There were seasons I told myself, “I’m just protecting my peace.”
Sometimes that was wisdom… but other times, if I’m honest, I was really protecting my pain—pulling away, going quiet, disappearing, and dressing it up as “boundaries.”
In this raw solo episode, I’m inviting you into a heart-to-heart about relationships, not as an expert with everything figured out, but as a woman in process. I share some of the patterns I began to notice in myself—pulling back when things felt too close, over-explaining so no one would misread me, shutting down when my nervous system felt overwhelmed—and how God started gently holding up a mirror when I prayed, “Lord, I need You to work on my relationships.”
Drawing from faith, psychology, and neuroscience-influenced work (including thinkers like Freud, Adler, and Dr. Caroline Leaf), we explore how our old stories, nervous systems, and inner scripts shape the way we show up in friendships, church, marriage, community, and even work.
In this episode, we explore:
• What it can look like to “protect your peace” when you’re actually protecting your pain
• Subtle relationship patterns like withdrawing, over-explaining, people-pleasing, and disappearing
• How your nervous system and unconscious stories (hello, Freud + Adler) can drive your reactions
• The shift from “I’m bad at relationships” to “I’m a person in process”
• Gentle, practical shifts—from hiding to honest communication, from shame to truth + grace
• A simple prayer: “Lord, I need You to work on my relationships” and what happened when I prayed it
This conversation is not about labelling you as “the problem.”
It’s an invitation to notice your patterns with kindness, bring them into the light with God, and allow Him to rewrite your inner scripts around connection, safety, and love.
💛 Free Companion Guide
To help you sit with your own story, I’ve created a free 2-page mini resource, “Raw Truths About Relationships – Mini Reflection Guide,” with journaling prompts on patterns, inner scripts, your nervous system, and one small step toward healthier connection. You can download it via the link in the show notes / my IG bio.
🧠 Therapy & Support Mention
If this episode stirs deep emotions, you don’t have to walk it alone. This season, I’m grateful to highlight Hope Restored Psychotherapy (with my guest Demi Babatunde) as a faith-informed mental health resource for those needing a safe space to process their story.
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Welcome to Season 2 of the InnerScript Wellness Podcast –
The Language of Relationships: Tolu & Friends.
Let’s lean in, together.
What happens when our feelings don’t match what we know about God? In this heartfelt season finale, Tolu sits down with writer and clinician Joan Embola Idowu (Love Qualified) to talk about emotional honesty before God, journaling as prayer, and the name of God El Roi — “the God who sees me” (Genesis 16).
You’ll hear Joan’s tender story of journaling through rejection and finding language for grief, how storytelling helps the brain organize emotion, and why your “I am” statements matter. Together we explore the difference between God calming the storm and God calming you in the storm, with gentle reflections from Psalm 139.
You’ll learn:
Share your reflections with Tolu on IG @InnerScriptWellness and connect with Joan @joannywhite.
Educational only, not medical advice. If you’re in crisis, please seek local support right away.
Can you believe it’s the end of Season 1? Ten episodes. One voice. One mission. We did it.
In this heartfelt reflection, Tolu opens up about how InnerScript Wellness began, a journey that started with fear, faith, and a simple “yes” to God. She shares the story behind the podcast, her wrestle between science and faith, and how obedience and surrender have shaped her healing journey.
This episode feels like a journal entry raw, honest, and deeply personal. It’s about learning to show up, set boundaries, protect your peace, and let God tend to the garden of your heart.
If you’ve ever wondered how to merge faith with the realities of life, or if you’ve been on your own journey of healing and renewal, this reflection will remind you that God doesn’t need perfection—just your yes.
🎧 Listen in and celebrate how far we’ve come together. Season 1—complete.
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Sometimes, the body tells the truth our words never say. In Part 4 of The Language of the Heart series, Tolu dives deep into how the heart often speaks through the body—through fatigue, tension, headaches, sleeplessness, and even chronic pain. These physical signals are not random; they are invitations to pause, listen, and heal.
Drawing from both faith and science, this episode unpacks how emotional suppression, stress, and unresolved heartache can manifest physically—and how the Holy Spirit gently calls us back to wholeness through awareness and rest. Tolu shares reflections from her own wellness journey as a pharmacist and woman of faith, revealing how the body keeps score of what the soul has endured, and how healing begins when we stop ignoring its whispers.
💛 In this episode:
Your body isn’t betraying you—it’s speaking for you. This is your reminder to slow down, tune in, and let grace do its healing work.
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There are conversations that never leave our lips — the quiet thoughts, the unspoken fears, the constant inner dialogue that shapes how we see God, ourselves, and our pain. In this episode, Tolu invites you to slow down and listen to those silent conversations within.
What is your heart saying when words fail?
What truth is being drowned out by the noise of disappointment, shame, or self-doubt?
Through faith, neuroscience, and honest reflection, we’ll explore how our internal dialogue affects our emotional and spiritual well-being — and how God meets us even in the silence.
This is a tender reminder that God doesn’t just hear your prayers; He also understands the words your heart can’t speak.
✨ Take a breath. Lean in. Let’s learn the language of the heart together.
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What happens after we name what we feel?
In this second part of The Language of the Heart series, Tolu invites you to go deeper — from simply identifying your emotions to allowing God to transform them through truth and presence.
You’ll explore how emotional honesty becomes worship, how neuroscience affirms the renewing of the mind, and how spiritual maturity means learning to feel with God, not apart from Him.
This episode is a gentle guide into emotional fluency — learning to bring your feelings into alignment with God’s Word and allowing His truth to reshape your inner world.
💭 Expect moments of reflection, Scripture-based insight, and a heartfelt prayer to anchor your emotions in grace and growth.
Because transformation begins not in perfection, but in presence.
00:00 Introduction & Series Context
Tolu welcomes listeners, recaps part one, and sets up the focus on emotional healing through faith, science, and soul care.
01:08 The Power of Naming Emotions
Discusses the importance of honestly naming emotions as the first step toward transformation and spiritual growth.
02:18 Emotions as Invitations, Not Judgments
Explains how emotions are invitations to deeper awareness and alignment with God’s truth, not judgments or demands.
03:50 Emotional Honesty as Worship
Describes emotional honesty as a spiritual act and true worship, emphasizing bringing your whole self to God.
04:54 Transformation Through Brokenness
Encourages offering your true emotional state to God, not just the polished parts, for genuine transformation.
06:17 Emotional Maturity and Spiritual Growth
Defines emotional maturity as discerning, not denying, emotions and aligning them with God’s truth.
07:28 Practical Steps for Daily Emotional Engagement
Offers practical advice: pause, name a feeling simply, and ask God what He’s revealing through it.
08:57 Transformation is Nonlinear
Reassures listeners that emotional transformation is not a straight line and emphasizes the importance of presence.
10:20 Closing Prayer and Blessing
Leads a prayer thanking God for emotions and asking for wisdom, peace, and emotional maturity.
11:30 Final Encouragement & Farewell
Encourages continued emotional honesty as worship, thanks listeners, and closes the episode.
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Healing begins where we allow ourselves to be honest. In this episode, Tolu invites you into the sacred practice of naming your emotions — even the ones that feel heavy, messy, or overwhelming. We explore how feelings are not enemies of faith but signals of what matters most in our hearts. Drawing on Scripture, the wisdom of John Piper and Dr. Anita Phillips, and neuroscience, this conversation offers gentle guidance for listening to your inner world and bringing it to God in truth.
Perfect for anyone who struggles with overwhelm, emotional honesty, or connecting their faith with what they truly feel.
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What if healing isn’t just for the obviously sick, but for anyone whose heart has quietly gone numb? In this episode of the InnerScript Wellness Podcast, I explore the hidden ways numbness shows up in our lives and why God still calls us into healing, even when we “look fine.”
Through honest storytelling, biblical insight, and gentle science-based wisdom, you’ll discover how numbness masquerades as strength, why emotional shutdown is more common than we realize, and how God’s promise of a “heart of flesh” meets us right where we are.
Whether you’ve been dismissing your own need for healing or simply wondering why you feel distant, this conversation will remind you that God is not intimidated by your numbness. He can bring your heart back to life.
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This week on InnerScript Wellness, I’m getting real about boundaries in relationships—especially when culture, family, and community expectations make it complicated. I share personal stories about unannounced visitors, navigating who you open up to—family or spouse—and the pressure of sending money home when you’re doing well abroad.
If you’ve ever felt guilty, anxious, or torn between honoring your family and protecting your peace, this episode is for you. Together, we explore how boundaries are acts of love, wisdom, and self-care, helping you stay connected without losing yourself and letting God guide your yes and no.
🎧 Tune in, and let’s navigate this journey together.
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Last week, we explored the invisible scripts that keep us people-pleasing and afraid of conflict. This week, we’re taking it a step further by diving into one of the most powerful tools for emotional, relational, and spiritual healing: healthy boundaries. In this episode, I share my personal journey of learning to say no without guilt, the
science behind why boundaries restore our peace, and faith-based wisdom on guarding the heart God entrusted to us. Boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re sacred stewardship of your energy, your time, and your soul.
You’ll discover:
● Why saying no can feel uncomfortable but is necessary for true freedom
● How to set practical boundaries with family, friends, and even yourself
● The connection between nervous system health, clarity, and spiritual well-being
● My personal steps for creating boundaries that last
Whether you’re tired of giving until you’re drained or simply seeking ways to protect your peace, this episode will help you reclaim your yes-from-fullness and live more freely.
What if the key to healthier, more balanced relationships isn’t found outside of you, but within your own heart? In this episode of Innerscript Wellness, Tolu Okubote explores how unhealed emotional wounds quietly shape the way we connect—with our spouse, friends, family, and community.
Through a mix of faith, science, and practical soul care, Tolu shares how to:
• Recognize old patterns and triggers
• Release limiting beliefs and survival habits
• Rewrite your inner script to attract relationships rooted in respect, trust, and joy
Join our growing community of people who are learning to heal, thrive, and create balanced connections. Follow me on Instagram @Innerscriptwellness for daily inspiration, and don’t forget to subscribe to our newsletter—link in bio—for exclusive tips, resources, and encouragement.
🎧 Tune in and start your journey toward whole-hearted, balanced love today.
Ever feel stuck in your head — replaying thoughts you can’t turn off? Overthinking might seem harmless, but it often leads straight into burnout, leaving your mind, body, and soul drained.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the real connection between overthinking and burnout, how it affects your health, and the hope God gives us to reset. You’ll also get practical soul-care tools to slow down and breathe again.
Take a seat, grab your tea or coffee — this is your safe space to reset.
InnerScript Wellness is a faith-based wellness podcast for emotionally overwhelmed Christians and professionals who are tired of pretending they’re “fine.”
Hosted by Tolu Okubote, RPh a pharmacist, wellness advocate, and event curator each episode blends Scripture, neuroscience, and honest storytelling to help you notice the old “inner scripts” written by stress, trauma, culture, and survival, and gently rewrite them with God.
We talk about:
• emotions, nervous system health, and mental wellness
• relationships, boundaries, and belonging
• grief, disappointment, and hope
• spiritual formation and the secret place
Along the way, you’ll hear from therapists, healthcare professionals, pastors, and everyday people who are navigating healing in real time.
Think of this podcast as a safe, gentle space to name what you feel, renew your mind, and remember that the God who designed your brain also cares deeply for your heart. 🕊
New episodes release with each series—grab your journal, exhale, and let’s rewrite some scripts together.