Are you looking for some guidance? Do you want to thrive in your 20s? In this week’s episode, Lavanya shares her list of things you wish you knew in your 20s! Lavanya turning 30 recently reflects on the lessons, tough truths, and personal growth that shaped her during her 20s.
From learning the power of saying “no” to cultivating financial independence and recognizing the value of self-love, Lavanya shares invaluable insights to help you navigate this transformative decade.
Whether you're dealing with uncertainty, seeking better relationships, or aiming to build confidence, this episode will empower you to thrive. Tune in, take what resonates, and start living your best life!
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Chapters
0:00 Introduction
1:32 1. "No" is a full sentence
2:10 2. Stop being friends with Negative People
3:03 3. Financial Independence
4:01 4. Money Empowers You
4:38 5. Time Doesn’t Heal Everything
5:22 6. You Won’t Find Someone by Not Looking
6:07 7. Wait 30 secs Before Reacting
6:41 8. Don’t Work for “Free”
7:32 9. Let Go of Things You Can’t Control
8:03 10. Not Everyone Has Your Best Interest
8:29 11. Keep It Private Until It's Official
9:03 12. Avoid Long-Distance Relationships
9:38 13. Stop Waiting for the Right Time
10:15 14. Only Compare Yourself to Yourself
10:53 15. No One Is Thinking About You
11:43 16. Enjoy Being Young & Hot
12:15 17. Over-Communicate
12:45 18. Stop Being Nice to Everyone
13:19 19. Spend on Experiences, Not Things
13:59 20. No One Will Love You as Much as Yourself
Were you ever told to be a “good girl” by your family? To please others, avoid mistakes, and keep the peace? In this episode of Through the Looking Glass Podcast, Lavanya dives deep into the "good girl" syndrome, a mindset that many women, especially in South Asian communities, have internalized from a young age.
She discusses the impact of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and sacrifice culture, and offers practical steps to shift away from these internalized habits. But how do you break free from this cycle? Lavanya shares 5 actionable steps to shift your mindset to take your power back! Don’t miss this episode to learn how to prioritize your well-being, set boundaries, and embrace personal empowerment.
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Chapters: 00:00 Introduction
01:12 What is "Good Girl" Syndrome?
02:34 Why you need to stop being a Good Girl
04:50 Mindset shift 1: Be Inconvenient
06:50 Mindset shift 2: Setting Boundaries
09:01 Mindset shift 3: What Do I Need Right Now?
10:32 Mindset shift 4: Stop Saying Sorry
11:58 Mindset shift 5: Sit in the Discomfort
Are you considering starting your own company? And you feel like an imposter? Highly recommend tuning into this episode of Through the Looking Glass, with Dhaval Patel. He is the CEO and founder of Lotus Labs, dedicated to empowering individuals with limited mobility. Dhaval shares his personal disability story that sparked the creation of the Lotus ring and how he went from an Apple engineer to an entrepreneur. We spoke about the challenges, triumphs, and all of the self-doubt in between. Are there philosophical motivations behind taking the entrepreneurial leap? We took a real look at the reality of entrepreneurship – passion, resilience and mindset. Gain insights into Dhaval’s perspective as a South Asian tech founder and how he counteracts imposter feelings. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or navigating the corporate world as a minority, this episode provides inspiration and actionable lessons! Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast Get to know Dhaval: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dhaval-c-patel/ Learn about Lotus Ring: https://getlotus.com/
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
03:10 How did you get started with your company?
05:55 Is finding purpose in work important?
10:38 How to choose co-founders/partners
20:05 How did you overcome a challenge in entrepreneurship?
27:30 How was your experience as a minority entrepreneur?
37:00 Uncharted career path as a South Asian
42:27 How to shift out of imposter syndrome
47:42 Dhaval’s advice for aspiring entrepreneurs
Have you ever considered moving to a new country? This week’s episode on "Through the Looking Glass," Lavanya goes down memory lane about Marcos’ journey spanning continents. Marcos Salido, originally from Spain, moved to America at the age of 16, to immerse himself in new cultures! He shares his experiences navigating through the educational systems of both Spain and the US, from Anchorage, Alaska, to Southern California! Marcos recounts the challenges and triumphs of finding his place in a foreign land. Their conversation delves into the intricacies of cultural adaptation, the pursuit of education abroad, and the evolving definition of home. Marcos reflects on the support of his family, the warmth of his communities, and the opportunities that led him to pursue an MBA. They discuss our career aspirations, and the diverse paths MBA experience opens. They explore the intersections of identity, ambition, and anxiety. Their dialogue offers a poignant reflection on the effect of anxiety and the fear of unknowns as a 20 something year old. Both stress the importance of living in the moment, cherishing friendships across borders, and navigating the transition into adulthood. Tune in for a cozy chat this week! From reminiscing about childhood best friends to pondering the excitement of impending graduations, this podcast episode offers a heartfelt exploration of personal journeys. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:14 Study Abroad in High School
04:58 Education in Spain vs. USA
06:48 Finding community as a Foreigner
09:28 Lifestyle & Career in Spain vs. USA
13:38 Career growth & MBA
17:00 Dealing with Anxiety as an Over-achiever
22:02 Growing Friendships over time
25:14 Childhood Friends
26:28 Relationship with Siblings
28:44 Next chapter & Advice
In this week's episode, the tables have turned! I am in the interviewee's chair and got the opportunity to delve in my story of how I got started with podcasting. I sat down with Kathy Mou, a fellow podcaster and host of Ignite your Power Podcast. We spoke about my childhood and career particularly as a South Asian woman and immigrant in the US. Throughout the episode, we discuss the challenges and experiences that shaped my journey so far and finding my purpose in life. We talked about what empowerment means to us, how to live authentically, and self-love. One of the toughest challenges is how to navigate societal expectations and we share our perspective and lessons learned. Tune in to the full episode for a fun, thoughtful and collaborative episode. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Get to know Kathy: Ignite Your Power: The Kathy Mou Podcast on Apple Podcasts
If you don’t love and accept yourself – how can you expect other people to? This episode is for you if you are struggling with self-love and acceptance. Welcome back to "Through the Looking Glass"! In this episode, Lavanya delves into the intricacies of self-love, offering insightful strategies to help you embrace your worth and empower yourself on your journey towards personal fulfillment. Lavanya breaks down self-love into 5 simple steps! Lavanya begins by emphasizing the importance of positive self-talk, challenging listeners to confront and transform their internal narratives. Acceptance is a significant step in the journey of self-love, learn how to release self-judgment and the connection between self-acceptance and gratitude. Next, Lavanya delves into the concept of forgiveness as a powerful tool for self-love. In the fourth step, Lavanya discusses the importance of defining personal values and setting life goals aligned with one's authentic self. She shares reflection questions and practical strategies to help listeners gain clarity and direction in their lives. Finally, Lavanya elaborates on the significance of choosing oneself and setting boundaries as the ultimate act of self-love. Whether you're seeking inspiration or practical strategies, this episode is sure to leave you feeling motivated and empowered on your journey of self-discovery. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:58 Positive speech
05:40 Acceptance
09:19 Forgiveness
13:25 Strong values and life goals
17:03 Chose yourself (Boundaries)
19:33 Conclusion
In this week’ episode, delve into the realms of self-discovery, purpose, and raising your vibrational energy with Kathy Mou. Kathy shares her personal journey of overcoming depression and finding her life purpose. She is an empowerment coach and host of “Ignite your Power” podcast. Lavanya and Kathy discuss the power of gratitude, self-love, and the importance of embracing life's challenges. Discover actionable steps, from journaling to affirmations, that can kickstart your own transformation. Learn about Kathy’s theory called soft bliss life -- a way of living your highest potential! Explore the importance of seeking help and trusting your intuition when feeling stuck. The conversation unfolds into insights about the simplicity of raising your vibration and embracing a purpose-driven life. They discuss the essential elements of happiness, self-love, and surrounding oneself with positive energy. Kathy introduces a spiritual perspective, emphasizing that everything is energy, and shares how connecting with one's soul can lead to a higher vibrational existence. Join Lavanya and Kathy in this empowering episode that combines personal stories, practical advice, and spiritual insights to guide you on your self-discovery journey. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Get to know Kathy: Ignite Your Power: The Kathy Mou Podcast on Apple Podcasts
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:58 Journey of Podcasting
07:45 What is Bliss Soft Life?
13:09 How to live in the moment.
15:50 How to raise your vibration.
19:00 Tips to cultivate Self-Love.
21:00 Finding your unique path in life.
30:12 How to get into a positive mindset
34:40 Getting over being stuck
36:50 How to find your life purpose
45:07 How to tap into your higher self
Do you need advice on friendship drama? Join Lavanya, your host, in this cozy bonus episode where I answer the internet’s friendship questions. Lavanay provides valuable insights on handling friendship challenges, dealing with one-sided relationships, and making new connections as an adult. From learning to set boundaries to the importance of trusting your instincts, Lavanya shares personal experiences and advice to guide you through the ups and downs of friendships. So, grab a drink, sit back, and enjoy this cozy chat filled with wisdom and relatable stories. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 00:40 Handling Friendship Mistakes 03:38 Friend Breakups 08:00 Making New Friends as an Adult 12:22 Large vs. Small Friendship Circles 14:50 Learning from Friends 17:28 Navigating Toxic Friendships 20:31 Advice to Younger Self
(Solo episode) Are you struggling to find your confidence? In today's episode, we're exploring the essential steps to be your confident self in 8 simple steps! I'm Lavanya, your host, and I'm thrilled to kick off the year with a positive self-improvement episode. Season 2 of "Through the Looking Glass"! will dive into the unique struggles that ambitious South Asians, particularly millennials, face every day. My goal is to empower you, even in the smallest way, to improve your well-being. I will explain how these 8 key elements will guide you on your confidence journey: (1) conquer emotional regulation (2) shift into a positive mindset (3) practice positive self-talk (4) distance yourself from negative people and (5) jealous behavior (6) perfect your self-care routine (7) set healthy boundaries and (8) tap into your authentic energy! Whether you're starting your self-improvement journey or continuing it, remember that the pursuit of bettering yourself is admirable. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:06 How to Emotionally Regulate 02:47 Shift into a Positive Mindset 04:40 Practice Positive Self-talk 06:01 How to deal with Negative people 08:12 How to deal with Jealously 11:26 Physical Appearance 13:30 How to set Boundaries 15:29 Be your Authentic Self Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
(Solo Episode) In this week’s insightful episode, your host, Lavanya Uthaman, takes you on a journey of reflection and gratitude as she delves into the unique struggles faced by ambitious South Asians, especially millennials. Lavanya shares three significant milestones from 2023, expressing gratitude for personal and professional growth. Discover the top five lessons Lavanya learned throughout the year, ranging from the power of asking questions to the transformative concept of 1% improvements. Explore the profound impact of trusting one's gut and the liberating strength found in saying "No." Tune in to uncover Lavanya's personal discoveries, including a re-evaluation of her 9-to-5 corporate life and a powerful shift towards letting go of anger. As she wraps up the episode, Lavanya unveils her chosen "Word of the Year" for 2024! Don't forget to follow or subscribe if you've enjoyed the podcast, and take a moment to reflect, reset, and embrace the holiday season. See you in 2024 for the second season of "Through the Looking Glass." Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
(Video Episode) Are you an ambitious female professional aspiring to be a BOSS? You need to meet Joanna Pinkerton, the CEO of the Central Ohio Transit Authority (COTA). Joanna shares her remarkable journey from an engineering background to becoming CEO. In our candid conversation, she reflects on her first job in a medical office, shedding light on the early experiences that shaped her perspective on systems and problem-solving. Our discussion delves into the challenges of negotiating salary and the importance of advocating for oneself, especially in addressing gender and race pay gaps. Joanna shares personal experiences and insights on determining one's worth during salary negotiations, emphasizing the significance of allyship and transparent conversations. Our conversation touches on the intersection of technology, leadership, and emotional intelligence, highlighting the role of curiosity and a commitment to lifelong learning in building successful careers. Joanna provides valuable advice on when it might be the right time to leave a job and navigating the challenges of public speaking as a woman in a male-dominated field. Our discussion concludes with a focus on empathetic leadership and the human aspect of engineering challenges, reminding us that every problem is, at its core, a human engineering problem. Get ready for a thought-provoking discussion on authenticity, mentorship, and the evolving landscape of technology in the digital age. Get to know me better on Instagram: Lavanya | Podcast Host (@lavanyauthaman) | Instagram profile TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ttlg_podcast
Connect with Joanna: (5) Joanna M. Pinkerton, PE | LinkedIn