Hosted by gay sex and relationship therapist and published author Tom Bruett, this show dives deep into what it really means to be in relationship with yourself and others as a gay, queer, or trans person today. Each episode features candid conversations with leading experts in psychology, sex therapy, wellness, culture, and LGBTQIA2S+ lived experience. Together, we explore the complexities of queer love, intimacy, identity, and connection - without shame, without scripts, and without pretending we have it all figured out. If you’re craving smarter, braver, more honest conversations about what it means to build and sustain authentic queer relationships, you’re in the right place.
Hosted by gay sex and relationship therapist and published author Tom Bruett, this show dives deep into what it really means to be in relationship with yourself and others as a gay, queer, or trans person today. Each episode features candid conversations with leading experts in psychology, sex therapy, wellness, culture, and LGBTQIA2S+ lived experience. Together, we explore the complexities of queer love, intimacy, identity, and connection - without shame, without scripts, and without pretending we have it all figured out. If you’re craving smarter, braver, more honest conversations about what it means to build and sustain authentic queer relationships, you’re in the right place.
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with Dustin Oliver(he/him), the creator of boy meets therapy, to talk honestly about what it really takes to become a therapist - especially a queer therapist building a career in today’s mental health landscape.
Dustin opens up about the messy, beautiful, and often overwhelming process of entering the field, why accessible mental health content for queer people is desperately needed, and how his podcast came to be. Together, they explore why using real language in therapy matters, how social media shapes modern mental health conversations, and what it’s like to learn, research, and grow in real time while creating content that actually resonates.
If you're a queer person interested in therapy, an aspiring therapist yourself, or someone who loves meaningful conversations about mental health, you’ll want to watch this one.
🌈 About Dustin:
Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, MA, is a Brooklyn-based therapist whose fascination with people and his own transformative therapy journey led him into the mental health field. He holds a BA in Psychology from Georgia State University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from the University of Kentucky. His training includes research on alcohol and domestic violence in LGBTQ+ couples, studying Positive Psychology in Copenhagen, and clinical work in trauma-focused intensive outpatient programs and boutique private practices, where he supported clients navigating trauma, substance use, dissociation, personality disorders, and sexual health concerns. Dustin created his podcast, boy meets therapy to offer honest conversations between clinicians and to make complex mental health research accessible and relatable for everyday listeners.
🔗 Connect with Dustin:
Website: www.boymeetstherapy.com
Instagram: @boymeetstherapy
Tiktok: @boymeetstherapy
youtube: @boymeetstherapy
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with the brilliant and wildly creative Jayden Aubryn (they/them) - a therapist who blends movement, art, somatics, kink, and community care into a transformative approach to trauma healing. Together, they explore what holistic healing really looks like, why therapists must do their own internal work, and how joy, play, and embodied expression can become powerful tools for liberation.
Jayden breaks down the impact of systemic oppression on mental health, the unique challenges faced by queer and BIPOC communities, and why traditional talk therapy isn’t enough on its own. They share practical insights on building trust, cultivating safety, and making healing not just possible - but pleasurable, spacious, and fun.
If you’re a therapist, a healer, or someone on your own growth journey, this conversation is a must-listen.
🌈 Meet Jayden Aubryn:
Jayden Aubryn (they/them) is a Black, Indigenous, queer, non-binary, AuDHD, and ethically non-monogamous psychotherapist, personal trainer, and consultant. They are the founder of TISE Consulting and Therapy and the co-founder of Chaotic Healing. They specialize in holistically healing complex trauma by integrating mental, physical, sexual, and spiritual health. They aim to make healing fun my using movement, food, music, art, and BDSM.
🔗 Connect with Jayden
Website: tiseconsultingandtherapy.com
Retreat: https://tiseconsultingandtherapy.com/retreat
Twerk to Release Trauma Course: https://jayden-s-site-4bdf.thinkific.com/products/courses/twerk-to-release-trauma
Instagram: @tiseconsultingandtherapy
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Jayden Aubryn
03:23 Holistic Healing and Trauma Recovery
06:04 Integrating Arts and Therapy
08:40 Supporting Therapists in Their Journey
11:22 Systemic Oppression and Its Impact
14:23 The Decision to Move Abroad
17:11 Building Trust and Self-Confidence
19:51 The Reality of Healing
22:25 Making Healing Fun
25:02 Retreats for Healing and Growth
28:00 Relationships and Trauma
30:46 Finding the Right Therapist
33:18 Connecting with Jayden Aubryn
The conversation delves into the complexities of body dysmorphia, exploring its roots in early trauma, societal conditioning, and personal experiences. It also highlights the impact of steroid use and the transformative effects of psychedelic healing. The importance of embodiment, intimacy in relationships, and creating supportive environments for healing are also discussed.
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About Daniel O'Shaughnessy:
Daniel is a nutritionist, breathwork facilitator, and mindset coach with a Master’s degree in Trauma and Transpersonal Experiences. A Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner, he is known for pioneering work at the intersection of LGBTQ+ health and holistic medicine, and is the author of books on LGBTQ+ wellbeing and body dysmorphia. Bringing both academic expertise and lived experience of neurodivergence and trauma, Daniel’s work weaves science, breath, and transpersonal practice into spaces of safety, belonging, and the kind of deep personal reflection that nurtures long-lasting change.
Connect with Daniel:
Website: www.danieloshaughnessy.com
Instagram: thenakednutritionist
TikTok: thenakednutritionist
Get His Book: Letting Go of Perfect, A Gay Man’s Guide to Healing from Body Dysmorphia: https://a.co/d/3PbZg8i