Vera learned early how to read a room.
How to sense shifts.
How to stay alert, often more attuned to others than to herself.
In this episode, we explore the quiet presence of shame, the kind that doesn’t shout, but gently pulls the body away from desire, closeness, and rest. Shame around wanting. Around being seen. Around taking up space in intimacy.
Vera shares what it’s like to move between longing and withdrawal, presence and disappearance. To want connection and still feel the impulse to step back when things begin to deepen.
Mor joins the conversation, offering reflections and commentary that add another layer, naming patterns, softening judgments and holding space for what shame often silences.
This episode is about:
– how shame lives in the body
– how safety changes desire
– how intimacy isn’t created through performance, but through permission and how staying can sometimes be the bravest act of all
A conversation without urgency.
Without fixing.
Just honest presence, listening, and truth.
In the final part of Dance of Polarity, Henrik and Jonas explore healing - how we can release old conditioning around power, shame, and gender to rediscover desire as a bridge back to wholeness.
They talk about what it means to lead and to yield, to feel and to trust, and how masculine and feminine energy can co-create instead of compete.
To get in contact with Jonas and learn more about his work, please connect with him here: www.syntesa.se
A closing reflection on love, polarity, and becoming fully alive.
Maria’s story is about a woman who loved deeply, carried too much, and slowly disappeared inside a relationship where she was no longer seen. After years of silence, exhaustion and emotional emptiness, she chose to walk away, not from love, but from losing herself.
In this episode, we explore her journey back into desire, sensuality and emotional truth.
The lovers who awakened her body.
The man who finally met her with presence.
And the moment she realized she deserved more than survival.
Mor joins the conversation to reflect on shame, self-abandonment and the courage it takes for a woman to reclaim her voice, her pleasure and her life.
A story about returning to your body and choosing yourself without apology.
Stay open. Stay present. Stay human.
In this intimate conversation, Mathilda Ritzén and Henrik explore what modern love really requires beyond roles, expectations and performance.
We talk about self-love, emotional safety, feminine & masculine energy, attachment wounds, conscious communication and why being seen matters more than being desired.
A warm episode about presence, truth and real connection.
In the second part of Dance of Polarity, Henrik and Jonas explore what it means to integrate both the masculine and feminine within.
They discuss how safety, desire, presence, and surrender are interwoven - and how the real transformation happens when we stop suppressing one side of ourselves.
This episode dives into the heart of relational wholeness - the meeting of depth and freedom.
To get in contact with Jonas and learn more about his work, please connect with him here: www.syntesa.se
In this episode, Henrik meets Fehu – a somatic body psychotherapist, authentic mover, primal adorer and wildly feminine creature – for a deep conversation about responsibility, healing, and the energetics of love.
Together, they explore how nature, ritual, and body awareness can guide us from darkness into light, and why true intimacy begins when we take ownership of what we bring to the relational table.
Fehu speaks about the courage it takes to ask for help – from friends, therapists, or community – and how presence becomes the medicine that transforms both love and life.
This is a journey into embodied energetics, transformation, and daring to love with an open heart.
She’s 26. Strong, sharp, independent and tired of being the one who holds everything together.
Raised as her father’s right hand, Frieda learned to lead, decide, and achieve.
But in love, she longs for something else: presence. To be met, not managed.
Her partner wants sex. She wants depth.
And somewhere between hunger and heart, love begins to slip away.
Together with Britta Kunze, we explore what happens when self-sufficiency becomes a shield and how emotional safety, not perfection, opens the door to love.
Because to be loved, we don’t need to be perfect, just present.
Henrik meets polarity coach and synthesizer Jonas Johnsson for a deep conversation on the dance between masculine and feminine energies - within ourselves and between people.
They explore how attraction, balance, and polarity arise not from dominance or submission, but from awareness, clarity, and openness.
A conversation about energy, embodiment, and the longing to truly meet - beyond roles and resistance.
To get in contact with Jonas and learn more about his work, please connect with him here: www.syntesa.se
What if intimacy isn’t something we do, but something we allow?
34o now plays in 60 countries. From Sweden to Sydney, from Berlin to Buenos Aires, this is more than a podcast. It’s a global conversation redefining love, trust and how we connect.
In this reflective episode, Henrik pauses to look back on what we’ve learned so far, through women’s voices, men’s stories, and the insights of experts who’ve joined 34o. From trust and safety to shame, freedom, and vulnerability, this pit stop explores the patterns that connect us all.
Including highlights from:
– Britta Kunze on safety and embodiment
– Rasmus & Tomas on masculine vulnerability
– Sandra on freedom and trust
– Listeners’ poll insights from around the world
Because the journey isn’t about counting orgasms, it’s about discovering 34 ways to feel alive.
Stay open. Stay present. Stay human.
It wasn’t the number of lovers that shaped her, it was what she discovered in them.
Sandra, 33, could only truly surrender when nothing was at stake.
In short encounters she found freedom, but in love she found fear.
When relationships deepened her body hesitated. The fear of losing stability, safety or being left made her close.
She longed to love for real, to lead from love, not from fear.
Together with Britta Kunze, we explore how trauma, safety and self-worth shape a woman’s capacity for pleasure and why true desire can only breathe where fear ends.
Because real intimacy doesn’t begin when we are desired,
it begins when we feel safe enough to stay open.
ENGLISH:
In this special Swedish episode, Henrik meets Rasmus - a young man known from TikTok for his honest reflections on love, presence and emotional awareness. Together they explore what it truly means to love, the difference between validation and genuine connection, and why vulnerability might be the strongest form of courage.
A heartfelt conversation about love, fear, and learning to meet each other - for real.
SVENSKA:
I detta svenska specialavsnitt möter Henrik Rasmus - en ung man som pratar öppet om kärlek, närvaro och känslor. Tillsammans utforskar de vad det egentligen innebär att älska på riktigt, skillnaden mellan bekräftelse och kärlek, och varför sårbarhet är en av de starkaste krafterna vi har.
Guest: Tomas Öberg | Host: Henrik D
What does it really mean to be a man today?
In this powerful and reflective conversation, Henrik and author Tomas Öberg explore masculinity beyond stereotypes - diving into polarity, shame, vulnerability, and the meeting point between masculine and feminine energy. Together, they reflect on what integrated masculinity and femininity truly means - and how both energies can coexist and strengthen one another.
They discuss how modern men can find grounded strength without losing empathy, how women can help create safety for true openness, and why healing the divide between the sexes begins with awareness - not blame.
Because masculinity isn’t toxic by nature.
It only becomes toxic when it’s built on fear instead of presence.
In this intimate dialogue, Henrik and Elin explore what it means to truly choose yourself - in love, in truth and in connection. Together they dive into how presence, sexuality and emotional honesty shape the way we relate to others and ourselves.
A conversation about courage, boundaries, and the power of being real with each other - even when it's raw!
In this special 11-minute reflection, Henrik pauses to ask the questions we all carry - about love, meaning, fear, and the endless search for “more.” Why do we feel restless, even when life looks complete? Why does darkness sometimes feel louder than light?
Through timeless insights and personal experience, Henrik explores how presence, gratitude and connection can dissolve the illusion of control and soften the loneliness of modern life. This isn’t an episode with answers - it’s an invitation to pause, breathe and return to what truly matters.
Because sometimes, wisdom doesn’t come from doing more - but from finally being still.
A quiet reminder that the light we seek is already here - if we dare to slow down and look
In this episode, Henrik tells the story of Erik — and Erik himself shares his deeply personal journey through love, intimacy and masculinity.
From falling hard into passion to discovering the courage of presence, he speaks openly about shame, desire, and the struggle to ask for what he truly needed. His story shows that intimacy doesn’t begin in perfection, but in the courage to stay - with ourselves and with each other.
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For generations, men have been taught that strength means control, dominance, or silence - that emotions are weakness, that vulnerability is dangerous.
But what happens when those beliefs begin to crack?
In this episode, Henrik explores the evolution of masculinity — from the wounded inner boy who learned to hide his softness, to the man who learns that real power comes from presence, responsibility and love.
He speaks about fatherhood, fear and how generations of men have been shaped by cultural pressure, absent fathers, and social conditioning.
And he asks: what would happen if men were taught not to prove their strength, but to embody it?
This is not about tearing men down - it’s about helping them rise differently.
Because masculinity isn’t toxic by nature. It only becomes toxic when it’s built on fear.
Real strength isn’t about never falling - it’s about standing up with awareness, again and again.
✨ A deeply personal reflection on healing, presence, and redefining what it means to be a man.
She’s fifty — free, playful, unapologetically alive.
A woman who has learned that pleasure is not performance, but presence.
A tantric rebel with a Viking soul, who knows that desire can be both sacred and wild.
This is not a story about dominance — it’s about mastery through sensitivity.
About the woman who learned to whisper with the body, not to control it, but to listen.
Together with Britta Kunze, trauma-informed embodiment coach, we explore what happens when sexuality becomes communication — and when touch becomes truth.
Because true power isn’t in taking.
It’s in feeling.
What if men saw every woman as someone’s daughter — or as their own?
In this deeply moving conversation, Henrik speaks with Daryl Dudley, Chief Visionary Officer and Founder of She’s My Daughter — a movement that has inspired men around the world to reimagine masculinity through empathy, respect and love.
Together they explore:
– How toxic narratives online shape young men’s views on love and power
– Why vulnerability is not weakness, but the foundation of real strength
– How fathers can raise boys who lead with presence, not performance
– And how a single mindset shift — from possession to protection — could transform relationships, workplaces, and entire communities.
Daryl also shares his vision behind All Be Free, a new global fashion initiative launching November 25th 2025 — uniting art, activism and awareness to end violence against women.
This episode is not about blame — it’s about healing.
Because when men lead with care, women feel safe — and everyone thrives.
When no one teaches men what love really is — the internet will...
In this powerful yet concise reflection, Henrik reads a real email titled “How to Manipulate Women to Get What You Want” — a disturbing glimpse into what young men are being taught online every day.
But beneath the noise lies something deeper: a generational wound, passed from father to son, from culture to child.
And it’s not just men.
On the other side of the algorithm, women are being sold a different illusion — the rise of the “tradwife”, preaching submission and silence as the path to love.
Both stories grow from the same root: fear.
Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being safe. Fear of being seen.
This episode isn’t about blame - it’s about awareness.
Because if we, as adults, stay silent, algorithms will raise our sons. Porn will shape their desires.
And the line between play and violation, between pleasure and power, will vanish before they even turn twelve.
Real masculinity isn’t about control - it’s about safety.
Love doesn’t need hierarchy. It needs honesty.
Presence heals what performance never can.
Can we step into a new story of love — one not built on fear, but on presence?
In part two of Emilia’s journey, we follow her through destructive relationships, fleeting freedoms, and the long road back to herself. With reflections from Mor, we look at how healing begins when we dare to risk the unknown — and open to love without losing ourselves.
✨ A story of collapse, courage, and the first glimpse of freedom.