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Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Nurjan Sterbenz I Trauma-Informed Coach for Immigrant Moms and Speaker

28 episodes

1 month ago

On this episode, I talk about: - Signs of victim mentality - the root cause of victim mentality - difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality - why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits - examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage - how we may fall into trauma victim mentality - patriarchy, women and victimhood - tools to get out of victim mentality I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the to...

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On this episode, I talk about: - Signs of victim mentality - the root cause of victim mentality - difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality - why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits - examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage - how we may fall into trauma victim mentality - patriarchy, women and victimhood - tools to get out of victim mentality I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the to...

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Episodes (20/28)

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Victim mentality and trauma

On this episode, I talk about: - Signs of victim mentality - the root cause of victim mentality - difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality - why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits - examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage - how we may fall into trauma victim mentality - patriarchy, women and victimhood - tools to get out of victim mentality I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the to...

2 years ago

29 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Sharing our stories with Aisulu Masylkanova

This is our first story feature with a foreign-born mama! Aisulu and I talked about motherhood in the US, how we want to be a different parent, challenges of mothering in the US and how we are navigating past and present. Aisulu brought up our usual behaviors and thinking through her story and how it can keep us stuck or feel powerless. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily in...

2 years ago

51 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Self-care for immigrant mama with Erin Hearts

I was invited to be a guest on a podcast "Self-care for Childhood Trauma Survivors" with Erin Hearts. We talked about: - How trauma affects us as moms and how it is different for immigrant moms - We shared self-care tools and how it is important for keeping us regulated and manage our reactions Please enjoy this interview and let us know if anything resonated. Erin Hearts podcast, Self Care for Trauma Survivors, please listen in: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-s...

2 years ago

48 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Beauty Standards and Trauma

On this episode, I talk about: - Invisible standards we have on physical beauty and what makes us attractive and desire-able - cultural and societal conditioning of women and standards - how these standards have traumatized and still traumatizing women - how these standards makes us create internal belief that we are "not pretty enough" or "good enough", or "loveable enough" - how we changes our true nature to fit in to these standards and loose our sense of authenticity and who we are - how...

2 years ago

26 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Can trauma hold us back from thriving?

On this episode, I share about: - story of how Oprah Winfrey opened a new school and how girls were not thriving despite how an amazing environment she created for them to thrive - I discuss how childhood trauma was affecting these girls in learning and reaching their potential - I discuss similarities I see between these girls' journey and our journey as foreign-born moms with childhood trauma - one powerful tool to shift our perspective and access self-compassion toward ourselves and towa...

2 years ago

28 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

International Women's Day Special

On this epidose, I talk about how we, as women and moms, give away our power to men , particularly to our husbands to make this day special for us, to make us feel special. I offer a different perspective and discuss the potential old patterns and beliefs that may be guiding our feelings and emotions on this day. I also discuss the significance of March 8th and how it affected us and how we can honor those women who fought for our privileges that we have right now. Enjoy the episode! I...

2 years ago

23 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Why do we feel guilty when we do something nice for ourselves?

On this episode, I talked about: - Turning 40 years old and how it can make us feels as women - Share my decision to celebrate my birthday big time and feeling guilt - Unconscious beliefs and thoughts in my head - where does this guilt come from and how is it affecting us? - Patriarchy and women's subjugation and guilt - Difference between guilt and shame - how guilt stops us from living truly and being ourselves - how guilt affects our children and how we can cope with guilt - Break...

2 years ago

37 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

How does trauma affect our brains and nervous systems?

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and connect with natural cycles of winter season. The episode goes then to explain how trauma affected our brain size and our nervous system. As childhood trauma survivors, we need to understand the difference between sympathetic and parasympathetic systems of our brains, so we can begin noticing where we usually habitually live. I also explain how chronic high alert mode can deteriorate our health and lead to chronic health conditions. Underst...

2 years ago

22 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Self-Care for Childhood Trauma Survivors and Single parenting with Erin Hearts

In this episode, Erin and I talked about: - Sexual childhood trauma and how it is an effect of emotional neglect at home - Narcissistic partners and why we attract emotionally unavailable partners in life - Intergenerational patterns and parents' traumas - How motherhood can invite us to awaken from our unconscious patterns - Single parenthood and challenges of being a mom and healing our childhood traumas - Self-love deficit and how we try to fill it with external things and peo...

3 years ago

1 hour 3 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Setting Goals and Intentions for the New Year as a Trauma-informed Mom

In this episode, I talk about: - the significance of New Years Eve in other countries - New Years Eve as a time to do a reset and set some goals and intentions - Difference between how goal and intention settings are done in the US vs Kyrgyzstani culture - How to find balance between the different ways of two cultures - What we need to be aware of as a childhood trauma survivor in setting new goals - What we parts of ourselves do we need to include in goal setting and why we need to re...

3 years ago

18 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Why do we overfunction in our marriages, parenting and during holidays?

On this episode, you will learn: - what is overfunctioning and Nurzhan's story of how she overfunctioned in her marriage - why do we overfunction as moms and women? - the signs and examples of overfunctioning - how to not overfunction and tools/tips how to manage overfunctioning -cost of overfunctioning and how it affects negatively our husbands and children - USA culture and overfunctioning - Holidays and overfunctioning - invisible load and moms - how overfunctioning affects our health and...

3 years ago

28 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Healing trauma through learning to prioritize yourself and creating a morning routine with Jenny Lee

On this episode, you will learn: - Jenny's personal story and how she struggled to be present as a mom - Jenny's family history and childhood/intergenerational traumas that affected her as a mom and her experience growing up as Chinese in Indonesia - Jenny's awakening and healing story - What happens when we don't prioritize ourselves and why it is so hard to do as moms and how traumas of our moms affects us - Awakening that does not have to come from trauma - Importance of morning r...

3 years ago

1 hour 2 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

How to celebrate the holidays without loosing sense of who you are?

On this episode: - I share my story of what happened with my mother-in-law and how I had to take a stand for myself and my needs - I talk about the generational gap between old and modern way of celebrating holidays and roles we play as daughter-in-laws - I talk about the importance of inserting ourselves in creation of family traditions and holidays - I share my patterns that came up for me and how I moved through this uncomfortable feelings I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE...

3 years ago

30 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Power of Journaling in Healing Trauma with Becca Rae Eagle

In this episode, you will learn: - Why personal journaling can be a powerful tool in improving your personal relationship with yourself and connecting to your emotions - How journaling can help to express what is suppressed and process childhood trauma and difficult emotions - What is journaling for and types of journaling - How journaling can be modeled to our children and benefits for self-expression - Journaling as a tool to treasure memories, see our progress and celebr...

3 years ago

46 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

How to be a friend as a childhood trauma survivor?

In this episode, you will learn: - My personal story of struggle making friends and maintaining them - Why I don't have many friends - My priorities for making friendships - Childhood trauma and friendship insecurities - My tips and advice on what we need to be a better friend and have healthy friendships - Importance of trauma healing work as an immigrant moms I would love to hear from you! You can find me on IG @nurzhansterbenz Join the free Facebook to continue our conversatio...

3 years ago

31 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Intentional parenting, self-awareness and trauma with Tammy Afriat, a mom from Israel

Have you thought about a kind of parenting style you want to model to your children? What does that look like for you? What do we need to think about and consider in designing and choosing one? Why it's important that it aligns with our values and who we are as a person with our backgrounds, personality and lessons learned from life? How does childhood trauma fits in into this parenting style? This and so much more that we discuss on this episode. To learn more about Tammy Afriat and ...

3 years ago

50 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Do I have ADHD or Anxiety?

This week I talk about anxiety. There’s so much that we don’t know about it yet, and it can be very similar to ADHD. It can affect our personal lives and our parenting. So, how we can spot it? What can we do about it? I share so much more in this episode! About a year and a half ago, I was listening to a talk by Mel Robbins. She was talking about how girls go undetected for ADHD because the symptoms are so different from symptoms in boys. Boys tend to be very hyper, jumpy, and a...

3 years ago

18 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

How Childhood Trauma Affects Us as Adults

When I came to the U.S., I became a wife and a mom. And I was really struggling. I didn't know why though. I have noticed that many foreign born moms are traumatized one way or another, but they don't even know it. I didn't know that I was traumatized. I grew up thinking that so many things were normal, but they were actually very toxic. Through my healing process I discovered that I had experienced trauma, and it was showing up in my life. Trauma can manifest itself and can affect ou...

3 years ago

20 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Why meditation may not be safe for Trauma Survivors?

I have been living with chronic pain for the past nine months. This all started with an at-home meditation retreat that I decided to recreate after realizing that I needed some time by myself. I would force myself to lie down and to not think. I kept trying to be calm and to get in touch with myself. I felt in a way that I was lost with who I was, and I had a desire to get to know myself better. I tried to stop the thinking and tried to really go into a state of calm. At first, my jaw s...

3 years ago

19 minutes

Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Identity Loss with Julie Browne

On this episode, Julie Browne and I talk about my experiences in the US, and identity loss that I experienced due to the immigration and motherhood, how identity loss is not discussed in our society and how we can overcome the challenges that come with identity loss if we shift our perspective about it and raise awareness about it's significance. Guest Info. Podcast — Bold Becoming podcast Julie’s Info. https://linkedin.com/in/julie-browne-courage-ignite https://instagram.com/julie...

3 years ago

1 hour 19 minutes