Nice isn’t kind.Nice keeps you quiet.Nice keeps you invisible. In this episode, Carla Lewis and DocShellie call out politeness for what it often is: emotional crowd control. From “nice as emotional Febreze” to why conflict isn’t the problem (silence is) they break down how being agreeable can cost you your voice, your truth, and yourself. If you’ve ever apologized before speaking, softened your truth to keep the peace, or stayed quiet to feel safe… this one’s for you!

Ever been told you’re too sensitive, too much, or reading into things—and started to believe it? This episode names the real culprit: conditioning disguised as feedback. Carla and DocShellie break down how gaslighting works as a slow drip, how power structures teach us who gets to speak, and why so many capable people second-guess themselves even when they know they’re right. If you’ve ever gone quiet just to make the noise stop, this conversation will hit home and help you start trusting yourself again.

In classic Rabble-Rouser fashion, this episode dismantles the myth that silence keeps the peace. Spoiler alert: it keeps you small. DocShellie and Carla kick open the door on the feelings we bury to stay likable, safe, or “easy.” Because what you refuse to name doesn’t vanish — it festers, leaks, and eventually demands to be heard. Your voice wasn’t built for storage. It was built to tell the truth.

If your life feels more drained and depleted than juicy and delicious, this episode is your gentle-but-honest wake-up call. Dr. Barnsley Brown joins DocShellie to share three secrets that will change how you think about your life, your work, and your impact: Why “everybody else matters more than me” is the most dangerous myth women are still living by How a simple Bliss List can reconnect you to joy (and it usually costs zero dollars) Why you don’t need a perfect niche — you need integration, a starting point, and permission to evolve You’ll hear acronyms like AFGO (another f*cking growth opportunity) and PLMF (pivot like a motherf*cker), stories about salsa dancing and tarot on cruise ships, and real talk about women in their 50s, 60s, and 70s finally launching the businesses they always wanted. If you’ve been wondering, “Is it too late for me?” or, “Why do I feel so behind when I’ve given so much?” — hit play. This one might light something up in you.

🎉 Episode 100. Recorded. On. A. Cruise.Carla and DocShellie accidentally found themselves surrounded by billion-dollar founders, 15-year podcasting veterans, and a whole tribe of fellow rabble-rousers… all because they said “Sure, why not?” This episode is a celebration, a confessional, and a permission slip — to pivot, to grow, and to take the wild opportunities life drops in your lap. If you’ve ever needed proof that your next breakthrough might be one bold yes away… this is it!

Are you protecting your peace… or sabotaging your self-respect? 😳 Shellie and Carla go straight at the sneaky ways we mute ourselves — over-editing emails, apologizing before we speak, nodding along when our whole body is saying “nope.” They talk nervous-system safety, labels like “difficult,” why “nice” got weaponized, and how to start talking like the smartest person in the room (because you are) without losing your job. This one will have you watching for bobblehead moments all week.

Carla and DocShellie explore the quiet truths we swallow—why we don’t say them, what it costs our bodies, relationships, and leadership, and how to speak with courage without blowing up our lives. From “strong/happy one” masks to meetings where energy is manufactured, they offer nervous-system-friendly ways to practice honesty: micro-moments of bravery, rehearsing out loud, and choosing clarity over the stories we invent about what others think.

You didn’t lose your voice—you just stopped using it.This episode takes a torch to the self-silencing habit: the apologies, emojis, and disclaimers we use to keep everyone comfy while we disappear. Learn how to trade “digestible” for authentic—one sentence sooner, one notch louder, one brave choice at a time.

Ever caught yourself bragging about being “crazy busy”? This one’s for you. 👑 Carla Lewis and DocShellie rip into hustle culture—how we wear exhaustion like credibility, mistake anxiety for ambition, and fear stillness like it’s failure. Get ready to trade burnout for breathing room and remember: you don’t have to earn rest. Permission granted.

Ever call yourself a “control freak” or “introvert” when really you’re just protecting old scars? This raw, funny, truth-telling convo between Carla and DocShellie flips the script on coping mechanisms—and reminds you that your wounds aren’t who you are. They were just the armor that got you here. 💥

Ever feel like you’re stuck in life’s waiting room—no longer who you were, but not yet who you’re becoming? Before you call it failure, listen up. This episode reveals why the messy middle is actually sacred ground for transformation, how to stop decorating your waiting room, and how to build the wings you’ll need to fly. It’s not a breakdown—it’s the becoming. “The middle isn’t where you lose yourself. It’s where you finally meet who you’re becoming.”

Stop hustling for permission. You don’t have to earn your worth — you already have it. In this raw and real episode, Carla and Shellie burn down the myth that you have to prove yourself to deserve a seat at the table. From over-explaining to overworking, they expose the subtle ways we betray our own worth — and offer a grounded, soulful reminder: you are enough, period.

Hey rabble-rousers, welcome back! In Episode 91, we talked about that "waiting room" where you feel stuck between what was and what’s next. Well, today we’re lighting a match to get you out of there! We’re talking about Plan B—and why it’s a plan for failure. It's that anchor holding you back, that open hatch stealing the oxygen from your dream. We’re gonna talk about why you need to go all-in on Plan A and learn from past lessons instead of preparing for failure. Because when you stop negotiating with self-doubt, you can finally walk out that front door and live your best life.

Feeling stuck, drained, or like you’re spinning your wheels? You might just be living in The Waiting Room. 🚪 In this candid conversation, Carla Lewis and DocShellie crack open why change feels so heavy, how to tell if you’re “decorating” your waiting room, and the sneaky ways our brains keep us safe (but stuck). If you’ve been looping, over-planning, or second-guessing your next step, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.

🚨 Confusion isn’t what you think it is—it’s fear wearing a mask. 🚨 Carla Lewis and DocShellie pull back the curtain on the “I don’t know” swirl and show how to name fear, untangle chaos, and reclaim your permission to want what you want. This episode is part gut punch, part pep talk, and 100% clarity fuel.

Ever asked for a sign from the universe and then freaked out when you got one? You're not alone. We've all been there—freezing up when clarity strikes, second-guessing the obvious, or worse, ignoring the signs because they're not what we wanted to hear. This episode is your wake-up call to stop waiting for the burning bush and start listening to your gut. Discover why you might be looking for permission instead of confirmation, and how to take the first small step toward the change you've been waiting for.

👉 You know your patterns. You’ve done the work. And yet—you’re still tripping yourself up. Why? In this brutally honest conversation, Carla and DocShellie go toe-to-toe with the sneaky ways fear of success and self-sabotage creep in, even when we “know better.” If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thrown rocks at your own reflection, this episode will stop you cold… and maybe set you free. 🚀

That voice inside you? It’s not broken—it’s just been silenced. In this soul-baring episode, Carla and Shellie rip the gag off the inner knowing we’ve buried under fear, “shoulds,” and status quo survival. One powerful story. One radical truth. One question: What are YOU not saying that’s already making the decision?

Ever feel like you’re a Ferrari engine stuck in neutral, dragging a brick building behind you? Carla & DocShellie rip open the myths about “starting over” — showing how a reboot isn’t a restart, it’s an upgrade. Whether your crossroads is a career shake-up, a personal shift, or something as simple as picking up a pickleball paddle, this episode will make you rethink the way you choose your next move.

Ever told yourself, ‘It wasn’t that bad… I’m just being dramatic’? Welcome to the quiet art of emotional gaslighting — self-inflicted. In this episode, Carla and DocShellie torch the toxic habit of minimizing our struggles and achievements, revealing why your messy, resilient story deserves a standing ovation — not silence.