Break Cycles, Not Chanclas: Set boundaries with family, break generational cycles, and parent differently as a first-gen Lati
Tiffany Tuttle-Life Coach for Latinas
24 episodes
1 week ago
If you are a Latina, you probably grew up with most of these toxic family dynamics. But thankfully, the story doesn’t end there. 😂 You actually used each one of these traits to your advantage, and today you’re thriving because of it. You learned how to read the room, hold your own, and lead with both heart and boundaries. That’s not just survival—that’s strategy. So if you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Was my upbringing really that toxic?” or side-eyeing your progress because it doesn’t ...
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If you are a Latina, you probably grew up with most of these toxic family dynamics. But thankfully, the story doesn’t end there. 😂 You actually used each one of these traits to your advantage, and today you’re thriving because of it. You learned how to read the room, hold your own, and lead with both heart and boundaries. That’s not just survival—that’s strategy. So if you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Was my upbringing really that toxic?” or side-eyeing your progress because it doesn’t ...
If you are a Latina, you probably grew up with most of these toxic family dynamics. But thankfully, the story doesn’t end there. 😂 You actually used each one of these traits to your advantage, and today you’re thriving because of it. You learned how to read the room, hold your own, and lead with both heart and boundaries. That’s not just survival—that’s strategy. So if you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Was my upbringing really that toxic?” or side-eyeing your progress because it doesn’t ...
You’ve done the therapy. You’ve set the boundaries. You’re deep in your healing era… but somehow emotional burnout still threatens to sneak in when you least expect it. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 surprising emotional self-care habits that have helped me as a recovering people pleaser put myself first without guilt. These are the shifts I lean on when things are good — not just when I’m falling apart — so I can protect my peace before burnout creeps back in. Because your healing era ...
If you’re raising a strong-willed child and find yourself constantly bracing for pushback—whether it’s from your toddler, your rebellious teenager, or even the well-meaning tías watching your every move—this episode is for you. I'm talking real talk about what it actually looks like to parent differently, especially when you’re the one breaking generational cycles and everyone’s watching how you raise your kids. You don’t need to control everything. In fact, when you stop trying to control ev...
There comes a point where keeping the peace becomes too expensive. In this episode, I’m talking to the first gen Latinas who love their families deeply, but are tired of feeling like they’re always the one swallowing disrespect just to avoid drama. If you’ve been wondering how to deal with family members who disrespect you, or how to handle people who don’t respect boundaries, this is your episode. We’re not burning bridges, we’re building better ones. I’ll walk you through a 3-step app...
Let’s talk about what no one prepared us for: the pressure to succeed in spaces where we’re still feeling like we don’t belong. If you've ever felt torn between honoring where you came from and growing into who you're meant to be, you’re not alone. The feeling of not belonging doesn’t always come from the outside—it can show up as the quiet voice in your head asking, “Do I really fit here?” In this episode, I walk you through the real-time identity shifts that come up when you're doing things...
No one got raptured, now what? If you’ve been side-eyeing every rapture post the past few days— or feeling the collective panic— take a second to breathe. Because wheewww it’s been a rough few weeks! This episode was off the cuff and personal. You’ll hear the three things God put in my heart in this recent wave of chaos that immediately gave me peace. And there’s an exercise in there that will always bring you back to your anchor, no matter what changes around you.&n...
If you’ve ever felt the sting of disappointed parents, or carried the weight of living up to family expectations (that never really aligned with what's important to you), you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like to find peace after family disappointment, especially when the path you chose doesn’t match the one your parents prayed for. We talk about the need for approval, how being a people pleaser shows up even when you think you've “healed,” and why so many ...
Saying no shouldn’t feel like a betrayal. But for many of us—especially if you’re a first gen Latina—it does. We’ll talk about how to hold yourself accountable to the version of you that knows better but sometimes struggles to follow through, and how to stop feeling guilty when it’s time to protect your peace. In this episode, you'll get clear on what it actually takes to enforce boundaries and let go of the people pleasing tendencies that keep you saying yes when you’re mentally drained, o...
Ever feel like you're doing everything for everyone else, and yet no one really sees how much you're carrying? In this episode, I'm talking to my first-gen Latinas who are tired of the lack of communication in a family that expects you to keep the peace—even if it costs you your peace. If you've ever felt misunderstood, pulled in different directions, or unsure how to speak up without guilt, this one's for you. We're diving into the emotional and strategic side of communication with family—es...
If you’ve ever felt like your life doesn’t fully feel like your own because you’re carrying everyone else’s load, this episode is for you. As a Latina, I know what it’s like to be praised as the good daughter and the reliable one, but also to quietly slip into survival mode. We’ve normalized putting everyone else first, but at some point, you have to ask—when do my dreams become a priority? In this conversation, I’m breaking down the inner struggle so many of us carry when it comes to setting...
If you’re a first-gen Latina who is the good girl, the people pleaser, the one who never wants to disappoint anyone, this episode will make you rethink everything. I’ve lived the work grind, the long hours, and the endless yeses—only to find myself stuck in toxic productivity and toxic hustle culture. As a Latina, I know how deep these patterns run, and I want to show you why breaking them is the real key to creating a peaceful life that actually feels like your own. You’ll hear wha...
You’ve done it — you’ve achieved success! The house runs smoothly, the routines are in place, and on paper, everything looks good. But if you’re honest, that doesn’t always mean you’re feeling fulfilled. Sometimes the very things that make life look easy are the things keeping you from asking the deeper questions. In this episode, I’m talking about why keeping the peace can pull you away from living in alignment and what it actually means to live life on your terms. Because here’s the thing —...
If you find it hard to balance being a Boss Bae and being bossed around by kids at snack time, it’s not you — it’s your inherited beliefs about motherhood and success. As entrepreneur moms, we are faced with double the boxes to check: 👸🏻 Launch the program AND sign the field trip form. 👸🏻 Lead the team AND the bedtime routine. 👸🏻 Update the website AND remember to buy more socks (how is there one missing from every pair??!) The pressure to chase balance in motherhood is wearing so many of us ...
You know what they forgot to tell you at your wedding? That you and your husband will see the grocery bill through two completely different childhood experiences until death do you part🤣… Especially if you're in an inter cultural marriage where your views on spending, saving, or investing are coming from two different worlds. This episode is for the first-gen Latina who's doing the inner work, building something different, and finding herself stuck between a vision board and the pressure ...
If you’ve ever sat in your car after a family gathering or social event thinking, “Why do I always feel mentally drained after being around them?”—this one’s for you. As a recovering people pleaser, I know firsthand how heavy it can feel to say no—especially when your identity has been shaped around being the one who always shows up, keeps the peace, and takes care of everyone else. We’re not just talking theory. I’ll walk you through what to do when you feel mentally drained, when you’re out...
Just because things feel out of control, doesn’t mean everything IS out of control. If you’ve ever had one of those mental spiral mornings where the group chat is going off, the toddler’s crying, your calendar’s packed, and you're wondering, “Is it just ME that gets overwhelmed and anxious with the sound of air?? Then honeeeyyy, it’s time to get everything under control! And if you don’t know where to start… you’re gonna love the 3 easy steps I share in this episode! Life is chaotic i...
Ok I had to get the tissues out for this one 😭 If you became a mom and this kind of advice didn’t sit well with you: 👵🏼 Don’t hold the baby, you’ll spoil her! 👵🏼 She’s crying to manipulate you! 👵🏼 If she’s dry and fed, there’s nothing wrong! Then you’re gonna feel so vindicated through this episode!! Becoming a mom made me take a magic eraser to so many things I was taught—and it forced me to set boundaries with family in a whole new way. Navigating the old hispanic parentin...
If you’ve ever been called out for having a helicopter parenting style or faced the gentle parenting backlash from Hispanic parents, this episode is for you. As a Latina woman, I know what it feels like to parent in a way that goes against the grain of Hispanic parenting, And I also know the benefits of leading with conscious parenting and raising kids with emotional intelligence. In this episode, I’m sharing how I hold self trust when the critics say gentle parenting is ridiculous or t...
We’ve been wired to survive, not celebrate. And it’s time to change that. If you’ve ever said: “I’ll save that dress for a special occasion” “I’ll use the fancy plates when guests come over” “I’ll rest once I finish this next thing” this is for you. If you’ve found yourself holding off on celebrating a win because it wasn’t big enough or THE win you were hoping for… you’re not alone. We’re no longer going to be quiet about our joy, delay rest, or dance with s...
If you’re a first gen Latina, you were probably raised to put everyone else’s needs first and feel proud of it. But at some point, that constant self-sacrifice starts to feel less like love and more like an inner struggle you can’t ignore. And when you finally start putting yourself first? The feeling guilty kicks in fast. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when Latina women decide they’re done performing for approval. We’re unpacking the layers of breaking generational cycles, t...
Break Cycles, Not Chanclas: Set boundaries with family, break generational cycles, and parent differently as a first-gen Lati
If you are a Latina, you probably grew up with most of these toxic family dynamics. But thankfully, the story doesn’t end there. 😂 You actually used each one of these traits to your advantage, and today you’re thriving because of it. You learned how to read the room, hold your own, and lead with both heart and boundaries. That’s not just survival—that’s strategy. So if you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Was my upbringing really that toxic?” or side-eyeing your progress because it doesn’t ...
