Want to quit porn and REALLY heal? You're in the right place. This isn't just more behavior management or churchy quick fixes. We get into the weeds, so you can get out.
Hosted by recovery coaches Michael Kamber and Nick Buda, this podcast is for men ready to get honest, dig into their story, and break free from the patterns keeping them stuck.
We talk addiction, emotional health, faith, sex, recovery, and what it actually takes to change. Drawn from our own stories of addiction and real world experiences of helping men in our private coaching practice, if you’re done pretending and ready to do the real work, you’re in the right place.
New episodes drop weekly.
*The explicit label is due to the nature of the topics discussed
Want to quit porn and REALLY heal? You're in the right place. This isn't just more behavior management or churchy quick fixes. We get into the weeds, so you can get out.
Hosted by recovery coaches Michael Kamber and Nick Buda, this podcast is for men ready to get honest, dig into their story, and break free from the patterns keeping them stuck.
We talk addiction, emotional health, faith, sex, recovery, and what it actually takes to change. Drawn from our own stories of addiction and real world experiences of helping men in our private coaching practice, if you’re done pretending and ready to do the real work, you’re in the right place.
New episodes drop weekly.
*The explicit label is due to the nature of the topics discussed
Recovery from porn and sexual brokenness is brutal work. If you try to grind your way through it without joy, you’re going to burn out. In this fourth and final part of our community series, Michael and Nick unpack celebration as the fuel that keeps you going in the long haul of recovery.
They dig into how God actually designed us to be sustained by goodness, joy, and shared life with other people—not just white-knuckling sobriety alone. You’ll hear how biblical celebration, Sabbath rhythms, and simple shared meals can become anchors of hope in what is often the hardest thing you’ve ever done.
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When porn blows up a marriage, the spouse’s world doesn’t just wobble—it shatters. In this conversation, Michael sits down with Lindsey Blair, a betrayal-trauma coach, to spell out what spouses actually experience after discovery or disclosure, what “safety” looks like in real life, and how couples can rebuild trust without gaslighting, rushing, or bypassing pain. If you’re a wife feeling “crazy” or a husband who doesn’t get why this hurts so much, this one’s for you.
About our guest — Lindsey Blair
Betrayal-trauma coach who works with wives navigating the aftermath of a partner’s sexual acting out and pornography use. Empathetic, practical, and anchored in Christian soul care.
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Email: lindseymblair79@gmail.com
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You do take up space in people’s lives. You do “bother” your spouse. Good. Do it on purpose and do it with love!
This episode dives into what it actually means to care for others in community—especially in recovery. Michael and Nick unpack how love isn’t just a feeling, but a choice to seek another’s good at your own expense. They talk about why presence matters more than fixing, how to receive love before trying to give it, and why isolation always kills growth. It’s an honest look at how real connection—spiritual, emotional, and physical—is built one intentional act of care at a time.
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Stuck in isolation? Start small. Show up somewhere this week. Ask one person for coffee. Say, “I don’t need you to fix anything—just be with me.”
How to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.
In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.
Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and deep biblical insight to a conversation that bridges faith, neuroscience, and emotional healing.
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If you’ve struggled with pornography, shame, or unwanted sexual behavior, this conversation will give you hope and a clear path toward freedom.
🎧 Listen now and remember: Don’t do this alone.
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Rejection stings for a day. Regret owns you for years.
If you’re tired of hiding, this episode hands you the lens—and the guts—to choose freedom.
Episode Summary
Short, punchy solo from Michael on the trade-off we all face: the short-term pain of rejection vs. the long-term weight of regret—especially in porn recovery and relational healing. We hit shame (healthy vs. toxic), integrity vs. approval, and why connection—not white-knuckling—is the exit ramp.
What You’ll Learn
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Quit Porn Quick Start Guide — frameworks and practices Michael uses with clients: rscky.com/quickstart
Work With Us
Coaching & inquiries: rscky.com
IG: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda
A quick update from Michael about what's coming up!
Tired of check-ins that change nothing? Rethink accountability as a posture of growth, not a shame report.
Most guys treat accountability like a shame-based check-in: “Did you look at porn this week?” The problem? Shame can’t fuel long-term recovery—it only drives you back into isolation. In this episode, Michael and Nick reframe accountability as a posture of ownership and growth, not just a software report or weekly interrogation.
We unpack why shame-based motivation fails, what real accountability looks like, and how to start inviting others into your journey in a way that builds honesty, safety, and lasting change.
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Loneliness isn’t weakness—it’s a signal that you were made for connection. It shows up as heaviness in the body, withdrawal in the mind, and the ache of not being known. Scripture makes it clear: loneliness isn’t sin; it was present even in Eden before the fall. The danger is when we ignore it—turning to isolation, porn, or surface-level distractions that only deepen the ache. But when we name it, loneliness can lead us toward intimacy with God and others. The invitation is simple: reach out, be honest, and remember—you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Grab the free 5 Triggers Guide at rscky.com
Honesty + Vulnerability + Risk = TRUST
Most guys stuck in porn live in self-deception: “I can quit anytime,” “No one has to know.” That lie keeps you isolated. In Part 1 of our Community Series, Michael and Nick break down why trust is the foundation of real recovery and how to build it with three ingredients: Honesty, Vulnerability, and Risk.
You’ll also get a simple tool—the 4D Check-In (Head • Heart • Body • Spirit)—that you can use this week with a trusted friend. Community won’t just happen on its own; you need to schedule it, guard it, and show up.
Don’t do this alone. For resources and coaching, visit rscky.com. Connect with us on Instagram: @mikekamber | @nickwbuda.
👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide here
Shame doesn’t just say you messed up—it says you are the mess. It fuels secrecy, isolation, and addiction. But it’s not the voice of God.
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Ready for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com.
Fear isn’t weakness. It’s not the enemy. It’s a signal—and most of the time, it’s pointing to what you care most about. But if you don’t face it, it will run your life in the background, driving you right back to porn. In this episode, we expose the real fear beneath the urge and give you a better way to respond.
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🛠️ Practical Takeaways:
Share this episode with someone who’s tired of letting fear call the shots.
Ready for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com or connect with Michael on Instagram: @mikekamber
Michael and Nick unpack the three biggest mistakes they made trying to quit porn—self-managing in isolation, hiding behind half-truths, and relying only on filters. They share how those approaches failed and why real recovery requires honesty, safe relationships, and a whole-person approach to healing.
Visit rscky.com for more help and resources
Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s a messenger. In this episode, we unpack the truth about anger: where it comes from, what it’s trying to protect, and how most men either explode, implode, or numb it out. You’ll learn why anger is actually a signal that something important is being threatened—and how to respond with power instead of destruction. We look at how Jesus expressed righteous anger and why yours doesn’t have to be sinful either. If you’ve ever been told to just “calm down” or “be nice,” this one’s for you.
For more help and practical resources, visit rscky.com
Most men trying to quit porn are looking for a quick fix. But the real battle isn’t about white-knuckling willpower—it’s about facing toxic shame and self-contempt head-on. In this episode, Michael and Nick dig into the difference between guilt, shame, and toxic shame, and why so many men live trapped in cycles of self-hatred without even realizing it.
We share raw personal stories of confession, grace, and what it actually looks like to move from isolation into healing relationships. We unpack Genesis 3, the prodigal son, and the scandalous grace of God that clothes us in something far better than our own fig leaves.
You’ll learn:
If you’ve ever felt like you deserve punishment, struggle to receive grace, or can’t shake the voice of self-hatred, this conversation is for you.
Most of us avoid sadness like the plague. We numb it, bury it, or try to outrun it — and in the process, we cut ourselves off from what it’s trying to tell us. In this first episode of our Triggers Guide series, Michael and Nick unpack why sadness isn’t a weakness to “get over” but a vital signal pointing to loss, love, and connection.
You’ll hear how avoiding sadness fuels addictive cycles, why Jesus’ invitation to “mourn with those who mourn” is a path to healing, and practical ways to sit with sorrow without drowning in it.
If you’ve been told to “man up” and push through, this conversation will help you slow down, name what’s been lost, and discover the freedom that comes when you actually let yourself feel.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
If you’re stuck in the cycle of porn use and tired of white-knuckling your way through recovery, this episode gives you a clear, gospel-centered path forward.
Michael & Nick unpack 4 powerful principles from Scripture to help you break free from pornography:
This episode is for Christian men ready to reclaim integrity, restore wholeness, and actually win the war for sexual purity.
👇 Listen now and take the next step.
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🔗 Book your free recovery consult: rscky.com
📲 Follow Michael & Nick on Instagram: @mikekamber @nickwbuda @restorationsoulcare
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You say you want to quit porn. But do you really?
In this episode, Michael and Nick get honest about the brutal truth most guys avoid: you’re not stuck because you’re weak — you’re stuck because you haven’t fully committed. You’re still trying to manage the behavior instead of surrendering it.
We dig into:
This one’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s tired of the cycle and ready to draw a real line in the sand.
Connect with us: @mikekamber @nickwbuda @restorationsoulcare
If prayer alone could fix your porn problem, it would’ve worked by now. But for most men, prayer becomes another way to avoid the deeper emotional and relational work required for real freedom.
In this episode, we expose how spiritual bypassing keeps you stuck—and what it actually looks like to partner with God in your healing instead of outsourcing it to Him.
We walk through:
If you’ve been praying for years but still struggling with porn, this episode will help you confront the truth—and start healing from it.
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Hosts: Michael Kamber & Nick Buda
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⚠️ Disclaimer:
This podcast tackles real issues—addiction, trauma, faith, and recovery. It’s raw, honest, and not for the faint of heart.
“Sobriety without transformation is just delayed relapse.”
In this episode, Michael unpacks what actually leads to long-term freedom from pornography—and it’s not what you’ve been told.
Most guys chase streaks, install filters, and rely on willpower to stay “clean,” but never deal with the deeper issues underneath their behavior. If you’ve been white-knuckling and still feel stuck, this episode is going to hit hard and give you a whole new framework for recovery.
Sobriety is not the goal—wholeness is.
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