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How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok

173 episodes

1 day ago

If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need. In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more you understand that, the more prepared you’ll be to show up th...

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If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need. In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more you understand that, the more prepared you’ll be to show up th...

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Society & Culture,

Self-Improvement,

Episodes (20/173)

How to Get What You Want

How to Lead When Confidence Wanes

If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need. In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more you understand that, the more prepared you’ll be to show up th...

1 day ago

23 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Build Career Options Before You Need Them

If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic? Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next move but you. In this episode, I’m sharing a core negotiator mindset shift: build your BATNA before you need it. You’ll hear what a senior leader told me about how he evaluates his team’s preparedness, and why confidence doesn’t come from certainty. It com...

1 week ago

20 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Are You Diluting Your Power Without Realizing It?

It’s not just what you ask for. It’s how you ask for it. In this episode, I’m walking through three deceptively simple strategies that have helped countless women shift how they show up, how they’re perceived, and how confidently they navigate their work. If you’ve ever walked away from a meeting thinking, I could have handled that differently, this is for you. We’re talking about silence, framing, and the ask. These aren’t nice-to-haves. They’re everyday negotiation tools that sharpen your i...

2 weeks ago

29 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Why Smart Women Miss Opportunities

Sometimes we know exactly what we want, but we don’t raise our hand. We hesitate. We wait. And the opportunity passes us by. In this episode, I’m talking about what holds us back from stepping up, why hesitation costs more than we think, and how to catch ourselves in the moments we stay small. Smart women miss out. Not because they’re unqualified. Because they don’t prepare for the moment when opportunity quietly appears. Let’s change that. You’ll walk away knowing what to look for, wha...

3 weeks ago

18 minutes

How to Get What You Want

When Your Boss Pulls Away, Is It You or Them?

One day you’re having regular one-on-ones with your boss, and the next? Silence. Fewer meetings. Less context. No feedback. It’s easy to assume it’s personal, but is it? In this episode, I’m talking about what’s really going on when a leader suddenly gets quiet and how to manage up without spiraling into insecurity. If you’ve ever felt like your boss’s behavior changed overnight, this conversation will help you step back, zoom out, and approach the situation with clarity and confidence. You’l...

4 weeks ago

17 minutes

How to Get What You Want

How Confidence Changes the Conversation

Ever seen someone walk into a room and instantly command it, without saying a word? That’s confidence. Not ego, not arrogance. Just belief. And belief is leverage. In this episode, I’m talking about the power of calibrated confidence—why it influences others, how it opens up opportunities, and what it actually looks like in a negotiation. You don’t have to fake it. But you do have to find it, own it, and use it. Whether you're walking into a high-stakes meeting or making an ask that makes you...

1 month ago

13 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Are You Leaving or Leading?

Most people put all their focus on the new job when they leave a role. But if that’s where your attention ends, you’re missing a huge opportunity. I want to show you how to leave well, not just logistically, but strategically. In this episode, I’m walking you through a real example of how one woman made a career move with intention, influence, and grace. Because how you exit matters just as much as how you show up. Your influence doesn’t end when your badge turns in. If you’re planning a move...

1 month ago

17 minutes

How to Get What You Want

What Happens When Certainty Disappears

You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or ho...

1 month ago

19 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Get Ready So You Don’t Get Sidelined

You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a practiced one. Whether it’s a big presentation, a negotiation, or a quick meeting that could escalate fast, how you prepare can make or break the outcome. In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason women get sidelined in high-stakes conversations and how to train yourself to stay grounded, focused, and agile no matter what comes up. These aren’t hypothetical tips. This is what top leaders actually do to stay ready, even when the conversation t...

1 month ago

15 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Are You Growing or Just Getting Promoted? with Tinna Jackson

Are you growing as a leader, or just collecting titles? That’s the question I explored with my guest Tinna Jackson, a powerhouse with experience in politics, nonprofits, and corporate leadership. We talk about what happens when your job no longer fits, how to recognize your natural talents, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional if you want to lead well. There’s always room for growth if you're willing to look beyond your current role. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize when...

2 months ago

24 minutes

How to Get What You Want

How to Receive Feedback and Actually Use It

Last week we talked about how to give feedback that actually lands. This week, we’re flipping it. Are you getting the kind of feedback that helps you grow? And more importantly, are you using it? The higher you go in your career, the harder it gets to hear the truth. People assume you’ve got it figured out. They hold back. And unless you’re actively inviting feedback and knowing what to do with it, you miss critical opportunities to grow and evolve your brand as a leader. In this episode, I’m...

2 months ago

13 minutes

How to Get What You Want

How to Give Feedback That Actually Lands

Giving feedback isn’t the hard part. Making sure it actually lands is where most leaders fall short. If you’re not checking how your message is received or if you're only speaking up when something goes wrong, your feedback might be doing more harm than good. In this episode, I’m walking you through what it really means to deliver feedback that builds trust, clarity, and growth. Whether you're managing a team or mentoring a peer, how you approach these conversations can be the difference betw...

2 months ago

16 minutes

How to Get What You Want

What Would Happen If You Couldn’t Fail? with Karen Ansen

Getting what you want isn’t always about asking for more. Sometimes it starts with unlearning everything that told you not to. Karen Ansen didn’t follow the traditional career path. She became a lawyer in her 40s, built her own firm, and now advises boards and executives across Australia. However, the real transformation occurred when she stopped waiting for permission and began trusting her own voice. In this episode, we discuss how she built confidence from scratch, navigated self-doubt, an...

2 months ago

24 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Delegation Is a Leadership Skill, Not a Task Dump

If you think delegation is just about getting things off your plate, I want to challenge that. When done well, it’s a strategy for leadership, trust, and growth. But most of us fall into the habit of doing too much, holding on too long, or checking in so much that we defeat the purpose entirely. In this episode, I’m sharing what effective delegation really looks like, and how to use it as a tool to develop your team, build trust, and free yourself up to lead. Because if you’re the one doing e...

3 months ago

17 minutes

How to Get What You Want

The Space Between Ambition and Readiness with Jessica Delis

Some people need a nudge to raise their hand. Others have to learn when to wait. But what happens when ambition outpaces readiness? In this conversation with my friend and seasoned operations leader Jessica Delis, we explore the tension between growing into a role and rushing toward it. Jessica shares what she’s learned from promoting leaders too early, what great leadership actually looks like, and why asking questions, lots of them, is the real power move. This episode is full of practical ...

3 months ago

19 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Are Your Emotions Getting in the Way of What You Want?

You can have a solid plan. You can know exactly what you want to say. And still, in the moment, emotions take over. Your body tightens, your brain fogs, and suddenly you’re second-guessing everything. We all get hijacked like this. Even the best negotiators. But the difference is, they know how to notice it and keep moving anyway. In this episode, I’m talking about what emotional pressure really does to your decision-making, how it shows up when the stakes feel high, and what to do when your ...

3 months ago

18 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Get Out of Your Head and Into the Room

Ever walk into a meeting and immediately lose your footing, even though you were completely prepared? There’s a reason for that. Too many of us focus only on what we’re going to say, not where we’re saying it or who actually holds the power. In this episode, I’m sharing the overlooked skills that separate confident communicators from everyone else. From reading the power dynamics in the room to knowing exactly when to stop talking and close, this is about making your ask count. If you’re not ...

3 months ago

20 minutes

How to Get What You Want

What’s on Your To-Don’t List? with Monisha Longacre

Getting what you want doesn’t start with doing more. It starts with knowing what matters and letting go of what doesn’t. This week I’m joined by my friend Monisha Longacre, author of Practical Productivity and founder of Productivity 101. She’s spent decades leading in tech and building systems that help high performers stop spinning and start choosing. We talk about how easy it is to give your time away without even realizing it, and why real productivity starts with clarity. If you’ve been ...

4 months ago

27 minutes

How to Get What You Want

What To Do When Feedback Feels Wrong

Not all feedback is helpful. Sometimes it's vague. Sometimes it's self-serving. And sometimes it hits a nerve even when it doesn't feel true. If you’ve ever been told something like "you're not strategic enough" and didn’t know how to respond, this episode will help you find your next step. I’m sharing how to handle feedback that feels off, how to keep it from derailing your confidence, and what it really means to manage perception as a leader. Feedback is just data. What matters is what you ...

4 months ago

21 minutes

How to Get What You Want

Are You Communicating Like an Executive?

Ever walked away from a conversation with a senior leader and wondered, did they even hear me? It’s not just what you say that matters. It’s how you say it, when you say it, and whether you’ve thought about what they need from you. Executive communication isn’t about filling space or adding polish. It’s about clarity, timing, and making it easy for someone to say yes. In this episode, I’m sharing what actually works when you need your message to land, whether you’re presenting in a room, send...

4 months ago

25 minutes