Send us a text Forgiveness without access. That single reframe changes how you heal, set boundaries, and stop returning to what hurts. Most of us were taught forgiveness means reconciliation that if you've truly forgiven someone, they get to come back. But forgiveness is releasing the war with reality, not granting someone access to your life. Here's why you keep going back: you can't forgive what you haven't grieved. We skip straight to "I forgive you" without letting ourselves feel how deva...