by bonding with them.



How many of us never built a healthy bond? Then we come into the body of Christ, and now we’re connecting to God who is our Father. But what’s a father? What does that even look like? The Bible also speaks about the bond we have for one another as brothers and sisters, showing us this bonding is important.



God is very nurturing. The Bible speaks of His tender care. Peter talked about “casting your cares upon Him...

In our Sunday live, we start off our by talking about four common helpful ways people relate to their intrusive thoughts, while also diving into your questions on regret, religious OCD, scrupulosity, medicatoin and more!



Are you exhausted from battling intrusive thoughts, salvation anxiety, and the endless cycle of reassurance-seeking? Do you find yourself stuck in spiritual paralysis, constantly checking if you’re “really saved” or if your faith is growing? This in-depth Q&A tackles the patterns keeping you trapped—and how to find actual freedom.



Do you battle with regret and wonder what to do with it? What about scrupulosity and religious OCD? Does it have a work of stagnating your growth? You may be surprised at the answer that I gave in response.



Do you have intrusive thoughts that accuse you about your sexual orientation? Does it overlap in your ability to have fruitful relationships, fueling an ROCD struggle?



I also address a parent of a grown adult son who have completely cut himself off from family and friends. What do you say to her grieving heart?



And in marriage, should a spouse be a nurturing support and when does it become too much? And how does a husband and father heal when he has OCD and has been on so many medications, meanwhile, his moods feel so out of control?



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How do we actually put new, empowering beliefs into motion? How do we move from just knowing what needs to change to actually experiencing that change in our daily lives? Today I want to explore your self-talk and show you how you can practically welcome new beliefs that affirm what God says about you.



I’m going to share practical steps for redirecting the internal narrative in your mind—that ongoing conversation you have with yourself throughout the day. Because here’s the truth: your self-talk is either reinforcing beliefs that align with God’s love, truth, and freedom, or it’s keeping you trapped in old survival patterns that are actually disempowering your healing and freedom.



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Understanding Your Self-Talk



Self-talk is the internal conversation you have with yourself—the ongoing stream of thoughts, commentary, and messages that run through your mind throughout the day. It’s the voice in your head that interprets situations, makes judgments, and narrates your experience.



When life happens, your self-talk acts as the interpreter. It pulls from your worldview and responds accordingly. Much of this inner dialogue comes from what’s stored within your soul—shaped by childhood development, faith upbringing, trauma, neglect, and your learned responses to trials and pain.



The Power of Disempowering Narratives



Many of us struggle with self-talk patterns that actively work against our healing:




* Chronic negativity – feeding off a negative worldview



* Self-pity and victim thinking – staying stuck in helplessness



* Chronic fear – becoming addicted to viewing life through anxiety



* Inner critic – shame, self-hatred, and self-rejection



* Learned hopelessness – believing change isn’t possible



* Constant focus on limitations – “I can’t do this. I cannot take it anymore.”




Here’s the truth: many of these disempowering thought patterns actually started as survival tools. “I don’t trust anyone,” “I don’t let people in,” “Life doesn’t work for me,” “I am unlovable”—these beliefs helped us cope at one time, but now they keep us trapped.



While the old myth that 80% of our thoughts are negative isn’t actually supported by evidence, we can all agree that without intentional guidance, our thoughts can lead us into mental and emotional ditches. Our self-talk can be helpful and empowering, or it can become our harshest critic, disconnecting us from grace and power.



Biblical Foundation for Self-Talk



Scripture gives us beautiful examples of the power of intentional self-talk:



David understood this principle: “Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God,

Do you find yourself battling loneliness and many of the struggles that stem from that? Are you battling compulsive thoughts about your faith? If so, this Wednesday live will be a blessing to you. In this episode, discover how trauma, isolation, OCD, scrupulosity and intrusive thoughts can create a lot of confusion and turmoil. Melissa and I talk about working through overwhelm and developing healthy responses to it.



In this episode, I also address questions relating to:




* Spinning over the subject of forgiveness and bitterness.



* Healing and miracles in the presence of doubt from a biblical standpoint



* Sexual struggles of pornography



* LONELINESS – are we in an epidemic of loneliness?



* The distraction of existential thoughts



* Compulsive evaluation of Bible reading




We also talk about:




* The hidden cost of isolation on your mental health



* How trauma creates trust issues that affect spiritual life



* Gentle redirects for catastrophic thinking patterns



* Why social interaction is “oxygen for the soul”



* Moving from condemnation to compassion in your healing journey



* Struggling with guilt when you create boundaries with toxic parents.



* New believer struggling on how to relate to an unbelieving spouse




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* The Myth of the Perfect One



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In 1 John 5:21, John ends his profound letter with a brief but significant warning: “Little children, keep yourselves from idols.” This single sentence gives us an opportunity to address idolatry in a biblical manner, bringing clarity to a subject that has become deeply confusing for many Christians today.



Through years of ministry and walking alongside people in their faith journeys, I have observed something troubling: the subject of idolatry has become a source of genuine confusion and even anxiety for many believers. What should be helpful biblical instruction has been transformed into something far more complicated and burdensome than Scripture intends.



The word “idol” and “idolatry” have been used so frequently—and applied so broadly—that they can now be attached to virtually anything. What’s more concerning is that many believers are relating to this biblical topic from an almost obsessive-compulsive standpoint, which fuels very unhealthy and unfruitful perspectives and behaviors. Instead of experiencing freedom in Christ, they find themselves trapped in a cycle of self-examination and fear.



In many Christian circles, the emphasis on “getting idols out of your life” has gotten out of hand. It has become yet another hoop to jump through, another item on an exhausting checklist that believers feel they must complete to remedy the sense of disconnection they feel with God. This approach not only misses the heart of what Scripture teaches about idolatry, but it can actually become a barrier to the intimate relationship with God that we’re called to enjoy.



In this study, I want to address this subject directly while bringing out the biblical framework for understanding idolatry—what it truly is, how it impacts both individuals and society, and how we can approach this topic with wisdom and balance. My goal is not to minimize the seriousness of idolatry, but to help you understand it in a grounded and sober way, so you can walk in freedom rather than fear, and experience the mental, emotional, and relational health that God desires for His children.



Join me as I take a dive deep into what Scripture actually teaches about idolatry, and in doing so, find freedom from the confusion that has weighed so many down.



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