Break Cycles, Not Chanclas: Set boundaries with family, break generational cycles, and parent differently as a first-gen Lati
Tiffany Tuttle-Life Coach for Latinas
29 episodes
3 weeks ago
If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly holding two worlds at once — your family and your ambitions — this episode is for you. I’m talking about that quiet pressure so many of us carry to be fully present at home while still wanting to grow, build, and use our gifts in the world. Not in a dramatic, everything-is-falling-apart way, but in that steady, low-level tension that never really turns off. In this conversation, I walk through why this feels especially heavy when you were raised to b...
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If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly holding two worlds at once — your family and your ambitions — this episode is for you. I’m talking about that quiet pressure so many of us carry to be fully present at home while still wanting to grow, build, and use our gifts in the world. Not in a dramatic, everything-is-falling-apart way, but in that steady, low-level tension that never really turns off. In this conversation, I walk through why this feels especially heavy when you were raised to b...
If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly holding two worlds at once — your family and your ambitions — this episode is for you. I’m talking about that quiet pressure so many of us carry to be fully present at home while still wanting to grow, build, and use our gifts in the world. Not in a dramatic, everything-is-falling-apart way, but in that steady, low-level tension that never really turns off. In this conversation, I walk through why this feels especially heavy when you were raised to b...
If fun doesn’t come naturally to you as a mom, you are not alone. In this episode, I’m talking about why playful parenting can feel awkward, unfamiliar, or just… not your default when you grew up being the helper, the responsible one, the overachiever. I know exactly what it’s like to want to loosen up with your kids while also feeling that little pull toward structure, productivity, and “let me just finish this one thing first.” And that overachiever in you that turns every moment into...
Until you fully grasp this, you’ll keep walking along the edge of your own breakthrough. Have you’ve ever noticed that when life finally gets calm, the money is flowing, the opportunities are showing up… suddenly you start spiraling about everything and anything?😄 I’m breaking down what really happens when ease enters your life and your nervous system doesn’t know how to handle it. I’m talking about the root of the fear of being judged for changing and evolving. We’re also getti...
The holidays can bring out a special kind of chaos in first-gen families, and if you’ve ever felt the old roles creeping back in the moment you walk through the door, this episode is for you. I’m breaking down what it really looks like to show up as the woman you’ve been becoming—not the girl everyone remembers—and how to set boundaries with family without feeling guilty or dramatic. If you’ve been wondering how to deal with family on Thanksgiving without losing your peace, you’re going...
If you’ve been the one who made a name for yourself by being one of the high achievers in every room… and suddenly life feels quieter than it used to, this episode is for you. This season can feel strange—especially when you’ve stopped seeking validation, you’re no longer driven by the need for validation, and the old high-achieving version of you just doesn’t fit anymore. I call this the in-between space where you find yourself wondering, “Now what?” In this conversation, I’m breaking ...
If you are a Latina, you probably grew up with most of these toxic family dynamics. But thankfully, the story doesn’t end there. 😂 You actually used each one of these traits to your advantage, and today you’re thriving because of it. You learned how to read the room, hold your own, and lead with both heart and boundaries. That’s not just survival—that’s strategy. So if you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Was my upbringing really that toxic?” or side-eyeing your progress because it doesn’t ...
You’ve done the therapy. You’ve set the boundaries. You’re deep in your healing era… but somehow emotional burnout still threatens to sneak in when you least expect it. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 surprising emotional self-care habits that have helped me as a recovering people pleaser put myself first without guilt. These are the shifts I lean on when things are good — not just when I’m falling apart — so I can protect my peace before burnout creeps back in. Because your healing era ...
If you’re raising a strong-willed child and find yourself constantly bracing for pushback—whether it’s from your toddler, your rebellious teenager, or even the well-meaning tías watching your every move—this episode is for you. I'm talking real talk about what it actually looks like to parent differently, especially when you’re the one breaking generational cycles and everyone’s watching how you raise your kids. You don’t need to control everything. In fact, when you stop trying to control ev...
There comes a point where keeping the peace becomes too expensive. In this episode, I’m talking to the first gen Latinas who love their families deeply, but are tired of feeling like they’re always the one swallowing disrespect just to avoid drama. If you’ve been wondering how to deal with family members who disrespect you, or how to handle people who don’t respect boundaries, this is your episode. We’re not burning bridges, we’re building better ones. I’ll walk you through a 3-step app...
Let’s talk about what no one prepared us for: the pressure to succeed in spaces where we’re still feeling like we don’t belong. If you've ever felt torn between honoring where you came from and growing into who you're meant to be, you’re not alone. The feeling of not belonging doesn’t always come from the outside—it can show up as the quiet voice in your head asking, “Do I really fit here?” In this episode, I walk you through the real-time identity shifts that come up when you're doing things...
No one got raptured, now what? If you’ve been side-eyeing every rapture post the past few days— or feeling the collective panic— take a second to breathe. Because wheewww it’s been a rough few weeks! This episode was off the cuff and personal. You’ll hear the three things God put in my heart in this recent wave of chaos that immediately gave me peace. And there’s an exercise in there that will always bring you back to your anchor, no matter what changes around you.&n...
If you’ve ever felt the sting of disappointed parents, or carried the weight of living up to family expectations (that never really aligned with what's important to you), you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like to find peace after family disappointment, especially when the path you chose doesn’t match the one your parents prayed for. We talk about the need for approval, how being a people pleaser shows up even when you think you've “healed,” and why so many ...
Saying no shouldn’t feel like a betrayal. But for many of us—especially if you’re a first gen Latina—it does. We’ll talk about how to hold yourself accountable to the version of you that knows better but sometimes struggles to follow through, and how to stop feeling guilty when it’s time to protect your peace. In this episode, you'll get clear on what it actually takes to enforce boundaries and let go of the people pleasing tendencies that keep you saying yes when you’re mentally drained, o...
Ever feel like you're doing everything for everyone else, and yet no one really sees how much you're carrying? In this episode, I'm talking to my first-gen Latinas who are tired of the lack of communication in a family that expects you to keep the peace—even if it costs you your peace. If you've ever felt misunderstood, pulled in different directions, or unsure how to speak up without guilt, this one's for you. We're diving into the emotional and strategic side of communication with family—es...
If you’ve ever felt like your life doesn’t fully feel like your own because you’re carrying everyone else’s load, this episode is for you. As a Latina, I know what it’s like to be praised as the good daughter and the reliable one, but also to quietly slip into survival mode. We’ve normalized putting everyone else first, but at some point, you have to ask—when do my dreams become a priority? In this conversation, I’m breaking down the inner struggle so many of us carry when it comes to setting...
If you’re a first-gen Latina who is the good girl, the people pleaser, the one who never wants to disappoint anyone, this episode will make you rethink everything. I’ve lived the work grind, the long hours, and the endless yeses—only to find myself stuck in toxic productivity and toxic hustle culture. As a Latina, I know how deep these patterns run, and I want to show you why breaking them is the real key to creating a peaceful life that actually feels like your own. You’ll hear wha...
You’ve done it — you’ve achieved success! The house runs smoothly, the routines are in place, and on paper, everything looks good. But if you’re honest, that doesn’t always mean you’re feeling fulfilled. Sometimes the very things that make life look easy are the things keeping you from asking the deeper questions. In this episode, I’m talking about why keeping the peace can pull you away from living in alignment and what it actually means to live life on your terms. Because here’s the thing —...
If you find it hard to balance being a Boss Bae and being bossed around by kids at snack time, it’s not you — it’s your inherited beliefs about motherhood and success. As entrepreneur moms, we are faced with double the boxes to check: 👸🏻 Launch the program AND sign the field trip form. 👸🏻 Lead the team AND the bedtime routine. 👸🏻 Update the website AND remember to buy more socks (how is there one missing from every pair??!) The pressure to chase balance in motherhood is wearing so many of us ...
You know what they forgot to tell you at your wedding? That you and your husband will see the grocery bill through two completely different childhood experiences until death do you part🤣… Especially if you're in an inter cultural marriage where your views on spending, saving, or investing are coming from two different worlds. This episode is for the first-gen Latina who's doing the inner work, building something different, and finding herself stuck between a vision board and the pressure ...
If you’ve ever sat in your car after a family gathering or social event thinking, “Why do I always feel mentally drained after being around them?”—this one’s for you. As a recovering people pleaser, I know firsthand how heavy it can feel to say no—especially when your identity has been shaped around being the one who always shows up, keeps the peace, and takes care of everyone else. We’re not just talking theory. I’ll walk you through what to do when you feel mentally drained, when you’re out...
Break Cycles, Not Chanclas: Set boundaries with family, break generational cycles, and parent differently as a first-gen Lati
If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly holding two worlds at once — your family and your ambitions — this episode is for you. I’m talking about that quiet pressure so many of us carry to be fully present at home while still wanting to grow, build, and use our gifts in the world. Not in a dramatic, everything-is-falling-apart way, but in that steady, low-level tension that never really turns off. In this conversation, I walk through why this feels especially heavy when you were raised to b...
