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we are NOT the SAME
Heather Gardner and Lacey Joseph
51 episodes
3 days ago
Send us a text What would you trade for peace of mind—a full year of your memory, a single person who did damage, or nothing at all? We crack open a messy, honest thought experiment and chase it through the real costs: identity, relationships, and the lessons that only hard seasons can teach. The premise sounds merciful—wipe the worst twelve months, skip the grief, dodge the chaos—but the ripple effects are ruthless. If those months built your boundaries and instincts, deleting them might als...
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Send us a text What would you trade for peace of mind—a full year of your memory, a single person who did damage, or nothing at all? We crack open a messy, honest thought experiment and chase it through the real costs: identity, relationships, and the lessons that only hard seasons can teach. The premise sounds merciful—wipe the worst twelve months, skip the grief, dodge the chaos—but the ripple effects are ruthless. If those months built your boundaries and instincts, deleting them might als...
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Comedy
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we are NOT the SAME
If Trauma Had A Delete Button, My Ex Would Be First In Line
Send us a text What would you trade for peace of mind—a full year of your memory, a single person who did damage, or nothing at all? We crack open a messy, honest thought experiment and chase it through the real costs: identity, relationships, and the lessons that only hard seasons can teach. The premise sounds merciful—wipe the worst twelve months, skip the grief, dodge the chaos—but the ripple effects are ruthless. If those months built your boundaries and instincts, deleting them might als...
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3 days ago
59 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
My GPS Said “Two Minutes Away” Then “Fourteen” And Honestly Same
Send us a text Ever been “two minutes away,” then suddenly fourteen, then two again? We start with the comedy of autopilot driving and glitchy GPS, then follow the tangents to where life actually happens: cheer season’s hidden workload, why counting beats matters more than people think, and how left versus right becomes chaos when stage directions flip. It’s the gap between what we assume kids know and what they’re rarely taught—timing, rhythm, body awareness—and why those basics can be the d...
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1 week ago
44 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Mega Aries, Minor Chaos, Major Healing
Send us a text What happens when the scary card isn’t scary at all? We pull “death,” talk through what real endings look like, and watch it open a door to rebirth, revival, and a softer self that finally gets to breathe. Along the way we get honest about the weird panic that arrives when life improves—how fight‑or‑flight lingers, how self‑sabotage masquerades as realism, and how steady communication in a new relationship can feel suspicious when you’re used to chaos. The spread reaches beyon...
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2 weeks ago
42 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Luck, Letting Go, And The Ego Trap
Send us a text Luck is knocking, but only after you put down the picture in your head. We kick off with a collective reading that hits on three themes—release, pride, and timing—then step right into a raw, unguarded session where life’s chaos collides with real tools for steadier days. Think tech meltdowns, car issues, and a live credit card breach caught mid-chat, all reframed through a lens that blends tarot clarity, astrology timing, and grounded self-awareness. With Janessa back at the t...
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3 weeks ago
54 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
My Brain Needs A Manager, Not Another Pill
Send us a text What if the story you’ve been told about depression and anxiety is too small for what you’re actually living? We dive straight into the messy middle—where SSRIs’ origin stories meet the placebo effect, where side effects complicate recovery, and where the medical system often manages instead of heals. Along the way, we unpack why ketamine therapy feels different for treatment‑resistant depression, how neural remapping can loosen trauma’s grip, and what “feeling better” looks li...
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1 month ago
57 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Two best friends try to record a structured show, accidentally make it therapy, and end up solving nothing—but laughing at everything
Send us a text Ever notice how a “quick catch-up” turns into the real show? We slide under a mountain of blankets, confess the latest ADHD detours, and admit that structure doesn’t stand a chance when life is shifting—work, weather, relationships, and energy. The good news: there’s wisdom in the wobble. We talk through fan love, being watched online, and choosing a quiet season when you need it. We unpack an 18-month friendship break we repaired with accountability, then share the tiny script...
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1 month ago
50 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Love Languages, Without the Fluff
Send us a text Ever wonder why some gestures land and others miss by a mile? We went beyond the memes and took a full love language quiz—yes, we even paid for the results—then held the mirror up to our past relationships, boundaries, and blind spots. The numbers were revealing: acts of service and quality time rose to the top for both of us, receiving gifts carried quiet power as thoughtfulness, and words of affirmation got messy when trust had been broken. From oil changes and fixed deadbolt...
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1 month ago
45 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Eeyore & Tigger Energy
Send us a text The mic caught us on a hard day—and we kept it rolling. Lacey names a depressive episode with no clear trigger, and we talk through what sadness feels like when it’s lodged in the body, why masking becomes second nature, and how a simple ritual—cranking music right after you “skip feeling”—can help release what you swallowed. No gloss, no edits, just the practice of showing up when you’d rather hide. From there, we let joy elbow its way in: book-club onesies, our Eeyore-and-Ti...
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1 month ago
56 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Men Had No Idea Women Did These Things
Send us a text Ever wondered what goes through a man's mind when he first discovers your collection of hair ties scattered throughout the house? Or the moment he realizes those cute jeans you're wearing don't have real pockets? In this laugh-out-loud episode, we dive into the world of male enlightenment that happens when men enter relationships with women. From the shocking revelation that women use substantially more toilet paper (not just for shaking dry, gentlemen!) to the baffling ...
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1 month ago
54 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
We Have No Idea When Someone Is Flirting With Us
Send us a text Ever found yourself completely clueless about whether someone is flirting with you? You're not alone! We're diving headfirst into the complicated world of flirtation, armed with hilarious dating app screenshots and our own awkward experiences. From finger-in-mouth disasters to decoding the subtle art of eye contact, we explore why 72% of people can't tell when someone's interested in them. We take a personality quiz that reveals our flirting styles (physical, playful, polite, ...
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2 months ago
1 hour 1 minute

we are NOT the SAME
Unveiling Pretty Privilege
Send us a text The concept of pretty privilege might seem straightforward, but as our candid conversation reveals, it's anything but simple. We're diving deep into how physical appearance shapes our daily interactions, opportunities, and treatment from others—often in ways that those with the privilege don't even recognize. "That, my dear, is pretty privilege," one host points out when discussing how her co-host regularly receives gifts and attention from men without requesting them. Meanwhi...
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2 months ago
57 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
The Recycling Game: Love, Dating and Colorado Hookups
Send us a text Heather and Lacey reunite with newfound energy as they catch up on life's recent adventures. Heather triumphantly shares her MaxFit competition win that capped off her rookie pro season, while detailing her subsequent celebration in Florida complete with mouthwatering key lime pie and a life-changing pistachio cream waffle. Meanwhile, Lacey's Colorado trip reveals more than just mountain views when she admits to "recycling" a former flame. The conversation evolves into a maste...
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2 months ago
1 hour 1 minute

we are NOT the SAME
Two Friends, Six Dogs, and a Bowl of Happiness
Send us a text When the world feels overwhelming and negativity threatens to take over, sometimes the most radical act is pausing to recognize what's good. In this heartfelt conversation, we dive deep into the transformative power of gratitude during life's hardest moments. We share personal stories about how our children became powerful motivators for growth and self-improvement, pushing us to pursue education, careers, and healthier lifestyles we might never have achieved otherwise. For on...
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3 months ago
42 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Behind the Bodybuilding Prep: Stress, Weight, and Friendship
Send us a text Ever gained 4 pounds overnight despite doing everything "right"? You're not alone. This episode dives deep into the science of weight fluctuations and how stress impacts our bodies in surprising ways. We share a shocking real-life example of gaining eight pounds in 48 hours during bodybuilding prep despite strict diet adherence and increased cardio—proving that your body's response to stress is more powerful than you might think. Beyond the scale, we explore what true self-car...
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3 months ago
49 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Salt Circles & Shuffled Decks: The Cards Never Lie
Send us a text Ever wonder what the cards might reveal about your life's journey? In this captivating episode, we welcome energy worker and card reader Jenessa for an intimate session of live tarot and oracle readings that uncover surprising truths. The mystical adventure begins with an explanation of how different decks serve different purposes—tarot for gentle guidance and oracle for those brutally honest messages we sometimes need to hear. As Janessa shuffles and allows cards to naturally...
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3 months ago
51 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
When Mind and Memory Collide: The Trauma-ADHD Connection
Send us a text "Is my brain actually broken, or is it just responding to something?" This question haunts millions of people trying to understand why they struggle with focus, emotional regulation, and executive function. In this raw and revealing conversation, we dive into the complex overlap between trauma responses and ADHD symptoms—a confusing territory where even mental health professionals sometimes struggle to make accurate diagnoses. Drawing from our personal experiences (inclu...
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3 months ago
48 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Unpacking Our Past: From Massive Poufs to Parental Drama
Send us a text Ever wondered what happens when two friends record their lives during a complete emotional spiral? That's exactly what we did in season one of this podcast, and now we're looking back at those wild times with a mixture of horror and amusement. In this deeply candid catch-up episode, we take you through the evolution of our friendship and personal journeys, from questionable fashion choices (like that four-inch hair poof that required half a bottle of hairspray) to the dramatic...
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4 months ago
47 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Trauma in the Tissues: How Massage Therapy Unlocks Physical and Emotional Healing
Send us a text Have you ever wondered why that nagging pain in your shoulder won't go away despite massages, stretching, and even medication? The answer might surprise you—your body could be physically manifesting emotional trauma you haven't processed. In this raw and enlightening conversation with massage therapist Jenessa from Intuitive Touch, we dive deep into the concept that "your body keeps score" of emotional experiences, storing them in physical form when they aren't processed menta...
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4 months ago
49 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
The Universe Keeps Testing Us: Dating Disasters and Dessert Therapy
Send us a text Dessert has never tasted so sweet as when you're finally free from competition prep restrictions. In this celebratory episode, Heather and Lacey indulge in a variety of treats while catching up on life, love, and the pursuit of the perfect lemon cake bite. Fresh off her successful bodybuilding competition, Heather savors her first real meal in months – a teriyaki burger from Hop Jacks (which Lacey stubbornly refuses to call by its new name, "Hops and Drops"). The duo shares l...
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4 months ago
49 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Fiddlefaddle & Friend Requests: When Girl Code Gets Messy
Send us a text What happens when your ex-friend's ex-husband sends you a friend request? Does Girl Code have an expiration date? We're untangling the complex web of unwritten rules that guide female friendships and setting the record straight on what Girl Code really means. The conversation kicks off with a real-life scenario that forces us to examine whether loyalty extends beyond the end of friendships. We share passionate takes on dating friends' exes (spoiler: it's a hard no), but acknow...
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4 months ago
28 minutes

we are NOT the SAME
Send us a text What would you trade for peace of mind—a full year of your memory, a single person who did damage, or nothing at all? We crack open a messy, honest thought experiment and chase it through the real costs: identity, relationships, and the lessons that only hard seasons can teach. The premise sounds merciful—wipe the worst twelve months, skip the grief, dodge the chaos—but the ripple effects are ruthless. If those months built your boundaries and instincts, deleting them might als...