In this episode, Bukky and Ayomide engage in a conversation about blackness, resilience, and identity. They explore their personal experiences with racial consciousness, the challenges of navigating double consciousness in daily life, and the cultural differences they encounter living in different countries.

07:07 Resilience and Identity in the Black Experience

13:49 Racial Consciousness: Realizations and Experiences

20:56 Navigating Double Consciousness in Daily Life

30:04 Cultural Differences and Adaptation

36:06 The Role of Social Media in Promoting Black Culture

40:00 Current Events and Community Building

48:10 Celebrating Blackness and Conclusion

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In this episode, Dr. Bright Gyamfi joins me as we discuss Pan-Africanism, the tension between community and individualism, and what activism really looks like today. We talk about why political consciousness among young people matters more than ever, the complexities of Nigeria’s issues, and how music has always been one of our strongest tools for awakening.

This episode is a reminder that our individual goals matter, but our community matters just as much. Enjoy the episode.

02:42 Community and Individualism in Africa

05:21 Understanding Intellectual History

07:59 Personal Reflections and Political Consciousness

10:16 The Complexity of Political Interventions

13:00 Music as a Tool for Political Awareness

17:55 Building Political Consciousness Through Art

19:44 The Role of Music in Resistance

21:49 The Shift in Afrobeat's Political Message

24:15 Integrity and Responsibility of Artists

26:21 Youth Movements and Political Awakening

29:08 Hope and Community in Activism

30:13 Community and Individualism in the Diaspora

32:12 Economic Pressures and Self-Centeredness

34:24 The Myth of the American Dream

35:28 Social Media and Authentic Connections

36:05 The Pressure of Social Media and Performance

38:35 The Impact of AI on Human Interaction

40:29 Social Media's Influence on Aspirations and Identity

43:43 Racism and Algorithmic Bias in Technology

46:41 Finding Balance Between Individualism and Community

50:12 Engaging with Communities for Collective Growth

In this episode, I have a conversation with Ife and Faith about what it really means to be spiritual but not religious. We share personal stories on faith, community, and finding meaning beyond traditional religion. We talk about how spirituality is a deeply personal connection with God, while religion often follows more structured paths. We also explore the beauty and challenges of maintaining faith without a community, and how personal practices help keep that connection alive.

00:00 Spirituality vs. Religion: An Introduction

03:12 Personal Journeys: Defining Spirituality

05:50 Understanding Religion: Definitions and Perspectives

08:47 The Role of Community in Spirituality

12:04 Navigating Personal Beliefs and Doubts

15:13 Spiritual Practices: Finding Your Path

18:01 The Importance of Personal Connection with God

21:05 Preaching and Sharing Faith: Different Approaches

24:00 Conclusion: Embracing Individual Spiritual Journeys

In this episode of Becoming You Pod, Joel, Olu, and I have an honest conversation about patriarchy and how it affects men. We talk about whether patriarchy can also be a burden, the financial expectations placed on men, and the emotional struggles they face when it comes to being vulnerable. We also reflect on what patriarchy really means, its historical roots, and how the roles of men and women are changing today. The episode ends with our personal thoughts on growth, understanding, and the importance of partnership in navigating these changes together.

00:00 Exploring the Burden of Patriarchy

08:46 The Financial Responsibilities of Men

17:11 Defining Patriarchy and Its Implications

28:59 Vulnerability and Emotional Expression in Men

51:07 Reflections on Patriarchy and Personal Growth

In this episode, Bukky talks about the struggle to find work-life balance. She shares personal experiences and cultural perspectives on ambition, money, and self-care. Through honest conversations with friends, she explores how capitalism shapes our idea of success and questions whether true balance is even possible today.

00:00 The Quest for Feedback and Self-Reflection

02:56 Navigating Financial Growth and Capitalism

06:02 Cultural Perspectives on Work and Ambition

08:52 Understanding Work-Life Balance

11:47 Personal Experiences and Social Life

19:11 Exploring Work-Life Balance Through Conversations

26:07 Insights from Friends on Work-Life Balance

31:31 Introduction and Work-Life Balance Discussion

35:17 Living vs. Surviving: Perspectives on Life

38:44 Recharging After Stressful Weeks

43:03 Work-Life Balance Ratings and Experiences

55:21 Navigating Work-Life Balance Challenges

01:01:09 The Pursuit of a Perfect Work-Life Balance

01:02:32 Conclusion: The Myth of Work-Life Balance

In this episode, Bukky shares her personal experiences with various fears that come with adulthood, including the fear of making it, losing loved ones, and the fear of silence and loneliness. She discusses the impact of these fears on her mental health and happiness, and emphasizes the importance of confronting them to lead a fulfilling life. Bukky also explores the complexities of social connections and the need for personal growth, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own fears and how they can overcome them.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Personal Reflections

02:55 The Impact of Remote Work on Health

05:47 Confronting the Fear of Making It

08:58 Navigating the Fear of Job Insecurity

11:49 Exploring Financial Independence

14:32 The Struggle with Social Life

17:53 Facing the Fear of Losing Loved Ones

20:46 The Weight of Public Opinion

23:37 The Complexity of Personal Growth

26:30 The Fear of Loneliness and Aging

29:48 The Challenge of Finding Community

32:25 The Fear of Silence and Self-Reflection

35:34 Concluding Thoughts on Fear and Happiness

In this episode, we talk about sexual and reproductive health, discussing the cultural stigmas that prevent open conversations about our bodies. We explore the importance of education, the role of medical practitioners, and the need for early detection of health issues, particularly breast cancer. The conversation also addresses common myths surrounding sexual health and emphasizes the significance of self-examination and awareness of our body.

00:00 Understanding Our Bodies: The Need for Open Conversations

05:12 Breaking the Stigma: Cultural Barriers in Sexual Health Education

10:54 The Role of Medical Practitioners in Sexual Health Discussions

17:15 Defining Sexual and Reproductive Health

24:14 Debunking Myths: Misconceptions in Sexual Health

27:39 Understanding Virginity and the Hymen

31:54 The Importance of Comprehensive Sex Education

34:01 Breaking the Silence on Sexual Abuse

38:22 Recognizing and Responding to Sexual Assault

40:16 Breast Health Awareness and Self-Examination

46:40 The Importance of Early Detection in Health

54:20 Navigating the Nigerian Sexual System

In this episode, I explore the complex relationship between Christianity and feminism, addressing some common misconceptions and reflecting on how these two ideologies can actually align. I share personal stories and observations from society, touching on topics like gender equality, submission in marriage, and the importance of open conversations about feminism within faith communities.

At its core, this episode is about love, fairness, and mutual respect, and a call for a more inclusive understanding of what it truly means to live out both Christianity and feminism.

Bible verse: Genesis 3 vrs 16

Link to article: https://b-buildperfect.medium.com/are-nigerian-twitter-feminists-really-bitter-5ade5dbda2e9

00:00 Christianity and Feminism: An Introduction

04:06 Understanding Feminism: Definitions and Perspectives

08:29 Defining Christianity: A Way of Life

11:25 The Intersection of Christianity and Feminism

17:57 Personal Journey: Discovering Feminism

22:12 Cultural Perspectives on Feminism

28:52 Marriage, Submission, and Gender Roles

33:03 The Role of Women in Society

39:09 The Importance of Feminism in Today's World

42:41 Conclusion: A Call to Action

44:57 The Intersection of Christianity and Feminism

48:48 Defining Feminism and Its Misconceptions

53:09 Understanding Christianity: A Way of Life

56:09 Do Christianity and Feminism Align?

01:03:02 Personal Journeys into Feminism

01:06:45 Cultural Perspectives on Feminism

01:09:50 Marriage, Submission, and Equality

01:14:49 The Future of Feminism and Christianity

In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, I talk about the end-of-year pressure and trying to hit all the goals before the year ends. I share some of my own experiences, moments when things didn’t go as planned, the stress of expectations, and how society sometimes makes it feel like we’re behind. More than anything, I reflect on staying hopeful, keeping things realistic, and finding ways to take it easy, even when the year feels like it’s running away from us.

00:00:00 Introduction and Goals

00:00:30 Challenges and Societal Factors

00:01:00 Reflecting on the Year

00:01:47 Managing Expectations

00:02:17 Staying Hopeful and Resilient

00:03:11 Personal Growth and Reflections

00:04:03 Conclusion and Encouragement

In this episode, I explore a question we all grapple with: is it really possible to love yourself with your imperfections? I discuss what self-love truly means, why it is more than just a feeling, and how it requires intentional practice every day. I talk about the societal pressures and internal struggles that can make self-love feel impossible, and why forgiveness, positivity, and self-compassion are essential for building a healthy relationship with yourself. I also share practical tips for embracing your flaws and prioritizing your well-being. Join me as we navigate the journey of loving ourselves exactly as we are.

00:00 The Essence of Self-Love

06:03 Understanding Love: A Theoretical Perspective

11:54 Self-Love as an Action Verb

17:51 External Factors Affecting Self-Love

27:27 Internal Struggles with Self-Love

32:34 The Importance of Forgiveness in Self-Love

39:32 Practical Ways to Show Self-Love

This week’s episode is a special one, as we had our very first guest of the season, Stella Maris, join me. We mainly spoke about life in the diaspora, specifically how we’ve navigated cultural disconnects and the struggle to find real community and friendships. We touched on many aspects, from colorism and imposter syndrome to the stress of adulting and the joy of embracing our roots. It was such a fun conversation to record, and we hope you enjoy listening!

10:57 Navigating Life in the Diaspora

19:26 Cultural Perspectives and Identity

27:23 Embracing Heritage: The Role of Family and Community

28:05 Authenticity vs. Assimilation: The Accent Dilemma

33:10 Colorism and Identity: Navigating Skin Tone in America

37:41 Imposter Syndrome: The Pressure of Representation

40:02 Social Connections: The Struggle to Form Friendships

44:23 Navigating Friendships and Expectations

46:15 Communication and Accountability in Relationships

49:36 The Importance of Mutual Effort in Friendships

51:57 Exploring New Connections and Overcoming Barriers

56:08 Finding Joy in Everyday Life

01:07:14 Lessons Learned in Adulthood

01:07:19 Staying True to Oneself in Adulthood

01:09:34 The Grass is Greener: Living Abroad vs. Home

01:14:47 The Reality of Migration and Loneliness

In this episode of BecomingU, we talk about rejection, what it feels like, the phases we go through, and how we deal with it. I share a bit of my own experience and also bring in what friends had to say. Rejection hurts, but it’s something we all face, and sometimes it even leads us to better places.

00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast and Personal Updates

01:48 - Exploring the Theme of Rejection

04:20 - Personal Experiences with Rejection

07:55 - Phases of Dealing with Rejection

14:51 - Listener Experiences and Insights on Rejection

In this episode I share some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 20s, like why support systems matter and why asking for help isn’t weakness. I get real about unexpected expenses, talk about celebrating the little wins, and the dangers of falling into comparison. I also open up about how failure is part of the journey, why investing in experiences pays off, and the messy but beautiful lessons that come with friendships and forgiveness.

00:00 - Introduction and Hidden Talents

01:24 - The Struggles of Adulting

09:14 - Reflections on Financial Responsibilities

13:59 - Lessons Learned in My 20s

23:59 - The Importance of a Support System

28:32 - Seizing Opportunities and Taking Risks

30:05 - The Pursuit of Opportunity

32:00 - Embracing Failure as Part of Success

35:51 - Investing in Experiences and Celebrating Wins

39:57 - The Dangers of Comparison

42:40 - The Myth of Being Busy

44:52 - The Complexity of Forgiveness

47:38 - Evolving Friendships in Your 20s

Starting over is hard. Like, really hard. Especially after taking a break and realizing your streaks, routines, and adulting plans are all out the window. In this episode of BecomingU, I’m just keeping it real about hitting the restart button, the guilt, the anger, and why consistency sometimes feels like a burden.

[00:00] Introduction

[02:15] The Struggle with Consistency

[05:30] Personal Reflections

[10:00] The Importance of Self-Reflection

[15:45] Pressing the Restart Button

Welcome to the BecomingU Pod, where we talk about the challenges of adulting.

Adult friendships are not as soft and simple as we thought. In this episode, we unpack the emotional rollercoaster of growing, maintaining, and sometimes losing friendships in your adult years. We talk about what it really takes to build solid friendships as adults.

00:00 Introduction to Adulting and Friendships

01:44 The Meaning of Friendship

09:18 Feeling Seen in Friendships

13:25 Friendship vs. Romantic Breakups

20:11 The Finality of Broken Friendships

25:24 Challenges of Making Friends as Adults

31:53 Valuing Loyalty and Consistency in Friendships

In this episode, Bukky and her cohost Dami have a lighthearted conversation about beauty standards, self-image struggles, and the complicated relationship between money and happiness.

They share honest takes on being broke, trying to stay cute on a budget, and the pressure to have it all figured out.

00:00

Navigating Adulting: The Chaos of Growing Up

03:06

Beauty Standards and Self-Image

05:54

The Role of Money in Adult Life

08:40

Investing and Financial Growth

11:30

Lessons from COVID: Missed Opportunities

14:29

The Struggles of Being Broke

17:21

Finding Purpose and Passion

20:07

The Reality of Career Choices

22:54

The Cost of Living and Financial Management

25:27

Friendship Dynamics and Financial Strain

28:09

Reflections on Personal Growth

31:03

Coping with Financial Stress

34:24

Final Thoughts on Adulting and Resilience

We’ve all been hooked with the recent debate about Nepotism and its less privileged alter ego - Lapotism. But is nepotism a good privilege, or are good privileges nepotism? Join us as we talk about all things Nepo. I’m sure you’ll enjoy this one.

00:00

Introduction to Nepotism in Nigeria

02:52

Public Opinions on Nepotism

06:09

Understanding Nepotism: Definitions and Perspectives

08:49

The Impact of Nepotism on Society

12:06

The Nepo vs. Lapo Debate

14:55

The Role of Money in Nepotism

18:09

Nepotism and Its Unfair Advantages

21:02

Reflections on Nepotism and Personal Experiences

25:50

Understanding Nepotism: A Double-Edged Sword

34:30

The Impact of Nepotism on Society

45:41

The Hustle vs. Nepotism Debate

50:53

Reflections on Privilege and Opportunity

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In this episode of the podcast, we talk about the struggles of adulting, the reality of life after university, and how to navigate career choices. We share our own experiences, the lessons we’ve learned so far, and some advice for anyone entering university feeling unsure.

06:58 Expectations vs. Reality of Adulthood

13:13 Career Aspirations and Educational Journeys

22:18 Reality Checks After Graduation

31:21 Understanding Self and Life's Purpose

33:14 The Impact of Education and Environment

36:37 Navigating Career Choices in Nigeria

40:12 Harsh Realities of Adulthood

44:27 Survival, Stability, and Passion

55:31 Advice for University Students with Uncertainty

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In this episode, Bukky and Damilola discuss the pervasive issue of imposter syndrome. They share personal experiences and insights on how self-doubt and comparison impact one’s sense of self-worth. They explore the roots of these feelings, including cultural influences, and highlight the importance of community support. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for self-acceptance and recognising one’s achievements.

00:00 Sharing Weekly Highlights

08:00 Exploring Imposter Syndrome

11:56 Understanding Self-Doubt

16:04 The Impact of External Validation

19:57 The Roots of Imposter Syndrome

23:56 Navigating Comparison and Self-Worth

28:38 The Culture of Humility and Downplaying Achievements

30:22 The Role of Social Media in Self-Perception

37:46 Finding Validation in a Competitive World

51:38 Navigating Competition and Comparison in the Digital Age

54:01 Managing Imposter Syndrome: Personal Strategies

01:00:06 Celebrating Achievements and Self-Validation

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