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The Kelly Healing Project

Kelly

39 episodes

2 days ago

Why does it feel like so many families are dysfunctional—even the ones that look “normal” on the outside? In this solo episode, I explore this question from a trauma-informed, compassionate perspective. I talk about how dysfunction isn’t always loud or obvious, and how many families are shaped by unhealed generational trauma, emotional immaturity, and nervous systems stuck in survival mode. I share why so many of us grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or responsible for other people’s emotions—a...

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Why does it feel like so many families are dysfunctional—even the ones that look “normal” on the outside? In this solo episode, I explore this question from a trauma-informed, compassionate perspective. I talk about how dysfunction isn’t always loud or obvious, and how many families are shaped by unhealed generational trauma, emotional immaturity, and nervous systems stuck in survival mode. I share why so many of us grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or responsible for other people’s emotions—a...

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Episodes (20/39)

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Why Are There So Many Dysfunctional Families in This World?

Why does it feel like so many families are dysfunctional—even the ones that look “normal” on the outside? In this solo episode, I explore this question from a trauma-informed, compassionate perspective. I talk about how dysfunction isn’t always loud or obvious, and how many families are shaped by unhealed generational trauma, emotional immaturity, and nervous systems stuck in survival mode. I share why so many of us grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or responsible for other people’s emotions—a...

2 days ago

53 minutes

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The body keeps the score: Why kids in traumatic environments get sick so often

I want to share something deeply personal in this episode — my own experience growing up chronically sick. From the time I was five years old, I received weekly allergy shots. This went on for eight years. On the surface, it looked like I just had “bad allergies.” But what no one was asking back then was why my body was constantly reacting… and what it might have been trying to communicate. As a child, I didn’t feel emotionally safe at home. I didn’t have the language — or the permission — to...

6 days ago

44 minutes

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Part 2: Signs of Trauma Responses in Daughters of Unloving Mothers

In this episode, I continue the conversation by exploring trauma responses that often show up in how we communicate, relate to other women, and take up space in the world. I talk about the anxiety many of us feel around other women, especially in group settings or with female authority figures. I explore why over-apologizing and over-explaining become automatic, how difficulty setting boundaries develops, and why speaking up for ourselves can feel so uncomfortable or even unsafe. I share how ...

1 week ago

22 minutes

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Part 1: Signs of Trauma Responses in Daughters of Unloving Mothers

In this episode, I talk about the often-overlooked trauma responses that can develop in daughters raised by emotionally unavailable or unloving mothers. I explore how perfectionism can become a form of protection, why accepting love or care can feel uncomfortable or even unsafe, and how many of us find ourselves repeatedly drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. I also discuss hyper-independence, chronic self-criticism, the fear of being truly seen, and the grief we were never allowed to n...

2 weeks ago

44 minutes

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Understanding Therapy Types for Trauma & PTSD — Finding What Actually Helps You Heal

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to figure out what kind of therapy you’re “supposed” to do, you’re not alone—because I’ve been there too. In this solo episode, I share what I’ve learned about the different therapy types used to heal trauma, PTSD, and complex PTSD, and why not every approach works for every nervous system. I talk about why traditional talk therapy didn’t always help me, and how understanding trauma from a brain-and-body perspective completely changed the way I approache...

2 weeks ago

23 minutes

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Rewriting Your Inner Story: Healing the Default Mode Network After Trauma

In this solo episode, I’m diving into a part of the brain that most people have never heard of — but it impacts everything about how you think, feel, and understand yourself: the Default Mode Network, or DMN. The DMN is the brain’s “storytelling network.” It’s active when you’re reflecting, daydreaming, remembering the past, imagining the future, or trying to make sense of who you are. It shapes your inner dialogue, your self-perception, your beliefs, and even your identity. But after t...

3 weeks ago

42 minutes

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The Vagus Nerve: Your Body’s Pathway Back to Safety

In this solo episode, I’m breaking down one of the most important — and most misunderstood — parts of trauma healing: the vagus nerve. This powerful nerve is responsible for your ability to calm down, feel safe, regulate your emotions, connect with others, and come back into your body after stress. But after trauma, especially long-term trauma like cPTSD, the vagus nerve becomes weakened and overwhelmed. This is why so many survivors struggle with anxiety, hypervigilance, emotional overwhelm,...

1 month ago

36 minutes

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Living in Fight-or-Flight: Healing the Sympathetic Nervous System After Trauma

In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the sympathetic nervous system — the part of our body responsible for the fight-or-flight response — and what actually happens to it after trauma. If you’ve ever felt constantly on edge, easily triggered, always “on,” or like your body can’t relax even when you want it to… this episode will resonate deeply. I’m breaking down how trauma rewires the sympathetic nervous system so it stays alert, tense, and overactive — long after the danger is over. I’l...

1 month ago

17 minutes

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Relearning Safety: Healing the Parasympathetic Nervous System After Trauma

In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of the most important — and most overlooked — parts of trauma healing: the parasympathetic nervous system, also known as the “rest and heal” branch of your body’s nervous system. This is the system that helps you relax. It helps you breathe deeply. It helps you feel safe, grounded, open, connected, and present. It’s where calm lives… and where true healing happens. But for those of us who’ve lived through trauma — especially lon...

1 month ago

30 minutes

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Healing the Hippocampus: How Trauma Affects Memory, Time, and Emotional Clarity — and How We Rewire It

In this solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most misunderstood — but most powerful — parts of trauma healing: the hippocampus, the part of the brain that helps us form memories, process experiences, and understand the difference between the past and the present. For so many of us living with PTSD or cPTSD, the hippocampus gets overwhelmed by chronic stress and trauma. It becomes smaller, foggier, and disconnected. That’s why we feel stuck in old memories, why emotions hit us out of nowhe...

1 month ago

28 minutes

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Healing the Prefrontal Cortex: How Trauma Impacts Your Thinking — and How to Reclaim Your Clarity and Power

In this solo episode, I’m diving into a part of trauma healing that doesn’t get talked about enough — the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for clarity, decision-making, emotional regulation, boundaries, planning, and staying grounded in the moment. For years, I wondered why I shut down during conflict… why my mind went blank when I got triggered… why focusing felt impossible… why making decisions brought so much anxiety… and why small stressors felt...

1 month ago

45 minutes

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Healing the Amygdala: How Trauma Rewires the Brain — and How We Reclaim Our Safety

In this solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most important — and misunderstood — parts of healing trauma: the amygdala, the tiny part of the brain that acts like our personal alarm system. For so many of us who have lived through PTSD or cPTSD, the amygdala becomes overactive, oversensitive, and overwhelmed. It fires even when nothing is wrong. It makes calm feel dangerous and chaos feel familiar. It keeps us stuck in survival mode long after the threat is gone. And here’s the part no on...

1 month ago

47 minutes

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Complex PTSD: Recognizing the Wounds and Reclaiming Your Power

In this solo episode, I’m opening up about something that often hides in plain sight — Complex PTSD, or cPTSD. This isn’t just about a single traumatic event… it’s about the kind of pain that lingers from repeated emotional wounds — the times you felt unsafe, unseen, or silenced for far too long. I’ll be sharing the signs and patterns I’ve learned to recognize — things like emotional flashbacks, self-blame, people-pleasing, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells. I know what it’s li...

1 month ago

22 minutes

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What You Do in Private Determines How People Treat You in Public

In this solo episode, I’m opening up about something powerful I’ve been reflecting on lately — the idea that what we do in private determines how people treat us in public. I’ve realized that the way I talk to myself when no one’s around, the energy I carry when I’m alone, and the way I show up for me — all of that creates the vibration that others pick up on. When I used to talk down on myself or minimize my own light, people mirrored that energy right back to me. They treated me the way I w...

1 month ago

22 minutes

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Nothing has built in meaning

In this solo episode, I dive into the idea that nothing in life has built-in meaning. Everything is neutral until we assign it meaning. The stories we tell ourselves shape how we experience life—and realizing that gives us our power back. I open up about how past trauma can influence the way we interpret everything around us, and how easy it is to live through those old narratives without realizing it. But here’s the truth: those stories aren’t permanent. You have the power to rewrite them, t...

2 months ago

15 minutes

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It’s What You Make of It — Not What Happened to You

Life doesn’t always give us a fair start. We all carry stories, scars, and experiences that shaped us in ways we didn’t choose — but the truth is, our power isn’t in what happened to us; it’s in what we decide to do with it. In this solo episode, I’m talking about transformation — the moment you realize you’re not defined by your past, your pain, or the people who couldn’t see your worth. You are defined by what you build from it. When you shift from “Why did this happen to me?” to “What is t...

2 months ago

16 minutes

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How a Person Treats Their Kids Behind Closed Doors Says a Lot About Them

Everything is not as it seems. Some people wear masks so convincingly that the world believes they’re kind, generous, and emotionally grounded — but the truth always reveals itself in the quiet places no one sees: at home. Behind closed doors, you see who a person truly is. How they speak to their children — the ones who depend on them most — exposes their true character more than any public act ever could. Toxic family patterns don’t start with us, but they often continue through us. W...

2 months ago

26 minutes

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An unhealed parent is often a child's first bully

This heartfelt episode opens up about one of the hardest truths many of us eventually face — that sometimes, our first experience of emotional pain came from the very people who raised us. Through gentle reflection and personal insight, we explore the meaning behind the saying “An unhealed parent is often a child’s first bully.” This episode dives into how unhealed trauma in parents can shape a child’s self-worth, silence their voice, and create patterns of people-pleasing or perfectioni...

2 months ago

33 minutes

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You Need to Feel It to Heal It

In this episode, I talk about one of the hardest but most important truths of the healing journey: you can’t avoid your feelings and expect to heal. For so long, I tried to push down pain, numb it, or distract myself—but it always found a way to come back. The turning point came when I finally allowed myself to feel it fully. Healing doesn’t come from bypassing or pretending things don’t hurt. It comes from leaning in, letting emotions rise, and allowing them to move through you. The only way...

2 months ago

17 minutes

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I Don’t Want to Fit In

In this episode, I share why I no longer have the desire to “fit in.” The world feels backward in so many ways—especially in how we’ve normalized childhood wounds that leave so many of us needing years of therapy and deep healing. It shouldn’t be normal to grow up carrying trauma. What should be normal is raising children with unconditional love, acceptance, and safety so they don’t have to spend adulthood repairing the damage. I talk about my own decision to embrace being the black sheep—the...

3 months ago

22 minutes