If you’re ready to get real with yourself and stop repeating the same patterns, I created a guide to support this work on a deeper level: https://stan.store/joellenewman/p/rewire-your-nervous-system-redefine-who-you-are

Every year, we say we’re “reflecting” —
and somehow it turns into self-criticism, pressure, and feeling behind.

This episode is for you if you’re tired of repeating the same emotional or mental patterns and want this next chapter to actually feel different.

We talk about why year-end reflection often turns into self-attack, how unfinished cycles keep showing up in your life, and what it really means to release limiting beliefs without shame or forcing change.

This isn’t about becoming a new person overnight.
It’s about regulating your nervous system, unblocking your highest self, and creating space for what’s next.

If you’re ready to stop carrying the same patterns forward — start here.

Reflection prompts from the episode:

– What actually happened this year?

– What did this year ask of me?

– What didn’t work

— without blaming myself?

– What am I proud of that no one sees?– What am I ready to leave here before the new year?

If your life feels confusing, unfamiliar, or “off” — but nothing is actually wrong — you might be in a reinvention season.

In this episode, we break down the psychology behind identity shifts, why change triggers anxiety even when it’s positive, and what’s happening in your brain and nervous system during major life transitions.

You’ll learn:– Why reinvention feels uncomfortable before it feels exciting– The signs you’re in a transition phase– Why your nervous system resists unfamiliarity– How to ground yourself when everything feels uncertain– Why feeling lost is often a sign of growthYou’re not falling apart.

You’re leveling up — and this part is supposed to feel messy.

You’re not scared of failing — you’re scared of who you’d have to become if it actually worked.

This episode is your permission slip to step into the timeline you keep visualizing but haven’t let yourself fully claim. We’re diving into the psychology, neuroscience, identity work, and energetic expansion behind why you dim your light right when things start working — and how to finally break that cycle.

Inside, we explore:

✨ The Psychology of Upper LimitsWhy your identity fights to keep you on the timeline it already knows — and how to stop self-sabotaging when success shows up.

✨ How Your Nervous System Controls Your TimelinePolyvagal theory, neuroception, and the real reason visibility, momentum, and expansion can feel “unsafe.”(And no — it’s not a mindset issue.)

✨ Why You Shrink Around Certain PeopleThe family dynamics, social conditioning, and emotional wiring that make confidence feel like a threat to connection.

✨ The EXPAND Framework™ — your blueprint for becoming the version of you who can hold moreA step-by-step identity and nervous system expansion process:

E — Embody Safety: Regulate your nervous system so expansion actually feels familiar.

X — eXpand Capacity: Micro-stretches that widen what your body can tolerate — money, visibility, success, momentum.

P — Practice Visibility: Learning to be seen without collapsing, hiding, or shrinking.

A — Align Your Identity: Acting in accordance with the future version of you before it feels natural.

N — Normalize “More”: Training your baseline to hold bigger levels of ease, confidence, expression, and opportunity.

D — Decide Your Timeline: Choosing the version of you—and the reality—you’re stepping into daily.

✨ The Future-Self Timeline MethodPsychology + action-based manifestation that shifts you into the version of you who already has what you desire.

✨ A 60-Second Timeline Jump VisualizationA gentle nervous-system-safe practice to instantly expand your internal baseline.

If you’re done overthinking, done shrinking, and done delaying the life you know you’re meant for — this is your episode.

It’s not that you’re not ready.
It’s that your nervous system hasn’t felt safe enough to expand… yet.
Let’s change that.

✨ In this episode, we dive deep into nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and the REAL psychology behind getting yourself through hard times. If you’ve been anxious, overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in survival mode — this is the science-backed guide you’ve been looking for.

You’ll learn:

• What “doing the work” actually means

• Why your body reacts before your mind

• The connection between the amygdala, cortisol, and emotional overwhelm

• Why mindset work won’t land if your nervous system isn’t regulated

• Somatic tools like EFT tapping, vagus nerve activation, shaking, breathwork, butterfly tapping, and orienting

• How to release stored emotion through the body

• The neuroscience behind self-compassion + re-parenting

• How identity is shaped by your nervous system patterns

• The real loop of awareness → regulation → expression → reframing → integration

• Why regulating your body literally rewires your perception, intuition, and sense of self

This episode blends psychology, somatics, and emotional healing in a way that is grounded, practical, and actually doable in your everyday life.

If you’re in your 20s, navigating change, healing patterns, or rebuilding your identity — these tools will help you feel grounded, capable, and connected again.💛

Nervous system healing is the foundation for confidence, resilience, and becoming the version of you who doesn’t spiral — she self-leads.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the biggest misconceptions about manifestation:

✨ You don’t attract what you want — you attract what you are.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing the affirmations, visualizing, “thinking positive”… but nothing is shifting, this episode will make everything click. We’re breaking down the psychology and the energetics of why your identity, nervous system, and subconscious patterns shape your reality more than your intentions do.

You’ll learn:

• Why your identity is the true magnet for your manifestations

• How your energy + nervous system send the real signal to the universe

• The psychology behind the Reticular Activating System (your brain’s algorithm)

• Why affirmations don’t work when there’s an energetic mismatch

• How to shift your self-concept so life starts reflecting a new version of you

• Practical tools to become the energetic match (without faking it)

This is the episode to listen to if you’re ready to stop “trying to manifest” and start embodying the person who has it.

#manifestation #selfhelp #mindsetshift #lawofattraction #psychology

We’ve all done it — rushed through a task to “save time,” only to spend hours fixing it later. This episode dives into the psychology of future debt — the hidden cost of taking shortcuts. We’ll unpack why your brain craves immediate relief, how “lazy” habits actually rewire you for stress and inefficiency, and how to build a new standard of true completion.

You’ll learn:

- Why present bias makes us choose short-term comfort over long-term peace

- How “work debt” quietly drains your time, energy, and confidence

- The Do It Once framework — a practical mindset shift to reclaim your focus and stop living in cleanup mode

This is your reminder that rushing isn’t progress — it’s debt. The real freedom comes from doing it right the first time.

We often think we need massive, overnight changes to get results, only to burn out and quit. This episode, The Psychology of Tiny Habits, is your guide to getting off the all-or-nothing hamster wheel.

We break down the 1% Rule, revealing why small, simple actions—like a single push-up or writing one sentence—are the actual secret to radical, lasting growth. You'll learn:

• The Dopamine Loop: How your brain is wired to reward consistency, not perfection, and how to harness that for habit formation.

• Neuroplasticity in Action: How every small win literally rewires your neural pathways, making your desired habits easier over time.

• Identity-Based Habits: How to stop chasing results and start casting "votes" for the person you want to become.

Tune in to discover the surprisingly simple steps for applying the 1% Rule today and how this principle of compound change is really not that deep.

If you spoke to your best friend the way you speak to yourself… would they still be your friend?

In this episode, we unpack the psychology of self-talk; why we become our own worst critic, how your brain learned this pattern, and the exact way to rewire it into something kinder (without turning into a delusional optimist)

.You’ll learn about cognitive distortions, neuroplasticity, and how to shift from inner judgment to inner safety, because the way you speak to yourself shapes everything.

Why does time fly as we age? And how do we make life feel full again? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind time perception, from memory density to dopamine, and discuss practical ways to reintroduce fun, novelty, and presence into our daily lives.

A reminder that fun isn’t childish, it’s what makes life feel worth living!

Motivation is fleeting, but discipline is what actually changes your life. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind discipline: why our brains avoid hard things, how to make it easier to follow through, and the mindset shifts that keep you consistent. From identity-based habits to simple environment tweaks, you’ll learn practical tools you can use today to show up even when you don’t feel like it.

Tune in if you’ve ever said, “I’ll do it tomorrow,” and want to finally follow through for your future self.

#selfgrowth #selfdiscipline #psychology #mindsetshift #selfhelp #wellnessjourney #motivation #mentalhealthmatters #habits #highvibes

At the end of life, the biggest regrets aren’t about failure; they’re about never living true to yourself. In this episode, I dive into the top five regrets of the dying and unpack the psychology and spirituality behind each one. From authenticity and work-life balance, to emotional expression, friendship, and happiness, we’ll explore what really matters and how to align your life so you don’t look back wishing you had lived differently. Think of this episode as both a wake-up call and an invitation to start choosing courage, presence, and joy right now.

What if I told you that the voice in your head isn’t really you? For most of us, our thoughts run the show. We wake up, think “I can’t do this,” and immediately believe it’s true. But here’s the truth: your thoughts are not facts, they’re just mental events. In this episode, I break down the psychology, brain science, and even the spiritual wisdom behind separating yourself from your thoughts.You’ll learn:- Why cognitive defusion (ACT therapy) helps you stop fusing with negative self-talk.- How the brain’s Default Mode Network creates constant background noise.- The difference between your thinking self and your observing self (and why that’s life-changing).- Practical tools to help you detach from unhelpful mental chatter.This realization is freeing: you are not the chatter in your head, just the one who notices it. Once you understand that, you open up space for choice, creativity, and peace.

Change can feel uncomfortable — but it’s also where growth lives. In this solo episode, I open up about why I’m continuing this podcast, my mission to make psychology simple and relatable, and what change has been teaching me lately. From secure attachment to the Buddhist idea of impermanence, we’ll unpack how to navigate life transitions with more ease, understanding, and trust in the process.If you’ve ever felt scared of change but also knew it was necessary, this one’s for you.

We’ve all had those moments where we edit a text three times, toning ourselves down in a room, pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. Exhausting, right? In this episode, we dive into why authenticity is a psychological need and a spiritual law.

We’ll break down why being real is actually essential for your mental health and relationships. And, because we’re us, we’ll share our own messy, goofy stories of when showing up authentically opened doors we didn’t expect.

By the end, you’ll have practical ways to practice authenticity (without it feeling terrifying), and maybe even notice how the universe rewards you for being yourself.

You don’t have to “stop caring” to detach — you just have to care about yourself more than the outcome.
In this milestone episode, we’re talking about the kind of detachment that frees you, not the cold, distant kind people often imagine. We’ll explore how to step out of the exhausting cycle of overthinking, over-performing, and over-controlling, and instead move into feminine energy — the space of allowing, receiving, and trusting that what’s meant for you will stay.

We cover:
✨ Where your “high-value woman” checklist really came from✨ Why control is an illusion (and how it drains you)✨ Emotional independence & stopping the spiral of obsession✨ The power of silence and being okay with loss✨ Practical steps to soften your grip and let life flow

If you’ve ever felt stuck in attachment, comparison, or performance mode — this episode will help you step into your worth, reclaim your peace, and finally let go without fear.

If you’ve ever been told to “just be mindful” while your brain is spiralling and your chest feels tight, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down nervous system regulation in real language.

You’ll learn:

• Why your fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response isn’t you “being dramatic” — it’s your body’s survival system doing its job

• How to recognize when you’re outside your window of tolerance (and what to do about it)

• Why mindfulness isn’t about forcing calm — it’s about noticing what’s real inside your body

• The difference between bottom-up and top-down regulation (and why you can’t mindset your way out of a dysregulated body)

• Actual tools you can use in the moment — from grounding techniques to vagus nerve hacks — to help you return to center

This episode is for the people who know they spiral fast, know she “should meditate,” but have never had someone explain why their body feels like this in the first place. By the end, you’ll understand how to work with your nervous system instead of shaming yourself for it, so you can meet life’s stressors with less panic and more self-trust.

Why do we feel off after something really good? Whether it’s coming home from a trip, ending a whirlwind weekend, or simply stepping back into routine after a high, re-entry can feel… weird. In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of why and what to do about it.

We get into everything from hedonic adaptation to dopamine dips, ambiguous grief, and the pressure to make summer “the best one yet.” You'll also hear personal stories (Sunday scaries, post-trip spiral, and FOMO), practical tools to feel better, and reminders that you’re not broken — your brain’s just catching its breath.

✨Topics include:

• Why the comedown hits harder than expected

• The science of “re-entry”

• Summer sadness & the myth of the perfect season

• How to integrate the high points into your day-to-day

• Little rituals that help you feel like you again

This one’s for anyone feeling a little lost, a little sad, or just not quite back yet. It’s not that deep… but it kinda is.

If peace feels boring, drama feels like love, and you keep ending up in situationships that drain you, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re diving into the psychology of chaos addiction: from trauma bonds and cortisol loops to why you mistake anxiety for chemistry.

We unpack how childhood conditioning wires your nervous system to crave emotional rollercoasters, how to spot the difference between chaos and connection, and what healing actually feels like (spoiler: calm love won’t spike your adrenaline, and that’s a good thing).

Expect gut punches, science-backed insight, and chaotic girl confessions. Plus: a juicy game of “Chaos or Chemistry?” where we separate red flags from real intimacy.

🧠 Nervous system truths💥 The science of drama bonds🌿 How to build a secure relationship💋 Iconic chaos confessions

This one hits deep… but you’ll feel lighter after.

Today we’re diving into random but very real questions — from overcoming the “I’m not good enough” narrative and what our future selves want us to know, to intrusive thoughts and how they mess with manifestation. We also explore whether we’d still be friends if we met today, the human emotions we might have overcome (spoiler: grief and jealousy are significant), our biggest regrets, and the moments we thought our lives were over. It’s giving late-night convos, journal prompts, and some much-needed perspective.

Why is doing literally anything hard in your 20s? From imposter syndrome spirals to last-minute meltdowns over printer paper, this episode dives into the mental chaos behind hard tasks — and how we somehow still get them done.

We talk about:

• How ADHD, perfectionism, and time blindness sabotage us

• What actually works for motivation (hint: not waiting for it)

• Tools that help us stop procrastinating and start somewhere

• Why celebrating small wins literally rewires your brain

• Reframing failure, managing self-talk, and pushing through when everything feels too big

Whether you’re starting a project, a new chapter, or just trying to do the bare minimum today — this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in for stories, psychology-backed strategies, and the reminder that you can do hard things (even if you complain the whole time).