Do you constantly feel the need to control your relationship—like if you don’t, something will fall apart? In today’s episode, we unpack why control isn’t about power, it’s about fear… and how trying to manage every outcome can actually destroy the very connection you’re trying to protect. You’ll learn:
The hidden reason control shows up in your relationships
How control often leads to emotional distance, resentment, and self-sabotage
The powerful shift from control to influence—and how to lead with inspiration, not fear
Why trusting yourself is the real key to releasing the grip
Journal prompts and inner work questions to help you build emotional security and internal trust
This one is for anyone who feels exhausted trying to “hold everything together.” Learn how to release the pressure, reconnect with yourself, and build love that grows from freedom—not force.
Before you answer that text or romantic “I miss you” speech from your ex, let’s talk facts. In this eye-opening episode, Coach Los breaks down real statistics and psychological truths behind getting back with your ex—especially if they just got out of a rebound. The numbers don’t lie, but more importantly, neither does the emotional cost.
You’ll learn:
Why only 32% of exes reunite—and only 18% last a year
How rebounds create false healing and distorted clarity
The hormone trap your ex is falling into—and why it pulls you in too
Why emotional passion ≠ genuine growth or accountability
What to look for (and ask) to know for sure if it’s different this time
Plus, Coach Los shares a personal story of his own rebound experience and the powerful insight that changed everything.
❗Don’t romanticize the reunion—scrutinize it.
If they haven’t healed, if you haven’t grown, and if nothing’s been addressed—you’re just walking back into the same storm with less shelter.
Sometimes, the real issue in your relationship isn’t your partner—it’s you vs. your own life. In this powerful episode, Coach Los breaks down how your personal unhappiness, stress, and burnout often spill into your relationship, creating conflict where there shouldn't be any. From work pressure to unresolved self-esteem battles, many couples are fighting symptoms, not the root.
You’ll learn:
How to recognize when your personal life is bleeding into your love life
4 subtle signs your partner is becoming your emotional punching bag
The mindset shift that stops unnecessary fights before they start
Why taking ownership of your individual happiness protects your relationship
Whether you're constantly snapping at your partner or just feeling disconnected and don't know why—this episode will show you how to course correct and bring peace back to your dynamic.
Think catfishing is your biggest online dating threat? Think again. “Kittenfishing” is the sneakier little sibling—and it’s happening way more than you think.
In this eye-opening episode, Coach Los breaks down:
What kittenfishing really is (and how it’s different from catfishing)
The subtle ways people misrepresent themselves online—without technically “lying”
Why free dating apps are the most dangerous for serious seekers
The illusion of options that’s sabotaging your love life
The only way to vet real compatibility before wasting weeks of messages
Whether you’re dating online, burned out, or just want a smarter strategy to find real connection, this is your blueprint for avoiding fluff profiles and actually meeting someone aligned with your values.
If you keep reacting without thinking—and later regret what you said or did—you’re not alone. But those snap reactions could be the very thing ruining your connection.
In this episode, Coach Los breaks down the real difference between reacting and responding in relationships—and why mastering that skill could save yours.
You’ll learn:
Why reacting is rooted in your primal wiring—not your personality
What emotional intelligence really means (and how to build it)
How emotional maturity turns awareness into action
3 questions to ask yourself before speaking when triggered
A simple but powerful example of how to pause before blowing up
This episode gives you the emotional strategy and language to regulate your triggers instead of letting them run your relationship.
Whether you're fighting too often or just want to grow into a better partner, this is a masterclass in calm, conscious communication.
You’re spending time together, getting close, maybe even talking daily—but why does it still feel like you don’t really exist in their world?
In this episode, Coach Los breaks down the #1 sign you’re building a fake relationship instead of a real one: you’re being pocketed. That means you're kept hidden from their inner circle—friends, family, or even public spaces that matter to them.
We’re diving deep into:
The difference between real emotional connection vs. a secret one
What “pocketing” looks like in everyday dating
How long is too long before you meet someone important in their life
Signs they’re avoiding public acknowledgment of you
Four key reasons why people pocket partners (and what it says about their intentions)
What to do when you realize the relationship isn’t as real as it felt
This is your wake-up call to get clear on whether you’re being chosen or just convenient.
🧠 If you’re feeling confused or stuck, this episode will help you spot the signs and make a decision rooted in your self-worth.
It’s one thing to get ghosted—painful, frustrating, confusing. But what happens when that same person shows up again weeks or months later, acting like nothing ever happened?
That’s what we call “zombieing.” And in this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what to do when the ghost comes back from the dead.
We’ll talk about:
Why zombieing is emotional manipulation—masked as casual reconnection
How to spot the red flags and avoid the internal mind games they trigger
The critical conversations that must happen before you even think about re-engaging
And most importantly, how to protect your self-worth when someone tries to re-enter your life without respect or explanation
Listen in if you’ve ever felt torn when a ghost pops back up, and you’re wondering whether to give them another chance—or finally shut that door for good.
🧠 Clarity is power. Don’t rationalize disrespect. And don’t let them resurrect into your life without accountability.
Let’s get it 🤙🏾
If you’ve ever been ghosted, dumped without warning, or stuck wondering why your partner treats you poorly despite you showing up with love and effort—this episode is for you. I break down the real reason you keep questioning yourself after being hurt by someone else: you're trying to use healthy logic to make sense of an unhealthy mindset. You'll learn why it never adds up, how to stop internalizing their behavior, and what to focus on instead to find peace and clarity. This is the episode you didn’t know you needed to break free from overthinking and blame.
Trust isn’t just about whether they’ve lied or cheated—it's deeper than that. In this episode, I break down the three hidden reasons you still can’t trust your partner, even when they claim they’ve changed (or maybe haven’t even done anything wrong). We cover everything from repeated betrayal, to lack of a clear vetting system, to the most overlooked reason of all: not trusting yourself. I’ll show you how to rebuild trust step-by-step—from assessing their actions to strengthening your own inner compass. If you’re tired of second-guessing and want to finally feel secure in your relationship, this is the episode for you.
Tired of hearing “good men and women exist” but never seeing them in real life? This episode gives you a game plan. I’m breaking down the three specific tiers of places where quality partners are most likely to be found—and why most people are looking in all the wrong spaces. We’ll talk about lifestyle design, intentional environments, and how to position yourself in places that align with both who you are and what you want in a relationship. This isn’t about chasing—this is about attracting through alignment.
Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (Even When You Know You Should)
Breaking up isn’t just emotional—it’s biological. In this powerful episode, Coach Los breaks down the neuroscience, neurochemistry, and attachment patterns that make walking away from a relationship feel impossible, even when it was toxic or no longer right for you.
You’ll learn:
Why your body literally goes into withdrawal after a breakup
How oxytocin, dopamine, and neural pathways keep you stuck on your ex
The hidden fear behind “Who am I without them?”
How your attachment style impacts your ability to move on
Step-by-step tools to reclaim your identity, rewire your brain, and start healing for real
If you’ve ever beat yourself up for still missing someone who hurt you—or questioned why you can’t just “move on already”—this episode will bring the clarity, science, and strategy you’ve been needing.
🎙️ Episode: Why “Getting Back to You” After a Breakup Isn’t Healing (It’s Hiding)
You’re hitting the gym, spending time with friends, working overtime, and chasing goals—but are you really healing?
In this episode, we’re breaking down a trap that too many people fall into after a breakup: using productivity and self-care as a distraction from doing the actual emotional work. If you’ve ever convinced yourself you’ve moved on just because you’re “doing better” on the outside, this is your wake-up call.
You’ll learn:
Why distractions dressed as self-improvement sabotage your healing
How unprocessed pain shows up later—in new relationships, in self-doubt, and in triggers
What real emotional healing actually looks and feels like
How to start moving through your pain intentionally, instead of just moving around it
Because healing isn’t just about staying busy. It’s about being brave enough to sit with what hurts—so it can finally stop hurting.
🎙️ Episode: The Question You’re Scared to Ask Your Partner (But Need To)
What if the one question you’ve been too afraid to ask your partner is the exact one that could save your relationship?
In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most avoided—but necessary—questions in any relationship: “Do you feel supported by me in the way you truly need?” Most people avoid this because deep down, they fear the answer will confirm their insecurities or expose uncomfortable truths. But not asking? That silently erodes connection, trust, and intimacy over time.
You’ll learn:
Why asking this question triggers fear (and how to overcome it)
How self-worth affects your ability to receive feedback without spiraling
The difference between your identity and your performance as a partner
The right mindset to hear the truth without defensiveness
How to open the door for honest dialogue that actually strengthens your relationship
Plus, I’ll break down how this one question can transform not just your relationship—but also how your partner shows up for you in return.
If you’re ready for more courageous love, real growth, and deeper connection, this episode is for you.
There’s one question that can quietly destroy trust in your relationship—and most people ask it without realizing the damage it causes.
In this episode, Coach Los breaks down why asking “Are you going to leave me?” can actually push your partner away and create fear, resentment, and emotional distance over time—even when you’re just looking for reassurance.
You’ll learn:
✔️ Why that question triggers emotional burden in your partner
✔️ How it fuels your own insecurity and anxiety
✔️ What to ask instead to create connection, safety, and clarity
✔️ The power of empowering questions that build trust—not fear
This episode isn’t just about communication—it’s about protecting your peace and deepening intimacy in the way you ask for it.
Let’s get it. 🤙🏾
Still unsure whether to stay or walk away? This episode gives you the clarity you’ve been craving.
Coach Los breaks down the one simple test that reveals whether your relationship can truly be saved—or if trying to fix it would mean losing yourself in the process.
You’ll learn:
✔️ Why indecision quietly kills relationships
✔️ The danger of mistaking compromise for self-abandonment
✔️ How to separate identity from ego when working through conflict
✔️ The core difference between a dealbreaker and a growth opportunity
If finding peace means betraying your core values, it’s time to go. But if love is still possible without losing yourself, this episode will help you find the path forward—with confidence.
Let’s get it. 🤙🏾
Setting boundaries isn’t mean—it’s self-respect.
In this episode, Coach Los walks you through how to set clear, loving boundaries without the guilt that usually follows. You’ll learn how to stop feeling bad for protecting your peace and start seeing boundaries as essential to healthy love.
You’ll get practical tips to:
✔️ Reframe boundaries as self-care, not selfishness
✔️ Communicate limits without blame or conflict
✔️ Practice self-compassion when guilt creeps in
✔️ Reinforce your confidence with the right support
If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “too harsh” or “too much” when you speak your needs, this episode will help you find your power—without losing your heart.
Let’s get it. 🤙🏾
Not all toxic relationships look like chaos on the outside—sometimes it’s the subtle signs that do the most damage. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down five hidden patterns that might be draining your peace without you realizing it, from passive-aggressive jokes to emotional hot-and-cold cycles. You’ll also learn how to identify, confront, and begin to break free from these toxic dynamics—whether that means walking away or rewriting the rules together. If your relationship leaves you questioning your worth, this one’s a must-listen.
5 Surprising Reasons Your Ex Left (And How to Heal Faster From It)
Sometimes breakups don’t come with clear explanations—and the real reasons your ex walked away might surprise you. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down five unexpected yet powerful reasons your relationship may have ended, many of which are easy to miss in the moment.
This isn’t about blame—it’s about clarity and healing. You’ll learn how to reflect with honesty, grow from the experience, and rebuild your confidence so you don’t repeat the same patterns. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or still struggling to make sense of one, this episode gives you the insight and tools to move forward stronger than ever.
Let’s get it 🤙🏾
Why Relationships Fall Apart After the Honeymoon Phase (And What to Do About It)
Most people think their relationship started falling apart because their partner “changed” after the honeymoon phase. But what if the real reason was something deeper—something within you? In this episode, Coach Los breaks down the overlooked root cause behind why so many promising relationships lose their spark after the early excitement fades.
If you’ve ever wondered why your relationship felt great in the beginning but slowly unraveled, this episode gives you the clarity you didn’t know you needed. You’ll walk away with a powerful reminder about showing up as your full, unapologetic self—and how doing so can change everything for the better.
If you're struggling to get over a breakup and asking yourself, "Why am I still stuck?"—this episode is your breakthrough.
Coach Los walks you through a powerful mental reset that uses your own life story to help you move on. He reveals how the challenges you’ve already overcome in the past hold the key to conquering the heartbreak you're facing now.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your pain isn't just about the breakup—it’s about the meaning you gave it
How to scale your heartbreak against past struggles to build real emotional strength
A step-by-step mindset shift that puts your healing back in your hands
The top 3 internal muscles you already have that can move you through this pain
This is more than motivation—it’s practical healing strategy rooted in your own journey. If you've made it through worse, you'll make it through this too.