Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having big feelings with your own big feelings. #coregulation #conflicttools #communication #gaslighting

Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doing new or hard things when you have the support of at least one other person who can encourage you and catch you if you stumble. #whohasyourback #askforhelp #doinghardthings #parenting

Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being rejected. It is generally associated with neurodivergent populations like spectrum disorder or ADHD. People will tend to be sensitive to being rejected or othered when they behave differently than their peers or people around them. This can create behavior like conflict avoidance or people pleasing which relates to codependency. It can also lead to people withdrawing from others or anxiety about how they are perceived. #RSD #attachmentstyle #anxiety #mentalhealth #authenticself #secureattachment

Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we are all struggling with the feelings exhaustion and stress, basically burned out. Identifying our boundaries can help manage some of those feelings. #burnout #boundaries #mentalhealth #takeabreak

Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give that to you, you can walk away. We get to choose who has access to us and our resources. #healthylove #boundaries #mentalhealth #estrangedparents #entitlement 

Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging environments, we'll explore how relationships can also fail to flourish without consistent effort and attention. #relationships #thriving #ittakeseffort #skillbuilding

Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an awareness of dealing with and working through it. We learn how to make things smooth again and gain the tools tools to work through hard times. #grit #adversity #resilience #makingithrough

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't feel sad, they don't feel anything. This is part of what chronic depression feels like for many people. #depression #anhedonia #mentalhealth #alanis #sgs2025

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting 

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better. Doing something from beginning to end helps us move forward in life creating a bit of order in the chaos. Managing our anxiety or ADHD, its helpful to pick one things at time, to work through it, and close the loop on the task to feel we are getting things done. #closingtheloop #orderfromchaos #ADHD #anxiety #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It might be helpful to control what we can in the moment. Just a reminder that we have gotten through every hard thing we have ever been dealt before now. Protect your peace. #dontgiveup #seasonaldepression #protectyourpeace #controlwhatyoucan

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We can notice that some people will use us to validate how they feel about themselves. It is helpful to notice if you are playing into their narrative. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after those confrontations. Increase your awareness of what your own emotional experience is in the interactions with people you often find yourself in conflict with. #relationshipconflict #emotionalexperience #confrontation 

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace, and compassion. It might be helpful to work on looking back and recognizing how far we have come, being proud of the version of us who did some hard work. Take a moment to day to acknowledge your past you and be proud of them. #proudofyou #growth #hardwork #learningeveryday #youhavecomesofar 

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings 

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for longer. They help us get through things or are going through the same things. Having connections help make the hard times a little easier. There is a grief that comes from losing those connections but there is also gratitude for having someone with you at the time. It takes effort to maintain those connections but the reward is worth it. 

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can choose to change for the better and sometimes for the worse. With consistency and consciously we can become a different version of ourselves. It will take effort, it will mean failing, and it can lead to some amazing opportunities. It is up to you. #change #evolution #growth #skillsandtools 

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even when our heart wants something different. It is helpful to allow space for your feelings so we can process our way to a fuller picture of what are dealing with. It might also be helpful to clean up our head, shifting our internal voice to something a little kinder. Doing so will create a path to trusting ourselves. This piler of alignment creates a safer way move throughout the world. #trustyourself #feelyourfeelings #manageanxiety #bekind #mentalhealth