Christmas has a way of bringing old family dynamics straight back to the surface. Even if you’ve done the work. Even if you’re self-aware. Even if you usually cope well. In this replay of one of my most listened-to episodes, I talk through practical, realistic ways to think about boundaries with family at Christmas. Especially when the dynamics are emotionally immature, critical, or draining. This episode is for you if: • You feel activated around family, even when you wish you wouldn’t...

You like to follow wellness practices but you’re not sure which ones are helpful for nervous system regulation and which ones to leave behind. There are so many choices that often tap into your deepest fears and insecurities and even with the best of intentions, can make you feel worse. This episode explores how you can tell the difference between what’s working and what isn’t and how to listen to yourself more so you can make empowered and informed choices. If you’ve been wonderi...

Have you ever wondered what it means to regulate your nervous system? In this episode you'll learn more about how nervous system regulation doesn't need to be complicated and a starting a simple exercise can help you to feel calmer and relieve anxiety. This is a supportive practice but it’s not a substitute for therapy. Lizandra is a MBACP Registered Psychotherapist based in the UK who works online and in St.Albans Hertfordshire. Visit the Website Book a free 15 ...

In this episode, I talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder and the subtle ways it can creep into your mood, motivation and day-to-day energy. You'll hear me cover: - What to do when you feel yourself withdrawing or shutting off -Simple daily habits that help -When to reach out for extra support If winter always feels harder and you're tired of pushing through on your own. this is the kind of work we do in therapy. I've got current availability for women who want support with anxiet...

Have you ever wondered if you’re the toxic one? Want to know the four toxic behaviours that happen in relationships that stem from an insecure attachment? In this episode, psychotherapist Lizandra explores the patterns that most people get stuck in when dealing with conflict. It’s the everyday behaviours that cause disconnection in the relationships that matter most. Ready to break your unhealthy relationship patterns and heal from the past? 📱Book your free 15 minute i...

Therapy is changing. 2026 is going to look very different for anyone who’s already on a healing journey. This episode breaks down what those changes actually mean for you. We talk about the rise of real connection in therapy. More relational work. More collective healing. Less of the “fix yourself alone” mindset that kept so many women stuck in burnout. We also get honest about AI. It’s growing fast. It can be useful. It’s not therapy. I explain why big tech is pushing into the mental health ...

The internet is talking about Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? Read the Article In this episode, Lizandra, a psychotherapist in private practice at New Frame Therapy talks about the decision to stop working with couples. It relates to the changes happening in relationships and why it's so hard to heal from attachment trauma and form trusting secure attachments in relationships. Connect on TikTok Connect on Instagram Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra ...

Abandonment doesn’t always look like what we think it does. It isn’t just about someone leaving or not choosing you. In this episode, I talk about the less obvious ways abandonment shows up. The ones that start in childhood and shape how we connect (or disconnect) as adults. You’ll hear about: The hidden forms of abandonment that often go unnoticed — like over-functioning or caretaking. How emotional abandonment in childhood can happen even in loving homes. The link between fear of bein...

Being called “needy” in a relationship can feel shaming but what if being needy isn’t the problem? In this episode, I unpack why we end up feeling anxious, clingy, or desperate for reassurance in relationships. We’ll explore how childhood experiences and attachment patterns shape our needs and why trying to suppress them only backfires. You’ll learn: Why needing connection is human — and when it gets labeled as “too much”The hidden cost of ignoring your needs or shutting downPractical s...

Lizandra is a BACP Registered Psychotherapist and Relationship Therapist based in the UK who works with adults healing from childhood trauma and high functioning anxiety. When most people think about healing, they focus on what they should be doing — journaling, setting boundaries, or practicing self-care. But just as important is what you need to stop doing. In this episode, I’m breaking down five common habits that can quietly hold you back from feeling secure in yourself and your relations...

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re working so hard on yourself but still feel stuck, this episode will help you see what needs to shift — and it’s probably not what you expect. Many people who identify as empaths are actually carrying codependent patterns that started in childhood. In this episode, we explore how to tell the difference between being codependent and being an empath and why that distinction matters for your healing. You’ll learn: The key differences between codependency a...

In this episode, I explore emotional avoidance — what it looks like, why it shows up in women with high-functioning anxiety, and how it often ties back to childhood trauma. We also dive into how disconnection from your body keeps emotions stuck, and practical ways to notice and gently process your feelings without overwhelm. You’ll learn how to: Recognise the subtle signs of emotional avoidance in your lifeUnderstand why avoidance feels safe and why it’s costing you more than you ...

Have you ever felt like therapy just isn’t working? Maybe you’ve tried different therapists, stuck with sessions for a while, and still found yourself wondering why you’re not moving forward. If that’s you, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you’re beyond help. In this episode, I talk about: Why you can feel stuck in therapy What you need to do alongside therapy to make the most of it The common reasons therapy might not be effective (and why it’s not always your fault) And the ...

We hear a lot about what insecure attachment looks like… but not enough about what secure attachment actually feels like in real life. In this episode, I’m breaking down five things people with secure attachment tend to do — and no, it’s not about being perfectly regulated or never getting triggered. In fact, some of what makes someone feel emotionally safe might surprise you. We’ll explore: Why securely attached people are comfortable changing their minds (and letting you change yours too) ...

This episode is the clarity around boundaries you need to stop feeling confused so you can show up as more secure and have your best relationships and a good work/life balance. This deep dive on boundary setting is trauma informed from the perspective of registered psychotherapist Lizandra Leigertwood MA MBACP Themes covered in the episode: My own imperfect approach to setting boundaries in life Why you find it hard to set boundaries A sign you should look out for when...

**Summer Offer** Book your single session Attachment Reset Learn more or book here. You can be incredibly self-aware. Journaling regularly, unpacking your childhood, recognising your triggers and still feel panicked when someone pulls away. Still overthink the last message. Still feel like you’re too much, or not enough. This episode is a reminder that insight alone isn’t the same as healing. And it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. In today’s conversation, I explore why anxiou...

If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you. Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack why that is — and what self-soothing actually looks like when you’re healing attachment wounds. 👉🏽 If this hits close to home, my 90-minute 1:1 A...

☀️**Summer Offer** Single Session Attachment Reset. Limited availability, book your session with Lizandra here Even if you don’t think about your childhood often, the patterns it shaped can still be running the show. In this episode, I’m unpacking powerful and often overlooked ways that childhood trauma continues to affect you in adulthood. This one’s especially for you if you’ve always felt like the high-functioning one, the strong one, or the one who holds everything together… but und...

In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key points How everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalisedWhy childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needsWhat everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think about boundaries Reflective questions to facilitate your self knowledge and healing USEFUL LINKS: Book a free 15 minute consult...

We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling. The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.” In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-worth, and what healing might actually look like. If you’ve ever felt guilty for stepping back from a sibling, this one’s for you. Resources&n...