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She Who Dares, Wins.
Michelle Hands
160 episodes
1 day ago

Tired of playing by the rules? The She Who Dares Wins podcast is for the women who reject convention, challenge expectations, and carve their own damn way through life. Hosted by Michelle Hands—former construction engineer turned fearless storyteller—this podcast dives deep into the raw, unfiltered journeys of women who refuse to fit the mold.

If you've ever battled imposter syndrome, hesitated to take a risk, or felt the pressure to conform, this is your space. Expect bold conversations with trailblazers, adventurers, and industry disruptors who share their real stories of breaking barriers, building confidence, and rewriting success on their own terms.


🚀 What You'll Get:

✔️ No-fluff, high-impact conversations with women pushing boundaries

✔️ First-time experience stories & unconventional career pivots

✔️ Tactical steps to crush fear & own your confidence

✔️ Insights into thriving in male-dominated spaces

✔️ The perfect mix of adventure, risk-taking, and personal growth

This isn't your typical self-help show—it’s a call to action for women who want more. More adventure. More freedom. More hell yes moments. Tune in and join a community of unstoppable women who dare to win.


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Tired of playing by the rules? The She Who Dares Wins podcast is for the women who reject convention, challenge expectations, and carve their own damn way through life. Hosted by Michelle Hands—former construction engineer turned fearless storyteller—this podcast dives deep into the raw, unfiltered journeys of women who refuse to fit the mold.

If you've ever battled imposter syndrome, hesitated to take a risk, or felt the pressure to conform, this is your space. Expect bold conversations with trailblazers, adventurers, and industry disruptors who share their real stories of breaking barriers, building confidence, and rewriting success on their own terms.


🚀 What You'll Get:

✔️ No-fluff, high-impact conversations with women pushing boundaries

✔️ First-time experience stories & unconventional career pivots

✔️ Tactical steps to crush fear & own your confidence

✔️ Insights into thriving in male-dominated spaces

✔️ The perfect mix of adventure, risk-taking, and personal growth

This isn't your typical self-help show—it’s a call to action for women who want more. More adventure. More freedom. More hell yes moments. Tune in and join a community of unstoppable women who dare to win.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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She Who Dares, Wins.
Lucy Spraggan - Surviving SAS, Authenticity, and Self-Discovery

Surviving SAS, Authenticity, and Self-Discovery with Lucy Spraggan


This week, Lucy Spraggan sits down with me for one of the most honest, eye-opening conversations we’ve had on the show. If you think you know her from The X Factor or SAS: Who Dares Wins… you don’t. Not until you hear this.


Lucy talks openly about the realities of fame, trauma, sobriety, neurodiversity, and what it actually takes to rebuild your life from the ground up. She doesn’t sugar-coat a thing and that’s exactly why this episode hits so hard.


We get into the brutal behind-the-scenes of SAS, the mindset shift that changed everything, and why radical authenticity has become her non-negotiable. From learning to stop caring what people think, to finding joy in the smallest, most unexpected places… this episode is packed with truth.

If you’re navigating change, dealing with your past, or trying to figure out who the hell you are now — this one will stay with you.



Key Takeaways


  • Authenticity isn’t a buzzword — it’s a daily decision Lucy had to fight for.
  • SAS broke her physically, but rebuilt her mentally in ways she didn’t expect.
  • Sobriety gave her clarity, confidence, and a deeper sense of purpose.
  • Human connection — not individual grit — is what gets you through adversity.
  • Neurodiversity is her superpower, especially in creative and high-pressure spaces.
  • Radical honesty can change your entire relationship with yourself.
  • You are not your thoughts — and learning that can completely shift your life.
  • Joy comes from simple, grounded moments, not external validation.



Timestamps

0:00 — Welcome + Lucy’s definition of daring and winning

0:11 — The cost (and power) of radical authenticity

0:37 — Writing her book and telling the truth, even when it hurt

1:20 — Learning to stop caring what people think

3:45 — SAS: Why she pursued it and how she prepared

5:00 — The physical aftermath and hidden realities of the show

7:36 — Near-injuries, fear, and pushing through trauma

9:40 — Why connection mattered more than strength on SAS

11:19 — Behind the interrogation: sensory deprivation + mental testing

14:04 — The mindset warrior moment that changed everything

15:21 — What adversity taught her about herself

16:32 — Mental health, intrusive thoughts, and radical self-awareness

19:19 — Practicing “I am not my thoughts”

20:44 — Intention, presence, and redefining performance

23:20 — Music, community, and why connection is everything

26:00 — Boundaries with fans and protecting her mental health

29:06 — ADHD, learning patterns, and creativity

31:21 — Would Lucy be where she is without X Factor?

32:36 — Delusional capability: her secret weapon

35:59 — Breaking free from expectations and rebuilding your life

38:40 — Health challenges, long Covid, and mindset shifts

39:51 — Metal detecting, joy, and finding a life that feels good

42:15 — Martial arts, self-defence, and building physical confidence

45:08 — Discipline vs motivation — the real difference

46:00 — Misconceptions and learning not to care

49:06 — Joy, gratitude, and what truly matters

52:55 — Materialism, identity, and growth

55:16 — Carrying the people we’ve lost

56:45 — The dare: Lucy’s next challenge

58:12 — Why every woman should try jiu jitsu

1:00:00 — The vulva story, recovery, and ending with real talk


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1 day ago
1 hour 2 minutes 47 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #11 Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

In this episode of the Bonus Series, we’re cutting through the BS and breaking down why saying yes when you mean no isn’t kindness – it’s self-abandonment. I share my own story of overcommitting (hello burnout), the science behind approval-seeking, and how it screws with your nervous system, energy, and self-trust.

We unpack:


  • The social and neurological reasons we avoid saying no
  • Why your fake yes is slowly burning you out
  • The real cost of emotional suppression and cognitive dissonance
  • Tools to recognise a truthful yes vs. an obligation yes
  • Small ways to practice honest communication and build that backbone

PLUS: Your weekly DARE to practice saying no (without the guilt hangover).


Need backup as you start flexing your no muscle? Join us in Dare Club – the place for bold, honest women who are done shrinking.

Follow, share, and tag @SheWhoDaresWins – and let us know what you said no to this week!


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4 days ago
8 minutes 54 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Chasing Depth, not Perfection with Freediver Ruth Osborn

British national record–holding freediver Ruth Osborne is back — and let’s just say the last two years have been anything but smooth sailing. Ear infections, cancelled competition days, Caribbean chaos, burnout, and a couple of “is this my last dive ever?” moments… Ruth lays it all out with the kind of honesty most people avoid.

This episode isn’t about glory dives or perfect outcomes. It’s about what happens when the thing you love keeps punching you in the gut — and why you still get back in the water anyway.


We get into her training, mindset shifts, the ugly parts of high-level sport, and the surprising decision to coach herself. If you need a reminder that the path rarely looks pretty, this is it.



Key Takeaways

  • Progress without outcome is still progress. Ruth’s technique, strength and awareness are on another level — even if the number on the dive line hasn’t moved yet.
  • Setbacks don’t mean you're wrong for the path — sometimes they’re just annoying. Ear infections, heat, UTIs, and slanted dive lines aren’t “signs from the universe.” They’re life.
  • You can love the process even when you hate the results. That’s the real test of commitment.
  • Self-awareness beats brute force. From redefining nutrition to noticing burnout, Ruth shows what “listening to your body” actually looks like.
  • Retiring wasn’t the answer — remembering her ‘why’ was.
  • Coaching herself is the next evolution. She’s backing her own experience, instincts, and discipline.
  • Rest isn’t optional. Especially when you're diving 80+ metres on one breath.
  • Long-term mindset > short-term wins. She's building for depth, longevity, and a life lived well — not a single medal moment.


Timestamps

0:00 – Ruth is back: two years later, a lot deeper (mentally if not yet physically)

2:00 – Competitions, ear infections and the brutal timing of setbacks

4:15 – What “current” does to a dive and why it matters

8:00 – Pressure, performance windows and keeping your head straight

12:00 – Reacting vs choosing your reaction

16:00 – When outcome and effort don’t match

20:00 – Nutrition, protein and what changed for Ruth in her 40s

33:00 – The Dominica chapter: volcanoes, heat exhaustion and angry afternoons

39:00 – “Do I retire?” — Ruth hits her breaking point

44:00 – Why she stays in the game: rebuilding her ‘why’

52:00 – World Championships, coaching herself and designing a healthier training balance

56:00 – What’s next: May competitions and a new chapter on her terms


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1 week ago
57 minutes 56 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #10 Laugh at Your Own Drama: The Secret to Emotional Fluidity

ver found yourself spiralling over something tiny? Like stubbing your toe and suddenly rethinking your whole life?

Welcome to this week’s Dare Club episode: Laugh at Your Own Drama.


We’re diving into the art of emotional fluidity — how to stop fighting your feelings, ride the wave, and even find humour in your own chaos. Because here’s the truth: you can’t be stressed and amused at the same time. Laughter literally breaks your brain’s stress loop.

In this episode, Michelle shares one of her own “mid-meltdown” moments, explains why your brain loves drama, and how to flip emotional overreactions into moments of power and perspective.


💥 This week’s dare: Catch yourself mid-drama — and laugh. Out loud.

Because you can’t be in crisis and in control at the same time.


🎧 Tune in if you’re ready to swap your spirals for smirks and take your emotions a little less seriously.

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1 week ago
7 minutes 59 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Bravery, Boundaries, and Skinny Dipping into Self-Discovery with Sara Barnes

This week, Michelle sits down with writer, swimmer, and all-round adventurer Sara Barnes, whose story is a masterclass in resilience and reinvention. After surviving major heart surgery and multiple health setbacks, Sara turned to the freezing lakes of Cumbria for healing — and found her purpose.


From the icy calm of cold-water swimming to the realities of rejection, imposter syndrome, and late-life confidence, Sara’s story is a reminder that it’s never too late to start over or to finally back yourself.


🗝️ Key Takeaways

  • Life’s curveballs are invitations, not endings. Sara’s health scares forced her to slow down and realign her priorities.
  • Community saves us. Cold-water swimming connected her to a supportive world of women who push past comfort zones together.
  • Rejection isn’t failure. Years of “no” built the tenacity that led to her first published book.
  • Dreams lose their sparkle when they become reality — and that’s okay. The growth is in the pursuit, not the finish line.
  • Boundaries build better relationships. Saying “no” turned Sara’s life from lonely to aligned.
  • Confidence isn’t a switch. Even the boldest women still battle self-doubt — the trick is doing it anyway.



Timestamps

0:00 — Welcome & Sara’s story: surviving heart surgery and finding perspective

0:03:40 — Grief, loss, and how writing helped her heal

0:11:50 — The Instagram trap: learning to disconnect and reconnect with real life

0:12:18 — The unexpected beginning: how cold-water swimming saved her

0:19:48 — From ugly duckling to swan: the boss who underestimated her

0:26:20 — [Mid-Roll Ad Slot] + Identity shift — becoming an author and imposter syndrome

0:33:45 — The truth about chasing dreams and learning to enjoy the process

0:43:30 — Skinny dipping, confidence, and helping women find freedom

0:52:55 — Bonus Episode begins: Quick-fire dares and reflections


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2 weeks ago
53 minutes 40 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare#9 Show Some Gratitude — the underrated power move

Bonus Episode 9: Gratitude — The Underrated Power Move

Show Notes:

Most people roll their eyes at gratitude like it’s a Pinterest quote in disguise.

But here’s the thing — the science says otherwise. Gratitude isn’t fluff. It’s a mental reset button that actually changes how your brain works.


In this 11-minute episode, Michelle breaks down what really happens when you start practising gratitude — minus the sugar-coated affirmations. From rewiring your brain for resilience to improving mood and lowering stress, this episode explores how gratitude helps you stop chasing “more” and start seeing what’s already good.


Michelle also shares her own experience with burnout, how gratitude helped her rebuild perspective, and why “having it all” isn’t about achieving more — it’s about realising you already do.


🔍 In this episode:

  • The science behind gratitude (and why it’s more than a trend)
  • How practising gratitude literally rewires your brain
  • The “virtuous spiral” between gratitude and happiness
  • Simple, no-BS ways to build gratitude into your routine
  • Why gratitude isn’t toxic positivity — it’s resilience in disguise


🧠 Studies mentioned:

  • Robert Emmons & Michael McCullough’s research on gratitude and happiness
  • 2023 Meta-analysis of 64 studies showing gratitude lowers anxiety and depression
  • UCLA findings on gratitude improving sleep and heart health
  • Frontiers in Psychology (2019) study on gratitude and life satisfaction


💥 Your Dare:

For one week, write down one thing that went wrong —

and one thing about it you’re still grateful for.

That’s how you build gratitude that sticks, not just gratitude that sounds good.


sign up for dare club www.shewhodareswins.com


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2 weeks ago
13 minutes 6 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
28 Years On Air — And Starting Over: The JoJo Kelly Story

After 28 years on air, Yorkshire radio legend JoJo Kelly swapped early mornings and microphones for the Welsh mountains — and a brand new chapter.

In this laugh-out-loud and deeply relatable chat, JoJo opens up about her accidental start in radio (thanks to a guy in a dress and a nightclub), the confidence it took to survive male-dominated breakfast shows, and why she’s now embracing the unknown with open arms.


From her days at Kiss 105 and Galaxy FM to her recent move to rural Wales, JoJo’s story is a masterclass in joy, resilience, and reinvention.

You’ll hear:

  • 🎧 How a night out led to a 28-year radio career
  • 💪 What it was really like being a woman in radio through the 90s and 2000s
  • 🧠 How menopause and confidence shifts made her re-evaluate everything
  • 🔄 The courage it takes to start again after decades in one career
  • 🌄 Why she swapped city lights for mountain life (and how she’s adjusting!)
  • 🎭 Her dream to finally chase the acting career she put on hold

Whether you’re standing at a crossroads or just craving proof that it’s never too late to pivot, this episode will leave you laughing, nodding, and maybe planning your own wild next chapter.


Timestamps

0:00 – Meet JoJo Kelly: 28 years on air and counting

2:00 – How a nightclub encounter launched her radio career

7:00 – Crashing the boys’ club: early lessons in confidence and ego

12:00 – The power of joy and surviving 4:30am starts

16:00 – Dealing with trolls before social media was a thing

18:00 – Losing anonymity as a radio host

25:00 – Moving to Wales & embracing the unknown

36:00 – Menopause, confidence, and finding your voice again

46:00 – Ageism, reinvention & why JoJo’s not done yet

52:00 – What’s next: hosting, acting, and making friends with goats


www.shewhodareswins.com


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3 weeks ago
54 minutes 12 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #8 Stick With It — Even If It’s Messy

What If You’re Closer Than You Think?



🎧 Episode Summary:

In this episode of She Who Dares Wins, Michelle reflects on a recent moment that stopped her in her tracks — checking the podcast analytics and realising that, against all odds, the show is steadily growing. She looks back at those first, shaky recordings and realises: she could have quit before it ever got good. And almost did.

This isn’t just a story about resilience — it’s about the messy, uncomfortable middle that most people run from. Backed by psychology and philosophy, this week’s episode explores why consistency is one of the hardest, most underrated skills — and why you’re probably closer than you think.



🧠 Key Takeaways:

  • Progress rarely feels like progress while you’re in it. Small wins compound over time — even if you can’t see it day-to-day.
  • There’s a scientific reason the middle feels hard. Research shows motivation spikes when we start and finish something — and drops off halfway through (Heath & Heath, The Power of Moments).
  • We need friction to grow. Author Brad Stulberg calls it “productive discomfort” — sticking with the hard thing is often what builds the muscle we need to succeed.
  • Your brain craves novelty — and consistency can feel boring. But mastery only lives on the other side of that boredom (see James Clear, Atomic Habits).
  • Don't trust the dip. Your emotions aren’t always a reliable metric of whether it’s working.



🎯 This Week’s Dare:

Stick with it — especially if it’s not working yet.

Pick one thing you’ve been tempted to give up on… and recommit to it for one more week.


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3 weeks ago
9 minutes 11 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Sunshine After the Storm: Clare on Loss, Grit & Starting Again

Two months after losing her baby Charlotte to SIDS, Clare opened a laptop, named a business on the back of a credit card bill, and started. In this raw, no-fluff conversation, she shares how grief, debt, and a surprise pregnancy became the backdrop to building Sunshine Digital, landing FirstGroup as her first client, and later clawing back from heart failure (8% function) to cold-water swim guide. It’s survival turned agency — and a blueprint for doing it afraid.


Key Takeaways

  • You don’t wait for confidence — you build it by moving.
  • Grief doesn’t get lighter; you get stronger at carrying it.
  • Starting small (one Facebook page, one pitch) can change your life.
  • Community and purpose beat isolation — even in the darkest season.
  • Cold water, journaling “glimmers,” and simple routines can reset your nervous system.
  • It’s not about being a victim or a hero — it’s about choosing the next brave step.


Timestamps

  • 00:00 — “She who dares wins”: Claire’s dare & why she started
  • 02:23 — The night everything changed & the aftermath
  • 03:55 — Debt, pregnancy, and naming Sunshine Digital on a bill
  • 05:31 — First client: landing FirstGroup by “winging it”
  • 07:51 — Purpose through work while grieving + parenting her eldest
  • 20:05 — What to say (and not say) about loss; why memories matter
  • 31:18 — Multiple organ failure at 39 → the fight back
  • 35:13 — Cold-water swimming, joy returns, and guiding others


About Claire

Founder of Sunshine Digital and the Shine Online Club, Clare Clifford helps small businesses level up content and strategy while championing community in Leeds and beyond. She’s also a volunteer swim guide with Mental Health Swims.


Resources Mentioned

  • Mental Health Swims (community cold-water sessions)
  • Shine Online Club (Claire’s membership for small biz owners)


Connect

  • Follow the podcast: @SheWhoDaresWins
  • Share this episode with someone who needs proof they can start again.
  • Rate & review if this conversation helped you — it really does make a difference. 💛

Trigger/Content Note: child loss (SIDS), grief, hospital/medical discussion.


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4 weeks ago
46 minutes 53 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #7 Follow your curiosity

This week’s dare is all about swapping certainty for curiosity.


Because the truth is — every bold move, every new chapter, every unexpected success… starts with one small “what if?”

In this episode, Michelle talks about how following curiosity (instead of waiting for clarity) has shaped her own career — from leaving construction to building She Who Dares Wins, to now stepping into filmmaking with zero guarantees and a whole lot of faith.


You’ll also hear stories from two incredible women who dared to follow the pull of curiosity and built something extraordinary:

  • Kelsey Erickson, who went from having no plan at all to leading athlete welfare at USA Cycling — simply by saying yes to what sparked her interest.
  • Lucy Thompson, a tattoo artist whose curiosity about scar tattoos led her to build a national charity offering free 3D nipple tattoos for breast cancer survivors.


Together, these stories prove that curiosity isn’t about knowing — it’s about trusting.

And it’s often the start of everything worth doing.


This Week’s Key Takeaways

  1. Curiosity beats clarity.
  2. Waiting until you “have it all figured out” kills momentum. Follow what feels alive — not what’s logical.
  3. The Stoic lesson:
  4. You can’t control the outcome, only how you show up for what’s in front of you. (Marcus Aurelius had it right.)
  5. Your brain is built for it.
  6. Research shows curiosity activates your dopamine system — the same one linked to motivation and learning. You’re wired to explore.
  7. Curiosity creates resilience.
  8. It’s the mental version of strength training. Every time you step toward something new, you’re rewiring your brain to handle more uncertainty.
  9. Small sparks lead to big shifts.
  10. Lucy’s entire career pivot started with one question: “Why is this happening?”
  11. Kelsey’s began with one “yes.”


🌵 This Week’s Dare


Do one thing purely because you’re curious.

Not because it’s productive, smart, or part of a plan.

Because it excites you.

  • DM someone doing work that interests you.
  • Watch a documentary on something random.
  • Take a class or try a skill you’ve secretly wanted to.

It’s not about control — it’s about trust.


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1 month ago
13 minutes 35 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
When Life Knocks You Down (Literally): Rising Again as a Stone Mason Rachel Wragg

From Nearly Crushed to Carving Cathedrals: Rachel’s Story of Reinvention


At 29, Rachel decided to become a stonemason — but that wasn’t where her story began.


Before carving stone for Lincoln Cathedral, she was literally hit by a truck. The accident left her learning to walk again, questioning everything, and ultimately rebuilding her life from the ground up (quite literally).

In this episode, Rachel joins Michelle for round two — a raw and funny catch-up on recovery, resilience, and rediscovering purpose. They talk about learning patience through craft, why boredom might actually be a skill, and what it’s like to leave your mark (literally) on a piece of history.

They also dig into:


  • Why you should never underestimate time spent “funemployed.”
  • How trauma can reset your direction — without defining you.
  • What stonemasonry teaches you about discipline, creativity, and slowing the hell down.
  • Rachel’s love for vintage fashion, her 1940s Jeep “Dottie,” and why history still has her heart.
  • The myth of failure when you start again later in life.


It’s honest, unexpected, and proof that sometimes the slow path is the one that lasts the longest.


00:00 – Intro & “How have you dared and won?”

01:18 – The accident: hit by a truck, rehab, learning to walk again

06:17 – Apprenticeship decision & career at Lincoln Cathedral

07:58 – Why boredom is a core skill in stonemasonry (training process)

14:49 – Mason’s marks explained + Rachel’s “witch’s hat” mark

23:53 – Rachel’s 1944 Willys Jeep “Dottie”

29:53 – Returning to university & Master’s in Historic Buildings

40:05 – Media features: Woman’s Hour, Look North & surprise BBC Breakfast segment


🎧 Listen now to hear how Rachel turned being broken into building something timeless.


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1 month ago
43 minutes 35 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #6 Embrace the unknown, even when there is no road map

Episode Summary:


This week, Michelle dares you to do something most people avoid — embrace the unknown.

After 17 years in construction, Michelle opens up about what it’s really like to walk away from stability and step into filmmaking with no guarantees. She shares how reading about Stoicism helped her stop waiting for certainty and start trusting action instead.

Backed by neuroscience, this episode breaks down why our brains panic when things feel uncertain — and how leaning into discomfort can literally rewire you for resilience.


You’ll also hear from two past She Who Dares Wins guests who’ve lived this dare in their own lives:

💥 Jenni, the former police detective who left her pensioned career to work in close protection — learning to rely on instincts instead of procedure.

🌊 Zoe, the teacher-turned-cold-water-swim-retreat founder, who discovered that the same practice that chilled her body also strengthened her mind.

And this week’s dare is a practical one — no “trust the universe” fluff. It’s about building your confidence through rejection and action.



In This Episode:

  • The truth about leaving stability for something unknown
  • Why your brain treats uncertainty like danger (and why that’s a good thing)
  • The science behind cognitive flexibility and resilience
  • What Jenni and Zoe teach us about courage and starting fresh
  • How to move forward even when there’s no clear plan


This Week’s Dare:

Do something that carries a real chance of rejection.

Send the pitch. Ask for the opportunity. Share the idea you’ve been sitting on.

The goal isn’t to get a yes — it’s to prove you won’t crumble if you get a no.

Because rejection isn’t failure — it’s evidence you’re in the right arena.



Key Takeaways:

  • Uncertainty feels terrifying because your brain is wired to avoid unpredictability.
  • But the same uncertainty also fuels curiosity, learning, and growth.
  • Confidence isn’t about knowing everything — it’s about trusting yourself to handle what comes next.
  • Rejection is a muscle — the more you work it, the stronger you get.


Join the Dare Club

If you’re ready to start acting on these dares — not just thinking about them — join the Dare Club.

You’ll get the weekly dare straight to your inbox every Thursday, plus behind-the-scenes updates from the She Who Dares Wins journey.

👉 Sign up via the link in Michelle’s Instagram bio or at shewhodareswins.com → Dare Club.


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1 month ago
13 minutes 6 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Why Confidence, Not Luck, Makes a Champion — Lessons from Jockey Jo Mason

At 30, most jockeys have been riding professionally for over a decade — but not Jo Mason. In this episode, Michelle sits down with Jo to talk about breaking into the world of horse racing later in life, the brutal realities of injury and recovery, and how she turned a pandemic setback into the moment she finally went pro.

From breaking her back to breaking barriers for women in racing, Jo’s story is one of resilience, grit, and pure love for the sport.


Key Takeaways

  • It’s never too late to start again. Jo turned professional at 30 — proof that there’s no expiry date on your dream.
  • Confidence isn’t something you wait for — it’s something you build through doing.
  • Hard work beats luck. Behind every race is relentless training, travel, and self-discipline.
  • Women belong at the top. Racing may have been male-dominated, but Jo’s generation is changing that.
  • You can rebuild after burnout or injury. Jo’s comeback after breaking her back shows that recovery starts with mindset.
  • Your journey doesn’t have to follow the rulebook. Education, pivots, and detours can all lead to purpose.


Timestamps

0:00 – 3:00

Introduction and Jo’s journey from sports nutrition to racing.

3:00 – 7:00

Growing up in a racing family and the path from amateur to professional.

7:00 – 13:00

The fall that broke her back and the long road to recovery.

13:00 – 17:00

Turning professional during Covid and proving herself on the track.

17:00 – 25:00

Racing against legends and breaking barriers for women in sport.

25:00 – 37:00

Life behind the scenes: training, travel, pressure, and pay.

37:00 – 54:00

The physical and mental toll — weight, nutrition, and injury resilience.

54:00 – 1:03:00

Lessons learned, sacrifices made, and Jo’s message to women chasing their dreams.



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1 month ago
1 hour 4 minutes 6 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #5 Get to Know Yourself – The Real Superpower

This week, Michelle dives into one of the hardest — and most freeing — parts of growth: getting to know yourself.

After diving into Stoicism and reflecting on the “tick-box” culture we’re all trapped in, she shares how she’s learning to tune out the noise of social media, stop chasing external validation, and focus on what actually brings her joy


Through powerful guest stories — from Zoe, the para-surfer who rebuilt her identity after losing her leg in a car accident, to Emma, the ethical beekeeper who turned a career of false starts into a business built on passion and purpose — this episode explores what happens when we stop performing for the world and start listening to ourselves again.

Backed by neuroscience and psychology, Michelle breaks down how true self-knowledge reshapes your brain, boosts confidence, and helps you make decisions that feel right, not just look right.



In This Episode:

  • Why Stoic philosophy can help you cut through the noise and focus on what really matters
  • How to stop chasing approval and start defining success on your own terms
  • The neuroscience of self-awareness — and how reflection literally rewires your brain
  • What Zoe’s surfing story teaches us about starting fresh without comparison
  • How Emma’s path from Mars sales to beekeeping proves you’re never really “starting over” — you’re collecting clues
  • 3 practical ways to get to know yourself again
  • This week’s DARE — one hour alone, no distractions, three powerful questions

🧠 Key Takeaways:

  • You can’t build confidence on borrowed values.
  • True joy comes from alignment, not achievement.
  • Self-awareness isn’t fluffy — it’s neurological training for better emotional regulation.
  • Every version of you has something to teach the next one.


This Week’s Dare:

Spend one hour alone — no phone, no music, no podcast.

Ask yourself:

  1. What actually gives me joy?
  2. What am I pretending not to know?
  3. Where am I living by someone else’s rules?

Write it down. Sit with it. Your next chapter starts there.



🐝 Guest Highlights:

Zoe: From athlete to para-surfing world champion — rediscovering identity through courage and flow.

Emma: From Mars Chocolate sales to ethical beekeeping — finding purpose in curiosity and slow progress




📚 Referenced in the Episode:

  • Meditations — Marcus Aurelius
  • Honeybee Democracy — Tom Seeley
  • The Gifts of Imperfection — Brené Brown
  • Research on the Default Mode Network, interoception, and self-concept clarity

Join the Dare Club:

If this episode hit home, come join our Dare Club a community for women who are brave enough to know themselves and dare anyway.

👉 Drop “Dare Club” in the comments or DM @shewhodareswins on Instagram to get your invite or click the link below

Join the Dare Club: https://stan.store/shewhodareswins


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1 month ago
14 minutes 52 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
From Cambridge to Cowboy Suits: Kellye’s Story of Reinvention

From Cambridge to Cowboy Suits: Kellye’s Story of Reinvention


After 20 years as a physicist, Kellye left her career in science to follow a completely different path — one guided by creativity, craftsmanship, and courage.

From building cancer research sensors at Cambridge to hand-stitching rhinestone suits for country icons in Nashville, Kellye’s story is a masterclass in daring to start again when the life you built no longer fits.

In this episode, we talk about identity, creativity, and the uncomfortable—but liberating—truth about change.


⏱️ Timestamps

0:00 – 04:00 | From Texas Farm to Physics Prodigy

Kellye shares her childhood on a working farm in Texas, where fixing things and understanding how machines worked first sparked her curiosity — the early signs of both a scientist and a maker.

04:00 – 10:00 | Cambridge and the World of Academia

How Kellye was recruited into university at just 16, worked her way to Cambridge, and built a 20-year career in physics researching cancer sensors — all while quietly craving something more creative.

10:00 – 16:00 | When Success Doesn’t Feel Like Success

The moment she realised academia’s version of “making it” wasn’t hers — and what happens when your dream job stops feeling like a dream.

16:00 – 23:00 | The Pivot: From Labs to Leather & Lace

Why Kellye and her husband quit their jobs to start a furniture business, and how that side-step opened the door to her lifelong love of sewing, tailoring, and Western wear.

23:00 – 33:00 | Saving a Dying Craft

Kellye dives into her obsession with vintage embroidery machines — how she tracked, restored, and mastered 100-year-old equipment to keep a lost art alive.

33:00 – 41:00 | From Savile Row to Nashville

How a leap of faith (and a lot of self-belief) led Kellye from a tailoring course in Macclesfield to Nashville, where her first project was sewing a suit for Johnny Cash’s son.

41:00 – 50:00 | The Art of Storytelling Through Stitching

How she now creates bespoke, hand-embroidered suits that carry her clients’ stories, and why every stitch is a piece of living history.

50:00 – 59:00 | Reinvention, Ego Death & The Artist’s Way

What it really feels like to walk away from an identity that once defined you — and how Kellye rebuilt her life and confidence through creative discipline, journaling, and community.

59:00 – End | Finding Your People & Following the Pull

The importance of surrounding yourself with people who “get it,” and the power of community when you choose the road less travelled.


💡 Key Takeaways

  • Success means nothing if it’s misaligned. You can build the perfect life on paper and still feel empty — that’s your cue to pivot.
  • Creativity and logic aren’t opposites. Whether in science or art, both start with curiosity and the courage to make something new.
  • Leaving an identity behind is hard — but necessary. Growth often feels like loss before it feels like freedom.
  • Old crafts deserve new hands. Reviving lost skills can connect us to something much bigger than ourselves.
  • Find your people. Reinvention is lonely until you build a community that sees you for who you’re becoming, not who you were.



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1 month ago
1 hour 7 minutes 38 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #4 Stop Doing It Alone - The Power of Community & Courage

Episode Title: Stop Doing It Alone – The Power of Community & Courage


Ever feel like you’ve got to prove yourself by doing everything solo? In this bonus episode, Michelle shares why that mindset is holding you back — and why true courage is built in connection.


Drawing on her own story of launching She Who Dares Wins, plus the inspiring journeys of:

  • Rachel Peru, silver-haired model and midlife body confidence activist
  • Siobhan Daniels, author of Retirement Rebel who found purpose after 60
  • Liz & Rebecca, founders of Redefine Gym, building a powerful women-only fitness community


Michelle unpacks how community changes everything — not just emotionally, but biologically. With insights from neuroscience and psychology, you’ll learn how connection fuels courage, lowers stress, and even rewires your brain for resilience.


💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why your brain is wired for support, not solo survival
  • How mirror neurons and oxytocin make courage contagious
  • The health cost of loneliness — and the power of belonging
  • Practical ways to lean into community this week


🔥 This Week’s Dare:

Stop doing it alone. Pick one challenge you’ve been carrying solo and ask for support — from a friend, a mentor, or a community like The Dare Club.

👉 Ready to step up? Share your dare and join the conversation inside The Dare Club.


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1 month ago
13 minutes 28 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Breathing, Focus, and Fish: How Fly Fishing Pulled Me Out of My Head with Amie Battams

🎣 She Who Dares Wins – “Michelle’s First Day Fly Fishing with Aime”

What happens when you throw a total beginner (Michelle) into the world of fly fishing with someone who knows what they’re doing (Aime)? A lot of laughs, a few surprises about what’s actually living under the water, and a whole lot of lessons about patience, presence, and letting go.

This episode isn’t just about learning how to cast a line — it’s about stepping outside your comfort zone and seeing life through a completely different lens.


What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

  • Breaking myths about fly fishing – it’s not all reels and rods; it’s motion, patience, and a bit of science.
  • Michelle’s crash course in casting – from flicking the rod to understanding the mysterious “nymph” at the end of the line.
  • The secret world under the river – larvae, minnows, crayfish and why trout are the “nasty bastards” of the fish world.
  • The mental side of fishing – how it forces you to breathe, focus and get out of your head.
  • Adrenaline and beginners’ luck – why learning a new skill can feel like a high-stakes dance between you and nature.
  • Life lessons from the river – survival, patience, and why sometimes you have to let the fish run if you want to catch it.
  • Funny (and very real) riverside stories – from dead dogs to accidental people-watching moments you can’t unsee.


Why You Should Listen

If you’ve ever wondered what fly fishing is actually like or you’re curious about how trying something new can shift your mindset, this episode is part tutorial, part comedy, and part meditation. Aime shares her knowledge, Michelle shares her shock, and together they uncover why standing in a river with a rod can teach you more about yourself than you’d expect.


Timestamps

  • 0:00 – Michelle’s first impressions: “Isn’t fly fishing just reeling in?”
  • 0:15 – Aime explains the basics of casting and why it’s simpler than you think.
  • 2:00 – The truth about flies, nymphs and the secret bug cities under the river.
  • 4:00 – Predatory trout, invasive crayfish, and the harsh reality of river life.
  • 5:30 – Learning to breathe: why fly fishing can feel like a meditation.
  • 6:50 – The mental reset: how fishing gets you out of your head.
  • 8:20 – Random memories and riverside thoughts.
  • 10:00 – Why beginners’ luck feels like adrenaline.
  • 11:00 – People-watching and unexpected river encounters.
  • 12:30 – Michelle reflects on city life vs. river life.



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1 month ago
33 minutes 57 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare #3: Fight Your Resistance – The Enemy of Creativity

This week’s dare is all about resistance — that invisible wall that shows up the second you try something bold. Spoiler: it’s not laziness, it’s fear in disguise.


In this episode, Michelle shares her own battle with resistance when starting the She Who Dares Wins podcast, plus powerful stories from past guests:

  • Rebecca, who left medicine to build a flower farm 🌸
  • Charlie, who swapped law school for music management 🎶


We’ll dig into the science of why your brain resists change, how procrastination is just dopamine tricking you, and why resistance gets loudest right before your breakthrough.


This week’s dare: Identify your resistance and give it 10 messy minutes a day. Write one page, record one voice note, plant one seed. Imperfect action beats perfect avoidance every time.


🔗 Join the Dare Club:

📲 Connect on Instagram: @shewhodareswins


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2 months ago
11 minutes 31 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Say Yes Before You’re Ready: Making a Documentary the Hard Way - She who dares wins productions

Episode: Making Our First Sea Film (and Surviving It) — with filmmaker Zoe East

What it’s about: behind the scenes of our mini-documentary about Ash, a female fisherman. Two women, one working boat, the hottest day of the year, and a very real lesson in saying yes before you’re “ready.”


You’ll hear about:

  • The films Michelle & Zoe have already made together (rowers, stonemasons, adventurers) and why this one felt different.
  • How the Ash film finally happened after five years of red tape.
  • Filming on a live working boat: zero seating, tight wheelhouse, fuel fumes, safety zones, and why some shots were “off the cuff.”
  • Sea-sickness roulette: ginger shots, mindset, the wheelhouse of doom, who threw up (and who didn’t), and how to keep shooting when your horizon won’t sit still.
  • The drone saga: trees, no-fly zones, ND filter chaos, and missing “the one job” harbour shot.
  • What actually gets kept vs thrown back (and why fishermen get an unfair rap).
  • Doing the dares: banding lobsters and mackerel fishing while trying not to die.
  • The long steam home, the graveyard camper stopover, and the infamous Co-op pants.
  • What’s next: festivals, sponsors, and building She Who Dares Wins Productions — films about women, by women.

Key takeaways:

  • You don’t need perfect conditions to make a great film — you need respect, adaptability, and momentum.
  • Boundaries keep you alive on a working boat; they also keep your story sharp.
  • “Confidence” isn’t the absence of nausea — it’s doing the job while you feel it.
  • Fishermen are far more regulated than most people think; sustainability was front and centre.
  • Minimum crew, maximum story: say yes, keep it simple, solve one problem at a time.


Gear & constraints (for the film nerds):

  • Small crew, limited kit, prioritising safety & workflow over perfection.
  • No flying at sea (signal risk), attempted harbour drone shot foiled by ND filter & timing.
  • Interviews split: land day + light top-ups at sea.


Timestamps (light, skimmable):

  • 0:00 — Why Zoe’s back + our past films
  • 1:25 — The Ash idea: 5 years of “maybe” to “let’s do it”
  • 2:53 — Planning vs reality: tourists, heat, off-the-cuff shooting
  • 4:08 — Ginger shots & mindset: the seasick strategy
  • 6:23 — Wheelhouse hell + safety on a working deck
  • 9:35 — Missing shots, saving the story
  • 12:01 — What gets thrown back: sustainability in action
  • 14:20 — The mackerel dare & keeping morale up
  • 18:30 — Harbour return, drone fail, tourist chaos
  • 21:10 — Camper van, graveyard, and the Co-op pants
  • 23:30 — What’s next: festivals, sponsors, more women-led films



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2 months ago
37 minutes 38 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.
Dare 2: Daring to Start Over Again

It’s Never Too Late to Start Over


Episode Summary:

In this week’s Thursday Dare Challenge, Michelle opens up about one of the most personal themes yet: starting over when the world tells you it’s too late. From her own experience of burnout and reinvention to the inspiring stories of past guests like Amanda, Rachel, and Jo, this episode proves that new chapters don’t come with an age limit.


Michelle dives into the science of neuroplasticity, the power of transferable skills, and why fear and judgment often hold us back. She also shares practical dares to help you take the first steps towards your own fresh start—without burning your old life down overnight.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why it’s never too late to reinvent yourself—whether at 30, 40, 50, or 60.
  • Michelle’s personal story of leaving a 17-year career in construction after hitting burnout.
  • Amanda’s bold pivot after building a multi-million-pound business.
  • Rachel’s transformation from insecure mum to international swimwear model at 46.
  • Jo’s reinvention in her 50s and 60s, including paddleboarding across the UK.
  • The science behind why our brains can adapt and grow at any age.
  • Practical dares to push you past fear and into action.

This Week’s Dare:

Write down:

  1. If money and judgment weren’t an issue, what would you start tomorrow?
  2. What skills do you enjoy in your current role that could carry you forward?
  3. 👉 Then, reach out to one person working in a field you’re curious about and ask about their journey.

Inspiring Late Bloomers Mentioned:

  • James Dyson – launched his vacuum at 46.
  • Vera Wang – entered fashion at 40.
  • Colonel Sanders – franchised KFC at 62.

Join the Dare Club:

Want to go deeper? Sign up for the Dare Club waiting list at shewhodareswins.com/dareclub. You’ll get weekly dares straight to your inbox plus early access to the full Dare Club experience when it launches.


Support the Podcast:

  • Grab badass clothing with code POD10 at shewhodareswins.com
  • Join the Patreon community for exclusive guest bonus episodes
  • Watch the Dare Challenges on YouTube



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2 months ago
17 minutes 5 seconds

She Who Dares, Wins.

Tired of playing by the rules? The She Who Dares Wins podcast is for the women who reject convention, challenge expectations, and carve their own damn way through life. Hosted by Michelle Hands—former construction engineer turned fearless storyteller—this podcast dives deep into the raw, unfiltered journeys of women who refuse to fit the mold.

If you've ever battled imposter syndrome, hesitated to take a risk, or felt the pressure to conform, this is your space. Expect bold conversations with trailblazers, adventurers, and industry disruptors who share their real stories of breaking barriers, building confidence, and rewriting success on their own terms.


🚀 What You'll Get:

✔️ No-fluff, high-impact conversations with women pushing boundaries

✔️ First-time experience stories & unconventional career pivots

✔️ Tactical steps to crush fear & own your confidence

✔️ Insights into thriving in male-dominated spaces

✔️ The perfect mix of adventure, risk-taking, and personal growth

This isn't your typical self-help show—it’s a call to action for women who want more. More adventure. More freedom. More hell yes moments. Tune in and join a community of unstoppable women who dare to win.


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