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Not Anymore!

Wendy Hofhine

33 episodes

2 weeks ago

In this episode I share the moment I realized that the stress I was feeling was not coming from my circumstances. It was coming from the story I was telling myself about them. I talk about a designer who simply decided she does not get stressed, and how that one conversation opened my eyes to the possibility that things I had labeled as hard might actually get to be fun. I share how two teachers can experience the same classroom in completely different ways, how my own thoughts used to make s...

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In this episode I share the moment I realized that the stress I was feeling was not coming from my circumstances. It was coming from the story I was telling myself about them. I talk about a designer who simply decided she does not get stressed, and how that one conversation opened my eyes to the possibility that things I had labeled as hard might actually get to be fun. I share how two teachers can experience the same classroom in completely different ways, how my own thoughts used to make s...

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Self-Improvement

Episodes (20/33)

Not Anymore!

Episode 33: How To Turn Stress Into Fun

In this episode I share the moment I realized that the stress I was feeling was not coming from my circumstances. It was coming from the story I was telling myself about them. I talk about a designer who simply decided she does not get stressed, and how that one conversation opened my eyes to the possibility that things I had labeled as hard might actually get to be fun. I share how two teachers can experience the same classroom in completely different ways, how my own thoughts used to make s...

2 weeks ago

22 minutes

Not Anymore!

Episode 32: It's Okay To Not Be Okay

In this episode of Not Anymore, I share a story that stopped me in my tracks. I was at the doctor’s office where my kids were laughing and having fun, and I was embarrassed and frustrated, worried about what everyone else was thinking. That moment became a mirror that showed me how often I tie my worth as a mom to how “put together” everything looks on the outside. I talk about what it means to give ourselves permission to feel and to stop pretending we’re fine when we’re not, and to un...

1 month ago

19 minutes

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Episode 31: It’s Your Job To Be Your BIGGEST Cheerleader

For most of my life, I loved being the one cheering everyone else on. I’d send encouraging texts, celebrate people’s wins, and show up like their biggest hype girl. But deep down, I was craving that same kind of cheerleader. Someone to notice me, to tell me I was doing a good job. And if I’m being honest, that need for validation caused tension in my marriage, exhaustion in my hustle, and an emptiness I couldn’t shake. Everything changed the day a mentor looked me straight in the eyes and sai...

1 month ago

24 minutes

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Episode 30: Ten Principles To Help You Win In Life

I used to overthink, over-give, and over-please. I tried to prove my worth by doing more and saying yes to everything…but not anymore.In this episode, I’m sharing the 10 leadership principles that have changed my life — from assuming the best in people, setting boundaries, leading by example, and learning to love like Jesus.These principles aren’t about perfection, they are about becoming. About choosing faith over fear, love over judgment, and growth over comparison. If you’ve ever felt stu...

1 month ago

19 minutes

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Episode 29: Take Your Own Advice: Wisdom from Your Future Self

Have you ever given someone great advice… and then realized later you needed to take it yourself? That happened to me recently. I was telling my sister not to worry about her toddler’s current phase and that it would all work out. Later that day, I found myself flustered with one of my own kids. And it hit me: Wendy, take your own advice. In this episode, I share what it means to live with the wisdom and perspective of our future selves. The calm, grounded, ten-years-wiser version of us who a...

2 months ago

19 minutes

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Episode 28: How to Overcome Anxiety and Fear

In this episode, I’m opening up about the stories we tell ourselves — and how faith has helped me rewrite fear and find peace, even in the middle of uncertainty. It all started with a conversation I had with one of my kids about Jesus asking His disciples to cast their nets into shallow water. Logically, it didn’t make sense… but they trusted Him — and that trust led to a miracle. That story made me think about how often I’ve tried to “logic” my way through life — in business, parenting, and ...

2 months ago

22 minutes

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Episode 27: Firing The Worst Boss I Ever Had

Have you ever worked for a terrible boss — the kind who never lets you rest, constantly criticizes, and demands perfection no matter how much you give? For years, that was me. In this episode, I share one of the most personal stories of my life — the day I realized I was the CEO of my own burnout. I was exhausted, overthinking everything, and convinced that pushing harder was the only way to prove my worth. Then one day, I decided: Not anymore. I dive into what I learned about overthinking, ...

2 months ago

23 minutes

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Episode 26: You Are Not Your Results

I’ve been away from the mic for several months — summer trips, back-to-school chaos, and even losing my computer charger. But today I’m back with an episode I wish I could have whispered to myself years ago: You are not your results. For so long, I tied my worth to productivity, performance, and how much I could achieve in a day. I thought crossing off a never-ending to-do list would finally make me feel enough. But it never did. In this raw conversation, I share what I’ve learned about ...

2 months ago

18 minutes

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Episode 25: How To Overcome Negative Thoughts

Ever feel like your own thoughts are working against you? Yeah, me too. In this episode, I’m sharing how one book—Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr. Daniel Amen—sparked my obsession with understanding the brain and finally gave me language for something I had battled for years: Automatic Negative Thoughts, or what Dr. Amen calls ANTs. You’ll hear about the six most common ANTs, how they show up in my everyday life (like assuming a ruined pie ruined Thanksgiving 😅), and how I...

5 months ago

24 minutes

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Episode 24: Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

Ever find yourself scrolling, spiraling, and suddenly feeling like you’re not doing enough, being enough, or achieving fast enough? You’re not alone. In this honest episode of Not Anymore, I’m pulling back the curtain on the messy middle—the space most people skip when they tell their transformation story. We’re diving into the trap of comparison, how it messes with your mental health, fuels imposter syndrome, and leaves you chasing someone else’s version of success. I wal...

5 months ago

19 minutes

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Episode 23: Give The Gift To You, Not Them

For years, I did everything for everyone else—trying to be the perfect mom, the supportive wife, the “good woman.” I ran myself ragged, hoping someone would notice… and feeling invisible when they didn’t. But everything changed when I stopped doing things for recognition—and started doing them as a gift to myself. In this episode of Not Anymore!, I’m sharing my honest journey out of people-pleasing and into emotional freedom. If you’re an overwhelmed, overthinking mom who feels burned ou...

5 months ago

23 minutes

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Episode 22: Validation - The One Thing Everyone Is Desperate For

Have you ever just wanted someone to say, “Yeah... that makes sense. I’d feel that way too”? In this episode, I’m talking about the invisible sign we’re all wearing—“Do you see me? Do I matter?”—and how the answer we all crave is found in one word: validation. I’m sharing real-life stories—from a college freshman homesick and scared, to a moment when I was sobbing in the kitchen and just needed Cody to listen. I talk about how validating your kids, your spouse, and even yourself can change ev...

6 months ago

24 minutes

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Episode 21: T.E.A.R. Model: Reframing Your Thoughts To Show Up Your Best

In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most impactful tools I’ve used to take back control of my thoughts and emotions—something I learned from Jody Moore and Brooke Castillo that completely changed the game for me. When we moved to St. George and Cody left for HXP, I was alone, overwhelmed, and spiraling mentally. That’s when I found coaching and learned a model that helped me shift everything. I’ve simplified it so it’s easy to remember—and I call it the TEAR model (Thought, Emotion, Actio...

6 months ago

25 minutes

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Episode 20: It Always Works Out

Lately, I’ve added four little words to the end of my journal entries, and they’ve completely shifted the way I think, act, and trust: It always works out. In this episode, I open up about how I used to let fear, anxiety, and worst-case scenarios take over my thoughts. I’d create full-blown Hollywood productions in my mind about how badly things could go. But then I decided—Not Anymore! Inspired by the powerful story in the book Surrender, I reflect on what it truly means to trust life—and to...

6 months ago

18 minutes

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Episode 19: Reignite Your Imagination and Dream Bigger Than Ever

When was the last time you let yourself really dream? Like, the kind of dreaming you did as a kid—limitless, fearless, and a little bit crazy? Today, I’m giving you full permission to reconnect with your inner 5-year-old and imagine a life without limits. Remember those preschool “What do you want to be when you grow up?” moments? Why do we stop doing that as adults? Not anymore! In this episode, I’m walking you through the power of big dreaming and visualization—backed by science. From Disne...

6 months ago

22 minutes

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Episode 18: Most Generous Interpretation - How to Stop Reacting and Start Connecting

Ever felt hijacked by frustration when someone triggers you—your child yelling, your teen snapping, or a stranger driving painfully slow in front of you? You’re not alone. But what if there was a simple mindset shift that could change everything? In this episode, I share one of my favorite tools I learned from Dr. Becky at Good Inside—MGI: Most Generous Interpretation. It’s a game-changing practice that softens your body, opens your heart, and rewires your thoughts toward compassion instead o...

7 months ago

16 minutes

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Episode 17: It's Only A Problem If You See It As A Problem

What if the thing you’re calling a "problem"… isn’t actually a problem at all? In this episode, I share how your thoughts—not your circumstances—create the drama. Whether it’s running late, dealing with your kids, or facing unexpected challenges, you have the power to reframe the story. Imagine the peace you could create if you simply stopped labeling everything as a problem and started seeing it as an opportunity instead. It’s not the traffic, the schedule, or the kids—it’s the story you tel...

7 months ago

26 minutes

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Episode 16: You Can’t Outthink a Feeling

In this episode, I’m diving deep into something we all try to do at some point—outthink our feelings. But the truth is, emotions don’t go away because we analyze them. Like a bleeding cut, you can’t fix it by just thinking about it—you’ve got to tend to it. You’ve got to feel it. I share real stories from my life, like how getting pulled over used to trigger my body into panic, and how learning to feel my frustration has helped me stay grounded and calm. I also t...

7 months ago

25 minutes

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Episode 15: Boundaries: The Best Decision I Ever Made

For most of my life, I believed that being like Jesus meant having no boundaries. I thought love meant always saying yes, always being available, and putting everyone else's needs before my own—until it broke me. In this episode of Not Anymore!, I open up about my personal journey from burnout and resentment to peace and empowerment, all through the life-changing lens of Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. You’ll hear the real story—my wake-up call moment, the ...

7 months ago

31 minutes

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Episode 14: Sticky Note It – What Your Brain Remembers, Reacts To, and Attracts

If you’ve ever felt behind, invisible, or stuck in survival mode—this episode is for you. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift I call “Sticky Note It.” It’s based on brain science, but I break it down simply: your brain is constantly tagging your experiences—what to fear, what to avoid, and what to believe about yourself. Most of us don’t even realize we’re carrying around sticky notes that say: “I’m not doing enough.” “No one sees how hard I try.” “I’m too much....

8 months ago

21 minutes