In this episode of Everything is Onions, host Koko explores the complexities of identity and social dynamics, likening life to a series of chessboards where different rules apply. She discusses how individuals often feel like the main character in one environment but invisible in another, emphasizing the importance of understanding the varying expectations and perceptions across different social settings. The conversation delves into the fluidity of self-concept, the significance of adapting to different roles, and the necessity of recognizing one's contextual influence in various spaces. Ultimately, Coco encourages listeners to embrace their multifaceted identities and to seek environments that align with their authentic selves.

This episode peels back the layers of domestic violence in a way most people never do. We break down the psychology, the warning signs, the escalation patterns, and the harsh truth: leaving an abusive man is the most dangerous moment of a woman’s life. We talk about the tragic case in Tiffin, Ohio — a mother trying to leave, doing everything she was “supposed” to do, and the deadly retaliation that followed. We examine why abusive men treat separation as betrayal, not heartbreak, and why the violence often peaks when a woman finally decides to walk away. This conversation also dives into the ways Black women are uniquely unprotected: • Less believed when reporting abuse • More likely to be arrested for self-defense • Higher homicide risks • Greater exposure to firearm-related partner violence • Increased shame and cultural pressure to stay silent We also look at how cases like Duchess Dior, Ms. Pat’s story, and Reasonable Doubt Season 2 reflect a deeper reality: women learn to survive inside danger long before anyone else sees it. This is not an episode about “why she stayed.” It’s an episode about why leaving almost kills her. If you or someone you know is in danger, please use these resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text: START to 88788 Chat available online Black-centered organizations: Ujima: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community The Safe Sisters Circle Sista Afya Community Care Black Women’s Health Imperative If this episode opened your eyes or touched you deeply, don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe. This conversation saves lives.

In this episode, we peel back the layers of The Danish Deception — the viral story that has the internet clowning, debating, and asking the real question: How do intelligent, grown women keep getting caught up in someone’s performance? Koko breaks down: • Why validation can blind you faster than red flags • How manipulators study you before they scam you • The psychology behind charm, masks, and fabricated personas • How boundary testing works (and why women ignore it) • Love bombing, emotional extraction, and financial entanglement • Why intuition whispers early — and why we talk ourselves out of it • What the Danish Deceiver reveals about presentation vs reality • What it really means when the spell breaks and everything makes sense in reverse This isn’t about blaming women — it’s about understanding the patterns, the psychology, and the ways we make ourselves easy targets when we want to believe someone too badly. If you’ve ever dealt with a liar, a manipulator, a walking performance piece, or someone who came in too fast and too polished… this episode is for you.

This episode peels back a painful truth: the parallels between power, race, gender, and the institutions that claim to protect us. I break down why the statements “Men are to women as white people are to Black people” and “Police officers are to Black men as doctors and nurses are to Black women” hit so hard — not because they’re dramatic, but because the patterns are real. Using CDC, DOJ, NIH, and Mapping Police Violence data, I dive into the history, the statistics, and the lived experiences behind Black maternal mortality, medical neglect, police violence, and the way these systems consistently fail Black families. If you’ve ever felt unseen in a doctor’s office or unsafe around police, this episode is for you. If you’ve ever questioned the parallels between institutions, this episode explains them. And if you love layered conversations about race, gender, power, and survival — welcome. ➡️ Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & more ➡️ Like, comment, and subscribe ➡️ Share this with someone who needs to hear it Chapters: 0:00 – Opening Thought 1:12 – Intro 2:07– The First Peel 6:43 – The Messy Middle 21:17 – No Tears, Just Truths 24:37 – Outro #EverythingIsOnions #BlackWomen #BlackMen #MedicalRacism #PoliceBrutality #MaternalMortality #BlackCommunity #Podcast

In this episode of Everything Is Onions, Koko peels back one of the most uncomfortable but necessary conversations: envy, self-abandonment, “pick me” culture, and the myth that the grass is greener somewhere else. From the viral TikTok Brenay, Tim, Akira, and Devon situation that sparked the discussion, to the psychology behind wanting what someone else has, to the difference between rules and boundaries, to the deeper truth about why some people fight to be chosen… This episode goes THERE. Koko breaks down: -Why envy makes you crave lives you’re not prepared to maintain -How “never-been-picked” energy leads to chaos -Why social media has people romanticizing highlight reels -The spiritual danger of stepping into someone else’s assignment -The real difference between boundaries vs rules -The heartbreak of self-abandonment -What rebuilding yourself actually looks like -How to stop settling and choosing validation over peace And the truth about why being chosen means NOTHING if you lose yourself in the process If you’ve ever questioned your worth, settled for less, or found yourself in situations you KNOW you deserved better than… this episode is for you. Like, comment, and subscribe — and let me know in the comments what part of today’s episode peeled YOUR layer back.

In this episode of Everything Is Onions, Koko peels back one of the hardest truths we avoid: are you loving… or are you surviving?

So many of us think we’re choosing love when we’re really choosing familiarity, fear, and emotional muscle memory. This episode digs into the difference between being cared for and being conditioned to endure. Koko breaks down what survival-mode relationships look like, why Black women slip into them so easily, and how childhood patterns shape the way we show up in adulthood.

We talk communication styles (the healthy ones and the messy ones), emotional stalling, stonewalling, vulnerability, safety, and what “connection” actually means when you’re tired of fighting your way through love. With honesty, humor, and a touch of big-sister realness, this conversation feels like therapy with a laugh tucked in the middle.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re choosing partnership or just choosing someone who feels familiar… this episode is your sign to peel back another layer.

In this episode, Koko peels back the seductive lie that “not knowing” keeps you safe. She breaks down how avoidance, denial, and selective blindness can feel like protection — especially when the truth is heavy, inconvenient, or forces you to change. But comfort built on pretending is temporary, and Koko gets into the real cost of choosing bliss over awareness.

From relationships we stay in because we don’t want answers, to red flags we ignore to keep the fantasy alive, to the societal systems that depend on people staying uninformed — this episode explores the many layers of why ignorance feels easier, even when it’s hurting us.

With honesty, humor, and her signature big-sister clarity, Koko unpacks how choosing knowledge — even when it stings — is the first step toward real growth, real power, and real freedom.

If you’ve ever looked back and realized you “didn’t want to know,” this conversation will hit home.

In this episode, Koko gets into the rude awakening nobody warned us about: the moment you realize you’re not just “grown”… you’re big grown. The bills hit different, the responsibilities multiply, the family roles shift, and life starts demanding things from you that you’re not even sure you signed up for.

Koko unpacks the emotional weight of stepping into full adulthood — the exhaustion, the expectations, the pressure to keep it together, and the silent grief that comes with outgrowing versions of yourself. She talks about the friendships that change, the boundaries you have to build, and the reality that nobody is coming to save you… but you.

With humor, honesty, and that signature auntie-level clarity, Koko explores what it really means to navigate life when you’re old enough to know better but still young enough to feel overwhelmed. She breaks down the difference between surviving and intentionally stepping into who you want to become.

If adulthood has ever punched you in the chest and walked off like nothing happened, this episode will feel like home.

In this episode, Koko digs into the uncomfortable truth we all face at some point: sometimes the only thing standing between us and a better life… is what we don’t know yet. She unpacks how lack of knowledge, exposure, or guidance can stunt our growth — and why grace, not shame, should be the starting point when we look back at the choices we made before we understood the game.

From relationships to money, boundaries to belief systems, Koko breaks down how ignorance — both innocent and intentional — shapes our decisions. She explores how we’re often conditioned to do the best we can with the tools we were given, but also why it’s our responsibility to seek new information, evolve, and pivot once we do know better.

With her signature mix of humor and big-sister honesty, Koko reminds us that learning is lifelong, growth is layered, and accountability isn’t punishment — it’s freedom.

This episode is an invitation to reflect, release shame, and choose differently — one new layer at a time.

In this debut episode, Koko grabs the mic and welcomes you into the layered world of Everything Is Onions. Consider this your front-row seat to how the podcast was born, what it stands for, and why it’s the space you didn’t know you needed.

Koko opens up about her journey — the lessons, the bruises, the healing, and the humor — that shaped her voice and fueled her desire to speak honestly to (and for) Black women navigating life in real time. She breaks down what “peeling back the layers” truly means, how the show will explore the messy middle of adulthood, and why these conversations matter now more than ever.

This episode sets the tone: unfiltered thought, real stories, sharp perspective, and the perfect blend of big-sister warmth and favorite-auntie wit. Whether you’re here for laughs, reflection, or just to feel seen, you’ll leave knowing exactly what to expect — and excited to hear what’s coming next.

Welcome to the table. Let’s peel.