Your Trust Issues Will Make Him Break Your Trust in your anxious-avoidant relationship Have you ever thought: “I trust my boyfriend when he’s done nothing wrong… so why am I still anxious?” “Why do I always worry my partner might leave me?” “Why do trust issues show up even in healthy relationships?”   This episode is for women with trust issues, relationship anxiety, and fear of abandonment who feel on edge even when nothing bad is happening. If you’ve been the “chill” woman on the outside while secretly scanning for danger on the inside… re-reading texts, checking tone, bracing for pain...you’re not broken. Your brain is running a self-fulfilling prophecy. 🌀   We’ll break down: How trust issues form (even when men haven’t actually betrayed you) Why anxiety behaviors push secure men away and activate avoidant ones How over-checking, reassurance-seeking, and control loops reinforce the belief “men can’t be trusted” Why your nervous system is protecting you... and how that protection turns into self-sabotage You’ll learn how to rebuild trust in yourself, regulate your nervous system, and shift out of hypervigilance.. so love stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling safe again.      ⏰ Chapters 00:00 Why trust issues create self-fulfilling prophecies02:14 Dating stage: trust issues in the talking phase06:48 How anxiety behaviors push good men away11:02 Relationship stage: overthinking, jealousy, reassurance loops15:40 Why avoidant partners are drawn to anxious patterns19:30 The psychology behind “I trust him but still feel unsafe”23:10 The real shift: rebuilding trust in yourself27:05 4 mini steps to rewire trust31:40 What changes when trust heals   💎 Courses✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resourcesFree Attachment Library➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   🖤 About meI’m Jula, an attachment style coach.I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨   💌 Work with me➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Have you been wondering: “Why isn’t my partner saying ‘I love you’ more?” Or maybe it’s more like: Why does my boyfriend not say “I love you” first? Why does my husband not say “I love you” back sometimes? Why does he just say “love you” or “me too” instead of the words I need? 🌪   7 Truths you’re MISSING about love, words, and attachment Hey love… if your chest tightens when he says “love you” instead of “I love you,” or a simple “me too” makes your stomach drop 🌪, this episode is for you.   If you’re re-reading texts, scanning every emoji, and panicking:🧨 “Is he pulling away?”🧨 “Did the love change?”🧨 “Is something wrong?” …then this is EXACTLY for your anxious attachment brain  Here’s the truth: it’s probably NOT about him. Not about your relationship. And definitely not about you.   Most likely, your partner loves you deeply… but shows it in a different language than your nervous system was shaped to understand. Yay. (thats the GOOD news.) 🕊💛   This episode is for women with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, and those hypervigilant to verbal reassurance. You’ll learn how to see his love, read his actions, and shift your nervous system so you stop chasing or doubting. If you’re ready to feel safe, loved, and confident in your relationship, even when the words aren’t exactly what your brain expects, press play 🎧🩹🤍   ⏰ Chapters 00:00 Understanding Love Language and Attachment Styles02:30 What if he doesn't love me anymore?02:47 First… this fear is NOT about your partner04:37 Second… words are NOT the only proof of love08:58 Third… silence doesn’t mean distance09:56 Fourth… your fear is a PART of you, not ALL of you11:27 Fifth… ask yourself this instead12:29 Sixth… here’s the honest, empowering truth13:09 Seventh...You are NOT asking for too much (but you NEED words to feel safe))16:54 Last thing       💎 Courses ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop     🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.I help women stop chasing, stop overgiving, and attract secure love ✨   💌 Work with me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

10 Hard Truths to STOP Chasing (Anxious Attachment & Dating Advice) If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨ This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay. In this podcast episode, I share dating advice for anxious attachment, explain how men actually fall in love, and why chasing, proving, and people-pleasing push men away instead of creating connection. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing, stop abandoning yourself, set healthy boundaries, and attract secure, emotionally available men without playing games or pretending not to care. This episode is especially for women struggling with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, limerence, and anxious-avoidant dating dynamics — the women who keep asking:“Why do I care more than he does?”“Why do men pull away when I get attached?” You’re not broken. This is about attachment wiring, not your worth 🔒🧠   💎 Courses ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop     ⏰ What you’ll learn in this episode: 00:00 Understanding Men's Love Dynamics00:07 01. Understand how MEN fall in love (not what you think)04:26 02. Let Him Be Your Hero09:57 3. Men are attracted to confidence AND boundaries12:30 4. Men fall for presence, not perfection16:06 5. Physical intimacy creates FAST bonds - use it wisely17:50 6. Men secretly love a woman obsessed with HERSELF19:42 7. The more you abandon yourself, the more emotionally unavailable men show up20:54 8. Give him freedom - the healthiest power move23:07 9. Obsession is a signal - not love24:34 10. Make Him Fear He Could Lose You26:11 Summary       🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.I help women stop chasing, stop overgiving, and attract secure love ✨   💌 Work with me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

➞ Take the 3min FREE Attachment Quiz (3.7K others did before you) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   What I wish I knew when I was 20 about men.Truly.What would I wish I had known when I was 20? 🫂✨ These are the REAL truths about men I learned the hard way.As an ex–anxious attachment girl.Heartbroken.Overthinking every text 📱Feeling insecure WAY too often 🥶⛈ If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for YOU 🔒🤍If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.If you chase, overgive, and lose yourself trying to be chosen.If dating feels like a 🎢 instead of something calm and safe. In this episode, I’m sharing truths about men for anxious attachment that would have completely changed my 20s.Psychology hacks How men’s brains actually work 🔮How they experience attraction.How they love.And why doing MORE usually pushes them away 🚩 This is NOT men vs women ❌It’s attachment styles.Nervous system wiring Polarity.And why anxious energy quietly kills attraction even when your intentions are pure 🩹   I share what actually makes men pursue 🐆Why boundaries create attraction How overgiving backfires.And what secure love really looks like when you stop performing and start being YOU  This is dating advice for anxious women who want to stop auditioning.Stop proving.Stop waiting by the phone 👀📱And finally feel calm, grounded, and confident in love ✨   I’m Jula Attachment style coach.I went from anxious to earned secure 5 years ago in only 6 months🦸🏼‍♀️ Welcome to the Anxious to Secure Podcast 🎙🤍     CHAPTERS:   00:00 10 Truths about men (about attachment styles, polarity, chasing) that would have CHANGED my 20's completely01:27 01. It was NEVER about “men vs women.”02:55 02. You teach a man EXACTLY how to treat you in the FIRST weeks.03:57 03. If you treat him like a toddler, he WILL act like one.05:29 04. If you want a man to pursue you, STOP performing.07:37 05. Men respond to your ENERGY, not your anxiety.09:03 06. Red flags don’t fade - they grow.10:46 07. You were NEVER “too much.” His capacity was too little.12:42 08. A man’s effort is the ONLY real truth - not his words.14:33 9. Love isn’t always “I love you” 50 times a day.17:30 10. If a man is confused about you, he is NOT your person.19:57 Summary     💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop     💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     💬 Work 1:1 with Me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

  If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call.    I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.   You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU. Not by playing games… but by becoming SECURE, magnetic, grounded, and done with the old patterns that kept you stuck. 📓🖤   Inside this episode you’ll get: ★ why chasing makes him pull away★ why scarcity makes you crave him★ why your brain confuses rejection with danger★ why you ignore the guy who actually likes you★ why obsession kicks in when your body feels abandonment coming★ and how to detach in a way that makes you feel confident, not cold ✨ By the end, you’ll know exactly how to stop overgiving, stop spiraling, stop proving yourself… and finally let HIM step up.   CHAPTER 00:00 Introduction to Transformative Truths01:52 1. Whatever is being CHASED… RUNS03:15 2. The more UNAVAILABLE he is… the more your brain craves him04:59 3. Rejection hits the brain like actual PAIN ⛈️05:59 4. When 19 adore you and 1 ignores you… your brain locks onto the ONE08:07 5. When you chase, he relaxes. When you relax, he CHASES15:15 6. Obsession kicks in when your body thinks you’re about to be ABANDONED20:42 7. If he can PREDICT you… he stops pursuing22:46 8. Your fantasy version of him does 95% of the chasing25:01 Your Homework - 3 easy practical steps to STOP obsessing over HIM     💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

💎 (ON SALE)Courses ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     Do you often feel overly sensitive, anxious, or like you’re too much in your relationships? Do your emotions feel intense, your thoughts replay endlessly, or your need for connection feel overwhelming? You’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with how deeply you feel. In this episode, we explore emotional sensitivity, anxious attachment, overthinking, and the power of fully embracing your feelings.   Grab a warm drink and save this episode for the times you feel like nothing is going right.   You’ll hear why: Being too sensitive can actually be your superpower Overthinking is just your brain processing deeply, not a flaw Needing connection and setting boundaries shows strength Your past experiences aren’t mistakes—they’re lessons that shaped your growth Maybe, just maybe… you’re not the problem. Sometimes, others just can’t handle your energy and that’s okay.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 What if… you’re not actually “too much”?04:02 What if you were never the one who needed “fixing”… and no one told you?   💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   ⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!)  ➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz (Know your type so you do the right work)

જ⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!)  ➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz (Know your type so you do the right work)   10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship)  If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★ These are the sneaky little habits that wire your nervous system into ALERT MODE before you even speak to him.And no  it’s not always your partner. Sometimes it’s your life, your routines, your tiny micro-stressors… and they make your anxious attachment feel LOUDER.    Think:waking up + grabbing your phone…scrolling emails before coffee…seeing a cute couple video that makes your chest tighten…or drinking coffee on an empty stomach that tricks your brain into panic mode. Your nervous system remembers old patterns.It fires BEFORE your mind even notices what’s going on.And suddenly his “I’ll call you later” feels like danger. ⛈️ Inside this episode, I walk you through 13 micro-habits that unknowingly spike your relationship anxiety and keep you stuck in anxious patterns even when your relationship is actually fine. And yes… I give you TINY homework at the end so you can actually create change and start becoming your secure, calm, grounded self NOW… not “one day.” 🖤✨ ★   Homework inside the episode:pick 3 habits → track your body → switch 1 thing → watch your anxiety soften.Tiny shifts = BIG emotional regulation. 📓✨       💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Relationship Anxiety02:23 Habit 0103:20 Habit 0204:29 Habit 0305:03 Habit 0405:55 Habit 0506:44 Habit 0609:49 Habit 0710:52 Habit 0812:11 Habit 0913:43 Habit 1015:07 Habit 11 *bonus16:37 Habit 12 *bonus17:16 Your HOMEWORK *to create REAL change and regulate       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

💛 Free Stuff Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET To Stop Running On Autopilot   💎 Courses ON SALE:  ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE:  ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse     This episode blends my three most downloaded lessons on how to detach  from someone you love, from your ex, from the person whose approval you keep chasing, and from the outcomes that keep you anxious. Inside this replay you’ll get a mix of:➞ how to detach from someone you love or loved➞ how to stop chasing validation + approval➞ how to detach from outcomes so your nervous system can breathe again If you’re stuck in that exhausting loop of: checking your phone waiting for a text replaying conversations craving reassurance attaching to their approval or feeling like your day depends on how someone else responds… …this episode will feel like a warm, honest reset.   Here’s what we go into together:✶ why your brain stays attached even when YOU want to move on✶ the belief that creates the most emotional pain✶ 10 micro habits that make detachment feel doable, realistic, and natural✶ how to communicate without spiraling or over-attaching✶ why your anxiety has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your attachment system✶ how to stop making everything personal✶ how to choose your own approval first✶ simple tools like the energy bubble, the validation vault, and the 30-second self check-in✶ what real inner detachment looks like (without going cold or pretending you don’t care)   And I remind you of the truth:This isn’t about their reply speed, their energy, or their “mood.”This is about your anxious brain, your wiring, and your patterns  which YOU can change. If you want deeper support detaching from the obsessive thoughts, the texting anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance, both courses mentioned in this episode are still available in beta at a reduced price. You’ll get email support from me during the beta round too.     💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     CHAPTERS: 00:47 4 Steps to Detach emotionally from outcomes and people you love the most 35:07 How to detach from validation and others approval 1:09:15 How to detach from your EX (and people you loved)   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄 In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode and exactly how to flip the script 💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can feel powerful, magnetic, and fully YOU 🌙   🌟 What you’ll discover in this episode: Why your partner is just a chapter, not the whole book ✨ How to make tiny everyday actions feel cinematic and magical 13 practical rules to channel Main Character Energy immediately 💎 How to shift from anxious attachment to a secure, confident vibe Real-life examples and micro-moments to claim your power today   Think of your life like a movie 🎬 You’re the lead. You decide the plot. You control the energy. Not your partner. Not your past. Not anyone else 🦄 If you’re ready to stop reacting, stop shrinking, and show up fully as the main character of your life, this episode is your blueprint 🌙✨   💛 Free Stuff 🧠 Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz(Know your type so you do the right work) ➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🌙 Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   💬 Work 1:1 with Me 💎 Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy 📱 WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Main Character Energy01:35 Benefits of not being the side Character in your Story for your Anxious Attachment03:16 Myth: "Main Character only works for Influencer or if you have time""06:36 Questions to Channel your MAIN CHARACTER energy07:01 Secure Attachment And Main Character Energy08:12 13 Practical Steps to Main Character Energy08:36 Rule 01: Your partner is a chapter, not the entire book09:10 Rule 02. Choose one signature thing.09:50 Rule 03. Turn a boring household task into a movie scene.10:53 Rule 04. Your inner voice is the “voiceover” of your movie11:39 Rule 05. You are both actor and writer of your life12:44 Rule 06. Give yourself a soundtrack14:31 Rule 07. Romanticize the missing15:56 Rule 08. Link your mood to a character instead of a flaw.16:46 Rule 09. Add one cozy upgrade.18:27 Rule 10. Walk like someone is watching your19:08 Rule 11. Ask: “What would people on the couch SCREAM at you?"20:26 Rule 12. Pause before reacting - see it like a chapter.21:11 Key takeaways to remember         DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

💛 Free Stuff Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz(Know your type so you do the right work) ➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz Free Attachment Library(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc) ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   💎 Courses ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety, NOT how they communicate with you) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.) ➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   💬 Work 1:1 with Me Personal Coaching(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy) ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone) ➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   Feeling anxious, overlooked, or way too focused on your partner this Christmas? 🎄This episode shows you why putting yourself FIRST is the thing that actually brings your partner closer… not further away. If you’ve been carrying the whole holiday on your shoulders…If you’re replaying his texts…If you’re trying to “make Christmas perfect” so he doesn’t pull away…this is the episode you’ve been needing.  You’ll hear the truth about what happens when you stop centering him…and start centering YOU.   You’ll learn:🎁 why your nervous system is so triggered during the holidays☕️ why your anxious brain wants him to fix everything🎄 how de-centering him stops the chasing cycle🕯 how boundaries actually create connection🧣 how micro-traditions make you feel grounded again💛 why focusing on your own joy makes you more magnetic, not “selfish”   This is for you if you’re tired of:✨ waiting for him to make plans✨ walking on eggshells around his mood✨ feeling like Christmas depends on how much he shows up✨ shrinking yourself so you don’t “ruin the vibe” Inside this episode, you’ll get the deeper WHY behind all of it...the attachment science, the anxious-avoidant patterns, the nervous-system pieceall explained in simple, calm, friend-to-friend language. ✨🧣 You’ll hear the exact steps to:✨ regulate YOUR body first✨ create micro-joy without waiting for him✨ set boundaries without guilt✨ build traditions that center you✨ stop chasing, over-functioning, and people-pleasing   And yes… we talk about the magic part:how de-centering him is what actually makes him come closer.Not because you’re playing a game…but because you’re finally full, calm, grounded, and in your own power. ✨🎄 If you want a lighter Christmas…a calmer body…a deeper connection without pressure…and a relationship that feels less like survival mode…this episode is your reset. Let it play while you wrap gifts, take a walk in the cold air ❄️, light a candle, drink your warm coffee ☕️and feel the pressure melt off your body little by little. And if this hits home and you want help healing your anxious attachment…my 1:1 coaching and entry-level offers are open.You don’t have to spend another Christmas feeling like you’re “not enough.”    CHAPTERS: 00:00 Putting Yourself First This Christmas01:06 1. You can create magic without him04:15 2. Boundaries are love12:14 3. Regulate your nervous system first13:36 4. Micro-traditions that center YOU17:52 5. Decentering him actually brings you closer19:19 Closing pep note     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought a

…and the last one will shock you 7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman   How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️‍🩹📱 https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine. I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again - now that I’m securely attached and no longer chasing crumbs 💋ྀིྀི Inside this episode, you’ll learn:   ★ Why dating multiple people at once keeps you in CHOICE instead of obsession★ How dating slow protects you from falling for “potential”★ The reason secure women show up authentic fast, instead of performing★ Why I wait for emotional safety before ANY intimacy★ How to actually date head over heart (and stop confusing chaos for chemistry)★ What detached energy looks like when you’re not in scarcity anymore★ Why keeping your life the main event makes you more attractive instantly★ And the extra rule that would SHOCK old me:I don’t initiate or follow up after early dates - ever   If you want to attract a secure, emotionally available partner…If you’re tired of overthinking texts, panicking after dates, or getting attached to someone you barely know…If you want to date from your POWER and not your fear…This episode is your roadmap  I’m sharing real stories, client examples, and the exact shifts that turn anxious dating into secure dating.This isn’t fluffy advice.These are the rules that create healthy, grounded, actual connection — not fantasy bonds.   🌷✨ Listen now if you want to stop chasing chemistry and start choosing compatibility.   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy     Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz       🖤 💆🏻‍♀️ How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     ▶️ Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Secure Dating Tips00:34 7 Secure dating Tips (from an EX Anxious Attachment Girly)00:44 Dating tip #0103:57 Dating Tip #0206:44 Dating Tip #0308:40 Dating Tip #0409:55 Dating Tip #0511:41 Dating Tips #0613:41 Dating Tip #0717:23 Bonus Dating Tip #0822:06 Remember THIS     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.   ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)   This episode might break your heart a little… but YOU need this little wake up call (because I would have THANKED anyone at least later realising this...) Because today I’m finally saying the part no one talks about.The part I wish someone told ME 10 years ago 🤎🔙 The REAL cost of anxious attachment 💔Not the cute Instagram version.The actual impact.On your body.On your relationships.On your future.On the YEARS you can’t get back.     I’m sharing the stories my clients whisper to me.The things they regret.The “I wish I knew this earlier” moments that always hit the deepest.And the hard truth I learned myself…after becoming securely attached. Because anxious attachment isn’t just overthinking texts.It’s the rushing.The chest tightness.The stomach pain.The walking fast.The losing yourself in fear.The love you push away without realizing it. I’ll walk you through: the relationships people lose the friendships they break the years they spend chasing crumbs the life paths they delay the health issues no one connects to anxiety the moments you can’t re-do   And then…we go into the HOPE.Because it’s not too late.Not at 25.Not at 35.Not at 55.Not even at 80.✨ You can STILL become secure.You can STILL feel calm.You can STILL create a life that feels like peace instead of panic.You can STILL rewrite your story.🖤✨ If you’ve ever thought:“I wasted so much time…”“I ruined the best relationship I ever had…”“I don’t trust myself anymore…”“I don’t want to spend the next 10 years like this…”Then this episode is for you.🤎✨ This is your wake-up moment.Your turning point.Your reminder that you deserve a life that feels soft, grounded, and safe. Listen now.Your future self is begging you to.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 The Journey to Secure Attachment01:10 The COST of anxious attachment you DON'T realise..07:43 The everyday impact of Anxious Attachment10:43 REAL life consequences that tear me up every time14:46 What anxious attachment STEALS forever from you15:35 What it takes to become secure18:03 So is it too late be become securely attached?   FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.   ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   Ever feel like the SECOND your partner pulls away… your whole nervous system goes into full panic mode? 🖤✨Like one canceled plan… one quiet day… one shift in tone… suddenly feels like the whole relationship is falling apart? I made this episode for you. Inside, I walk you through EXACT real-life moments my clients faced — the moments that used to send them into overthinking, people-pleasing, chasing, and feeling “not enough.” And then I show you how the secure version of you would handle those exact same moments.Simple. Calm. Clear. No drama. No chasing. Just grounded self-trust. You’ll hear: ★ What an anxious person does when someone cancels plans last minute★ What a secure person does instead — even if it stings★ How closeness freaks out your nervous system (not them)★ Why avoidants pull away after intimacy★ How to stop taking every shift personally★ How secure people communicate… without fear★ The small, everyday habits that turn anxious attachment into earned secure attachment   This isn’t a lecture.It’s literally the blueprint to becoming the secure version of you... the version who doesn’t panic, doesn’t chase, doesn’t assume the worst… and doesn’t lose herself just because someone else needs space. We’ll dive into: ➞ The FACTS vs. the stories your anxious brain makes up➞ Why your body reacts like danger is coming (even when it’s not)➞ How to soothe the panic BEFORE you text➞ How to respond like someone who trusts themselves➞ How to stop abandoning yourself when someone pulls back And I’ll walk you through my 4R Method... the exact steps that helped me go from anxious and terrified of being left… to fully grounded and secure in myself and my relationship. If you’re tired of feeling on edge, tired of overthinking the smallest things, tired of feeling like your partner’s mood controls your whole day… This episode will feel like a deep breath.Like someone holding your hand and saying, “Hey… you’re not crazy. You’re just scared. And here’s how we fix it.” 🖤✨ Listen in and tell me which “anxious vs. secure” moment hit home for you.     FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   CHAPTERS: 00:00 What does a Secure person do when an Avoidant Pulls away02:52 ✶ SCENARIO 1: They cancel plans last minute09:24 ✶ SCENARIO 2: They go quiet after an intimate weekend15:44 ✶ SCENARIO 3: They’re distant during a hard week19:05 ✶ SCENARIO 4: The Long-Term Pull-Away Avoidant26:00 What’s REALLY Going On?29:43 What To Do Instead     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.    

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist Feeling anxious in your relationship? Always worried about texts, attention, or being enough? You’re not alone. 😬 In this episode, I share 5 skills my clients used to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment style, feeling calm, confident, and safe in themselves and their relationships. ✨   Here’s a sneak peek:➞ How noticing your feelings and taking action helped them stop overthinking➞ Why letting yourself feel scared or frustrated actually made them stronger➞ How making themselves happy first shifted their power and confidence➞ Why taking space without panicking made their connection closer➞ How small, consistent daily actions helped them feel unshakable These aren’t “just breathe” tips—they’re simple, real skills that helped my clients go from anxious to securely attached faster than they ever thought possible   If you want to finally stop the worry, feel safe, and build earned secure attachment in your relationship… this episode is for you. 🖤🧠   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   CHAPTER: 00:00 5 SKILLS to become securely attached00:44 01 Self-Awareness like a BOSS (not hyper-vigilance)10:08 02 They Stopped Fighting Their Feelings21:19 03 Fulfilling Their Own Needs FIRST28:18 04 Taking Space Without Overthinking37:36 05 Consistency Over Perfection42:58 BONUS Skill   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨ In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still keep their distance? You’ll get insights into the hidden fears and early experiences that shape how avoidants handle intimacy, emotions, and closeness.. and how you can respond in ways that stop the cycle of frustration and overthinking. 💎 By the end, you’ll start noticing patterns you never saw before, feel less like you’re doing something “wrong,” and understand how your reactions can either calm or trigger their core fears.   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding the Avoidant Attachments Style: Core wounds02:47 Core wound 01: I am trapped06:41 Core Wound 02: I am Bad (Defective)11:29 Core wound 03: I am losing control15:40 Quick Summary16:32 Homework for the Anxious Attachment Partner: ✨📝     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   #avoidantattachment #anxiousavoidantrelationship #emotionalsafety

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨ This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment? Why do you overgive, over-apologize, or shrink yourself just to feel secure? We’ll explore the hidden patterns and past experiences that secretly shape how you respond to love today... and what shifts can help you finally feel safe, worthy, and capable without depending on your partner for validation. 💎 You’ll walk away understanding your triggers, seeing how your past keeps replaying itself, and learning the first steps to stop overthinking and start feeling secure in love.     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Core Beliefs03:55 Core Wound 1: I Am Not Safe12:54 Core Wound 2: I Am Not Worthy of Love20:25 Core Wound 3: I Am Not Capable25:11 How else the wounds can show up (personal story)26:28 Homework to start rewiring your wounds   #anxiousattachment #limitingbelief #emotionaltriggers   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens.Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠 🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something inside you. I’m sharing 5 unexpected lessons my avoidant partner taught me that actually helped me feel safer, calmer, more confident, and more SECURE in love. And yes... this episode is about the good parts of avoidants.Because avoidants are not the villains here.They are humans with a completely different survival strategy. This isn’t an “avoidants are toxic” conversation.It’s the episode that shows you the side no one talks about: The parts of avoidants that make love gentle, grounding, freeing, magical…The parts that can grow you in ways you never expected.The parts your anxious brain might not see yet because fear is so loud. If you’ve found yourself late-night googling things like: “Why does my avoidant partner pull away after getting close?” “How do avoidants show love if they don’t express it like I do?” “Why do avoidants disappear then come back?”   This episode will give you answers but also a new perspective that feels like exhaling. We’ll talk about how avoidants love differently, why space is not rejection, how to stop taking distance personally, and how understanding them can actually calm your nervous system instead of trigger it. By the end, you’ll walk away with: 🤍 a softer view of avoidants🤍 more empathy (for them and for you)🤍 5 mindset shifts that bring REAL peace to your relationship Not by abandoning yourself.Not by shrinking.But by seeing the relationship dynamic with truth instead of fear. This episode gives you the perspective that finally lets the anxious-avoidant dynamic feel less like war and more like two humans trying to feel safe in very different ways. If you’re tired of demonizing avoidants or battling them… and you’re ready to understand the GOOD they bring too… this one is going to land deeply. Stay until the end.. I’ll give you simple steps to feel more secure today, without chasing or overthinking. Ready to see avoidants with new eyes?Let’s shift the narrative.. and maybe your heart too 🤍🧠✨   🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Why Your Avoidant Partner might be an inspiration03:00 01 – Stop taking it personally 🖤07:57 02 – Being selfish isn’t selfish13:01 03 – Lightness, fun, and adventure ✨18:53 04 – STOP trusting others so fast ★24:41 05 – "Cutify" your fears 📓30:04 Mini Summary30:52 Your Homework   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by acti

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz   I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤 Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there. What changed, what worked, and what no one tells you about leaving anxious patterns behind. I decided to share my answers with you.. everything I revealed about my journey from anxious to secure. The things I did daily, the mindset shifts, and the practices that rewired my nervous system so I could stop spiraling over texts, stop over-giving, and finally feel safe in love. If you’ve ever wondered why you attract avoidants, why your anxious brain can’t stop catastrophizing, or how it actually feels to go from panicking in love to calm, grounded, and confident, this episode is your insider look. Think of it as me giving you my secret roadmap, the exact insights I shared with a survey of people who’ve done the work and truly become secure.     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp) https://tr.ee/PInPmy   Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer) https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30   Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist   Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs  (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs     CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles01:04 What is Attachment Theory and Why does it matter?06:25 Going deeper into the ANXIOUS attachment style...10:09 10 Question about Healing my Anxious Attachment10:38 1: What changed when you became more secure?12:30 2: Does it feel different to be attracted to someone now?14:40 3: What were the key turning points or breakthroughs in your transition?19:47 4: What was the biggest barrier or challenge you had to overcome?23:01 5: What specific actions or strategies did you take to shift from insecure to secure?25:31 6: Which strategies were most effective?26:08 7: How did your relationships change?29:38 8: What mindset or belief shifts happened during your transformation?30:23 9: How did you cultivate self-regulation and self-soothing?32:43 10: How do you maintain secure attachment daily now?34:53 Bonus Question (busting the biggest MYTHS)   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

Welcome back to back 02: Do you ever check your phone twice just to make sure they didn’t ignore your last text?Over-plan a date, then feel stressed when it doesn’t go perfectly?Rehearse what to say next instead of actually being in the moment? There’s nothing wrong with you. 🖤Your nervous system has just learned to protect you — and right now, it’s overworking. In this episode, I share tiny daily habits that help you step out of survival mode and feel safe in love again.No overthinking. No chasing. No controlling outcomes. Just calm, soft, grounded energy that feels secure. You’ll learn:✨ Why anxious attachment is actually wounded masculine energy (and how to shift back into your feminine flow)✨ Tiny nervous system habits that calm your anxiety in real time✨ How to detach from outcomes, timelines, and “I need to be married by X” pressure✨ How to create micro-moments of feminine joy that rewire your brain for safety and trust Because anxious attachment is about control — and you can’t feel safe while you’re controlling.Safety comes from detaching, softening, and trusting. By the end, you’ll understand the nervous system “why” behind your anxious patterns — and have practical ways to regulate your body, not just your thoughts. 🌻   Inside this episode, I also share my 4R Method — the exact process I used to go from anxious to secure.It’s simple, real, and it works. You’ll walk away knowing how to:— Feel and release anxiety safely— Rewire limiting beliefs like “I’m too much” or “People always leave”— Meet your needs without over-giving— Build calm, secure connection that lasts ✶ New episodes every Tuesday + ThursdaySubscribe so you don’t miss the next one 🖤 If you loved this episode, screenshot it, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which habit you’re trying first!     🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   🖤  ON SALE: TEXT ANXIETY COURSE How to STOP needing so much reassurance via TEXT (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Healing Anxious Attachment with feminine micro habits01:29 Understanding Energies: Masculine vs. Feminine03:50 Micro Habit 1: Practice Receiving06:20 Micro Habit 2: Embrace Imperfection09:15 Micro Habit 3: Slow Down Mentally14:17 Micro Habit 4: Detach from Outcomes and Timelines18:13 Micro Habit 5: Create Feminine Joy Moments22:33 Micro Habit 6: Create White Space26:45 the KEY message28:33 why Healing Anxious Attachment MATTERS31:47 My 4R Method to go from Anxious to Secure35:22 Consequences of Unhealed Attachment Styles     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much “inner work” you do… your anxiety still runs the show.. this episode is going to change how you see healing 🖤 In this episode, I share 6 tiny feminine micro habits that helped me rewire my anxious brain and finally feel SAFE in love.No huge routines. No big life changes.Just small, daily shifts in how you do things, not what you do.     Because anxious attachment is actually stuck masculine energy  always controlling, chasing, fixing.Safety doesn’t come from control.It comes from letting go.From softening, trusting, and allowing life to move through you.  You’ll learn how to:✨ Slow your body + mind so your nervous system feels safe again✨ Stop over-managing others and finally breathe in your relationships✨ Use your voice + movement to regulate your anxiety✨ Shift from “doing” to “being” — the feminine way   One tiny habit at a time, you’ll begin to feel more secure, calm, and connected...both with yourself and your partner.   Time Stamps:00:00 Intro: Why changing how you do things changes everything01:43 Micro Habit 1 — Slow Down Physically04:06 Micro Habit 2 — Release Control of Others05:58 Micro Habit 3 — The “What If Positive” Hack08:32 Micro Habit 4 — Use Your Voice in New Ways10:36 Micro Habit 5 — Shift Your Physical Activities14:24 Micro Habit 6 — Slow Down Mentally17:43 Closing Thoughts19:29 Why Becoming Secure Really Matters   🎧 Next up: Part 02 dives into the emotional side of feminine energy.. letting go of perfectionism, embracing vulnerability, and fully receiving love. ✶ New episodes every Tuesday + ThursdaySubscribe so you don’t miss the next one! If you loved this episode, take a screenshot, tag me on Instagram, and tell me which micro habit you’re trying first 🖤       🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz     Listen back to EPISODE 46: "How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)" Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41       DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.