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This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering. People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible. This new series introduces depth and poetry so you can feel what lives beneath people-pleasing: safety, identity, self-belonging, ...

Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do! I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure. This episode invites you to consider ho...

I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am. In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't ...

Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.” I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person. This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing...

If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty. In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.” This episode includes: Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or priorit...

For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver. But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all. In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about: The two inner voices we all carry — the one that tells us to stay qui...

Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns. Kay shares her personal experience of living with shame, from body image struggles to those early messages we pick up about who we need to be in orde...

I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself. I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore. Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival respon...

Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing. When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never have volunteered alongside a team I’d never met, doing something as unfamiliar as therapy in a be...

Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about: Why so much content feels repetitive or AI-generatedThe pressure to follow “scroll-friendly” formulas My own fear that my writing might not be seen as authenticWhy quirks, pauses, and imperfections are what make your voice truly s...

A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex. And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a topic that doesn’t get spoken about enough — and on reflection, I’m guilty of that too! Yet if you’re a people-pleaser and often say yes when you want to say no, struggle to express how you really feel or...

In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical. Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me a while to notice that I was actually avoiding putting myself out there - it was...

What is people-pleasing? and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it? In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself every single day. I cover: Why people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kindThe subtle, ...

In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?” To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing can look like in teens, and the early warning signs for you to look out for. Becky shares practi...

Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you? Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something - but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent. Or maybe it didn't even cross your mind to respond - it didn't feel like speaking up was an option you were allowed to choose. In this episode, I share a real-life moment where I didn't agree with som...

There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted. This honest conversation covers different ways people-pleasing shows up in postpartum - drawing from our lived experience and professional experience. We chat about...

In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through how to challenge the thoughts that tell you you're a fraud or not good enough — without forcing false positivity. You’ll also learn how to notice the protective behaviours that are keeping the cycle go...

Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this one’s for you. I cover what these feelings are signs of - and usually it's not that you're failing...

If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just say no' it's not as simple as that is it!? If it was we'd all be honouring our needs without feeling guilty and anxious about it! Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and disco...