You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or ho...
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You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or ho...
You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or ho...
You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a practiced one. Whether it’s a big presentation, a negotiation, or a quick meeting that could escalate fast, how you prepare can make or break the outcome. In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason women get sidelined in high-stakes conversations and how to train yourself to stay grounded, focused, and agile no matter what comes up. These aren’t hypothetical tips. This is what top leaders actually do to stay ready, even when the conversation t...
Are you growing as a leader, or just collecting titles? That’s the question I explored with my guest Tinna Jackson, a powerhouse with experience in politics, nonprofits, and corporate leadership. We talk about what happens when your job no longer fits, how to recognize your natural talents, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional if you want to lead well. There’s always room for growth if you're willing to look beyond your current role. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize when...
Last week we talked about how to give feedback that actually lands. This week, we’re flipping it. Are you getting the kind of feedback that helps you grow? And more importantly, are you using it? The higher you go in your career, the harder it gets to hear the truth. People assume you’ve got it figured out. They hold back. And unless you’re actively inviting feedback and knowing what to do with it, you miss critical opportunities to grow and evolve your brand as a leader. In this episode, I’m...
Giving feedback isn’t the hard part. Making sure it actually lands is where most leaders fall short. If you’re not checking how your message is received or if you're only speaking up when something goes wrong, your feedback might be doing more harm than good. In this episode, I’m walking you through what it really means to deliver feedback that builds trust, clarity, and growth. Whether you're managing a team or mentoring a peer, how you approach these conversations can be the difference betw...
Getting what you want isn’t always about asking for more. Sometimes it starts with unlearning everything that told you not to. Karen Ansen didn’t follow the traditional career path. She became a lawyer in her 40s, built her own firm, and now advises boards and executives across Australia. However, the real transformation occurred when she stopped waiting for permission and began trusting her own voice. In this episode, we discuss how she built confidence from scratch, navigated self-doubt, an...
If you think delegation is just about getting things off your plate, I want to challenge that. When done well, it’s a strategy for leadership, trust, and growth. But most of us fall into the habit of doing too much, holding on too long, or checking in so much that we defeat the purpose entirely. In this episode, I’m sharing what effective delegation really looks like, and how to use it as a tool to develop your team, build trust, and free yourself up to lead. Because if you’re the one doing e...
Some people need a nudge to raise their hand. Others have to learn when to wait. But what happens when ambition outpaces readiness? In this conversation with my friend and seasoned operations leader Jessica Delis, we explore the tension between growing into a role and rushing toward it. Jessica shares what she’s learned from promoting leaders too early, what great leadership actually looks like, and why asking questions, lots of them, is the real power move. This episode is full of practical ...
You can have a solid plan. You can know exactly what you want to say. And still, in the moment, emotions take over. Your body tightens, your brain fogs, and suddenly you’re second-guessing everything. We all get hijacked like this. Even the best negotiators. But the difference is, they know how to notice it and keep moving anyway. In this episode, I’m talking about what emotional pressure really does to your decision-making, how it shows up when the stakes feel high, and what to do when your ...
Ever walk into a meeting and immediately lose your footing, even though you were completely prepared? There’s a reason for that. Too many of us focus only on what we’re going to say, not where we’re saying it or who actually holds the power. In this episode, I’m sharing the overlooked skills that separate confident communicators from everyone else. From reading the power dynamics in the room to knowing exactly when to stop talking and close, this is about making your ask count. If you’re not ...
Getting what you want doesn’t start with doing more. It starts with knowing what matters and letting go of what doesn’t. This week I’m joined by my friend Monisha Longacre, author of Practical Productivity and founder of Productivity 101. She’s spent decades leading in tech and building systems that help high performers stop spinning and start choosing. We talk about how easy it is to give your time away without even realizing it, and why real productivity starts with clarity. If you’ve been ...
Not all feedback is helpful. Sometimes it's vague. Sometimes it's self-serving. And sometimes it hits a nerve even when it doesn't feel true. If you’ve ever been told something like "you're not strategic enough" and didn’t know how to respond, this episode will help you find your next step. I’m sharing how to handle feedback that feels off, how to keep it from derailing your confidence, and what it really means to manage perception as a leader. Feedback is just data. What matters is what you ...
Ever walked away from a conversation with a senior leader and wondered, did they even hear me? It’s not just what you say that matters. It’s how you say it, when you say it, and whether you’ve thought about what they need from you. Executive communication isn’t about filling space or adding polish. It’s about clarity, timing, and making it easy for someone to say yes. In this episode, I’m sharing what actually works when you need your message to land, whether you’re presenting in a room, send...
We wait. For permission. For someone to notice. For the timing to be right. But the truth is, your career doesn’t move forward just because you’re doing great work. It moves when you opt in. Cerys Goodall, COO of Vetster, knows this firsthand. She went from biotech dropout to C-suite leader by saying yes before she felt ready. In this conversation, we talk about what shifts when you stop waiting and start raising your hand. Whether you’re trying to grow your influence, navigate internal polit...
Ever notice how fast you jump in to fill a quiet moment? But what if silence isn’t something to avoid, it’s something to use. In this episode, I’m digging into why silence might be the most powerful thing you don’t say. Whether you’re negotiating, leading a meeting, or just having a one-on-one, those few seconds of quiet could be the difference between misunderstanding and connection. I’ll walk you through the research, the mindset shift, and why silence isn’t awkward. It’s intentional. You’l...
We tend to picture negotiations happening in boardrooms, but the real opportunities? They show up in hallways, at the end of meetings, in the quiet moments when you're not quite ready but should be. If you're not clear on what you want or how to ask for it, those moments pass. And when they do, someone else’s name gets mentioned instead of yours. In this episode, I’m talking about how clarity creates opportunity and why casual conversations often shape the biggest decisions. It’s not about ha...
You know that temptation to say “I’ll do anything” when you’re ready for something new? My guest today, Seyka Mejeur, is here to challenge that thinking. As the CEO of an executive search firm placing technical leaders in space and climate, Seyka spends her days helping founders and execs clarify what they actually want so they can make better decisions, faster. We talked about how lack of clarity gets in your way more than you realize, why being “great at a lot of things” isn’t enough, and h...
Think someone else just “got lucky” with that big opportunity? I used to believe that too. Until I started paying attention. In this episode, I’m sharing what really sets opportunity-spotters apart. It’s not magic. It’s not hustle. It’s observation and initiative. If you’ve been waiting for someone to notice your work or hand you your next move, this is your reminder: visibility is something you create. I’ll walk you through how to train your brain to notice what's in front of you and shift f...
You’ve got the experience. You’re delivering results. So why does asking for more still feel... off? Today I’m talking about the internal blockers that hold us back from advocating for ourselves, especially when it comes to money, promotions, or recognition. It’s not just about timing or strategy. It’s the stories we tell ourselves about being selfish, ungrateful, or difficult. I’ll walk you through a new lens for thinking about your value, and how to ask in a way that’s thoughtful, dat...
You walk into a high stakes conversation certain you’ll get a green light. One curveball later, you’re staring at a “maybe” or, worse, a flat out no. Today I’m sharing why relying on optimism alone keeps us stuck and how a few minutes of strategic prep can save the day. I’ll show you how my client went from deer-in-headlights to confident negotiator by planning for the answer she didn’t want to hear. You’ll leave knowing exactly how to stay calm, protect your value, and keep the conversation ...
You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or ho...
