Endings can be both tender and triumphant—and this finale names both. In this closing episode of 7 Days Inside: EMDR, Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, and co-host Kellyn look back on the journey and sketch a clear picture of what “ending well” can feel like. They explore how EMDR shifts from processing the past to building the future with soft off-ramps, future templates, and everyday practice beyond the therapy room.

You will hear a vivid, real-life composite story (Alex) that brings three core markers of change to life—Clarity, Choice, and Connection—showing how small, honest decisions can quietly reroute a life toward friends, freedom, and fuller presence.

Essential concept of the week: Containment. Learn how to set a deliberate, compassionate boundary around intrusive thoughts or memories—“visiting, not moving in”—so healing work stays safe between sessions and the “snow globe” can settle.

Skill-building focus: Resource Mapping. Kyle helps you review and organize the Phase Two tools you have tried across the series—Creating a Calm State, Diaphragmatic Breathing, Light Stream Visualization, Butterfly Hug with affirmations, the Spiral Technique, and the Breathing Shift—so you can notice patterns, build a personal Resource Journal, and keep practicing what actually works for your nervous system.

What this episode explores

• Life after EMDR: tapering sessions and applying future templates in real contexts

• The therapist as guide—and you as the main character of your story

• How clarity opens space for choice, and choice rebuilds connection

• Containment as a conscious, temporary boundary (not suppression)

• Resource Mapping as a practical system for staying present, safe, and steady

Notable takeaways

• Healing is often a quiet pause before a text—small choices that add up

• Containment = “visit, don’t move in”: a safety cornerstone for EMDR

• Track your best tools with a simple Resource Journal

• You are not broken, and change is possible—EMDR restores choice in the present

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Safety isn’t a side note in trauma therapy—it’s the whole road. In this episode, Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, tackles the real fear many people have about “stirring things up” when they begin EMDR memory work and lays out a clear, practical map for staying safe from start to finish. We dig into three safety pillars baked into EMDR—thorough preparation (building and practicing skills before reprocessing), careful and continuous screening (tailoring the pace to your stability and needs), and formal closure every session (you don’t leave highly activated). You’ll learn the Essential Concept of the day—the Window of Tolerance—using an easy driving-lane metaphor to recognize hyperarousal and hypoarousal and how to steer back into the zone where healing happens. Then we practice the Breathing Shift, a quick, portable exercise that helps your body shift from overwhelm into grounded presence.

Takeaways/Themes: Safety is structured, not improvised; you stay in control of pace and can stop at any time; preparation skills come before memory work; screening guides timing and approach; closure is non-negotiable; the Window of Tolerance is the lane where change happens; the Breathing Shift is a simple tool you can use this week.

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Ever wonder what actually happens in an EMDR session? This orientation-style episode pulls back the curtain so you can feel informed and in control from day one. Hosted by Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, with Kellyn stepping into the role of a first-time client, we walk through what you’ll see, feel, and decide together in the room.

We start with preparation and resourcing—safety, skills, and zero pressure to share the worst memory—then shift to how reprocessing works in short, therapist-guided sets of bilateral stimulation (eyes, taps, tones, or buzzers). You’ll hear how early memories connect to present triggers (TICES) and how EMDR can also build confidence for future events through a “Future Template.”

Notable takeaways: you’re always in the driver’s seat; EMDR is structured and collaborative; BLS has options and happens in brief sets; we use “target language” (NC, PC, SUDs, VOC) to focus work and measure change; a target is considered cleared when SUDs = 0, VOC = 7, and body cues settle. We also guide a skill-building practice—Creating a Calm State—to help your nervous system learn what “okay” feels like and return there on purpose.

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Is EMDR magic? No—but it can feel that way. In this episode of 7 Days Inside: EMDR, Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, pulls back the curtain on why EMDR works without any smoke and mirrors—just solid neuroscience and skilled guidance.

Together with Kellyn, Kyle unpacks what your brain is doing during bilateral stimulation and why results can feel “magical” even when the mechanisms are anything but.

You’ll hear a clear, down-to-earth tour of four leading explanations for EMDR’s effects—the Orienting Response, Working Memory taxation, Memory Reconsolidation, and REM-like processing—and how they likely work together in real sessions. Then the Essential Concept segment introduces TICES (Trigger, Image, Cognition, Emotion, Sensation), a simple map therapists use to target the most charged parts of a memory. Finally, the Skill-Building Exercise guides you through the Spiral Technique, a Phase Two resource for shifting stuck sensations in the body.

Notable takeaways and themes:

• EMDR isn’t hypnosis or “magic”; it’s structured attention paired with BLS that keeps you present and prevents flooding.

• The therapist’s role matters—safety, pacing, and technique turn raw mechanisms into meaningful change.

• TICES helps transform a blurry, overwhelming memory into specific, workable parts.

• The Spiral Technique gives activation a direction, allowing tension to move and release rather than be suppressed.

• The goal isn’t to erase a memory, but to change its emotional imprint so daily life isn’t hijacked by the past.

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EMDR isn’t only for combat trauma or life-threatening events—this episode opens the door to a wider, hopeful picture of healing. Hosted by Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, and Kellyn, Episode 3 explores what EMDR can treat beyond PTSD and why it often helps when current struggles are tied to unresolved experiences from the past. You’ll hear how EMDR addresses “capital T” trauma and the everyday “little t” moments that still carry weight, plus a case example showing how a single invalidating memory can shape beliefs and reactions—and how reprocessing can change them.

We cover:

• What EMDR treats: PTSD first—and also anxiety, attachment wounds, grief, OCD, dissociation, depression (as an adjunct), and more, when problems connect to unprocessed memories.

• Why EMDR can help without a PTSD diagnosis by targeting stuck, unintegrated experiences that continue to drive present-day reactions.

• A practical, essential concept—Dual Awareness—staying grounded in the present while remembering the past so processing stays safe and effective.

• A skill you can practice today—the Butterfly Hug with gentle affirmations—to calm your nervous system and build the regulation needed for reprocessing.

Notable takeaways:

• EMDR is recognized for PTSD and can be adapted for concerns rooted in unresolved experiences.

• “Capital T” vs. “little t” trauma: severity isn’t the only issue—storage and meaning in memory matter.

• Dual Awareness is the condition for healing; if overwhelm shows up, pause and re-ground.

• The Butterfly Hug is portable, simple, and powerful—use it before you need it to strengthen your calm pathway.

If this episode helped, consider following the show or sharing it with a friend, and visit kylelincolncounseling.com for resources. Next up: how EMDR Phase 3 isolates and frames a single memory for treatment.

When does a hard moment become trauma? Think of resilience like ice and a painful event like a heavy stone—when the stone hits thin ice, it shatters. In this episode, Kyle Lincoln, a counselor in Salem, Massachusetts, and Kellyn lay a clear, compassionate foundation for understanding trauma so you can feel ready for EMDR work. You’ll hear who this series is for (folks exploring EMDR or preparing in Phases 1–2), why the show follows a steady three-part rhythm, and how today’s focus sets up everything that comes next.

We explore how trauma forms (distress + helplessness), what breaks (the boundary between past and present, a felt sense of safety), and what often changes in the brain and body (a survival system stuck “on”). Then we unpack today’s essential concept—the Memory Network—linking triggers in the present to touchstone memories in the past. Finally, we preview a practical resourcing skill you can use anywhere: Diaphragmatic Breathing.

Takeaways and themes include: the “stone on ice” picture of vulnerability, how wounding memories can keep intruding into the present, why EMDR traces memory networks back to roots, and how reprocessing can loosen the grip of old beliefs and reactions.

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In the premiere of 7 Days Inside: EMDR, trauma counselor Kyle Lincoln opens up about what led him from frustration in emergency room mental health care to discovering a revolutionary approach to trauma therapy. Learn about the accidental discovery of EMDR by Dr. Francine Shapiro, the science behind Adaptive Information Processing, and how trauma memories can shift from overwhelming experiences into manageable parts of your past. Plus, Kyle and co-host Kellyn guide listeners through the “Light Stream” technique—a foundational EMDR resource to manage emotional distress.

This episode is perfect for anyone curious about EMDR or actively engaged in therapy, providing education, practical skills, and inspiration.

Living with BPD can feel overwhelming, but small, intentional choices can make a meaningful difference. In this final episode, Kyle Lincoln explores what it means to build a life worth living with BPD. Learn how radical acceptance and values-based living offer a practical foundation for navigating emotions, making choices that align with what matters, and staying grounded through life’s challenges. Whether you're just starting your journey or continuing to grow, this episode offers encouragement, clarity, and concrete tools for the road ahead.

Loving and supporting someone with BPD can be challenging, especially when you feel torn between helping and maintaining your own well-being. In this episode, Kyle Lincoln breaks down what effective support looks like—without falling into overfunctioning or burnout. Learn why you can’t “fix” someone else’s BPD, how to set boundaries without guilt, and practical ways to be there for a loved one while still protecting your own mental health. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed in a supportive role, this episode offers clear strategies to help you stay compassionate, balanced, and sustainable in your support.

For years, BPD was considered untreatable, but research has proven otherwise. In this episode, Kyle Lincoln explores four evidence-based therapies designed to help individuals with BPD build stability, regulate emotions, and navigate relationships. From understanding deep-seated patterns in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy to learning practical coping skills in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, this episode breaks down how each approach works and what makes it effective. Whether you're considering therapy or looking to understand treatment options better, this episode provides a roadmap for making meaningful progress.

In this episode of 7 Days Inside: Borderline, Kyle Lincoln explores what happens when a crisis disrupts stability for individuals with BPD—and how to navigate it. Breaking down the three key components of a crisis, Kyle examines why certain responses emerge and how to build a personalized coping toolkit that actually works.

Instead of seeing crises as moments of failure, Kyle reframes them as opportunities for growth. With practical strategies for self-advocacy, crisis planning, and skill-building, this episode provides tools to regain control, reduce distress, and move toward long-term stability.

In this episode of 7 Days Inside: Borderline, Kyle Lincoln explores why emotions can feel so overwhelming for individuals with BPD and how to regain control. With insights on affective instability, emotional regulation, and distress tolerance, Kyle breaks down practical strategies like visualization, grounding, and mental vacations to help navigate emotional waves.

Instead of viewing emotional intensity as a weakness, Kyle reframes it as a hidden strength, offering ways to channel it into resilience, creativity, and empathy. By the end of this episode, listeners will have tangible tools to regulate emotions and embrace their depth without losing balance.

In this episode of 7 Days Inside: Borderline, Kyle Lincoln explores why relationships can feel so intense and unpredictable for individuals with BPD. He explains how struggles with identity, emotional intensity, and fear of abandonment shape relational patterns, making stability difficult to maintain.

Using the metaphor of a “solid, flexible self,” Kyle and Kellyn break down key challenges like splitting, boundary difficulties, and the push-pull dynamic that can create turbulence in relationships. Through practical strategies—mindfulness, reflective listening, and boundary-setting—Kyle offers tools to help listeners stay grounded in their relationships without losing themselves.

By the end of this episode, listeners will have a clearer understanding of how to build healthier, more stable connections while strengthening their sense of self.

In this episode of 7 Days Inside: Borderline, Kyle Lincoln breaks down what BPD is and how it has been historically misunderstood. He explains that the term “borderline” originally described individuals who didn’t fit neatly into early psychiatric categories but has since evolved to capture three core struggles: intense emotional swings, a deep fear of abandonment, and an unstable sense of self. Through two fictional case studies—Elena, who internalizes emotions, and Marcus, who externalizes them—Kyle illustrates how BPD can present differently while still following common patterns. The episode highlights the “paradox of closeness,” where the desire for connection conflicts with the fear of rejection, shaping relationships in complex ways. By the end, listeners better understand BPD beyond stereotypes or casual misuse of the term.