If holiday plans feel like a pressure cooker of expectations, you’re not alone. We unpack how each of the nine Enneagram types walks into the season with very human hopes and fears, and how those hidden expectations can quietly sabotage connection when stress rises, plans shift, or emotions run high. For every type, we share clear triggers to watch for, a simple grounding practice you can use in the moment, and a short mantra that helps your nervous system settle so you can stay presen...

Ever wondered what it’s like to discover your Enneagram type in real time? Wendy sits down with Briana, a first-time test taker who lands as a Type Seven, and trace the exact moment optimism meets self-awareness. If you’ve ever kept your options open, reframed pain into a silver lining, or said yes to something exciting before thinking it through, Briana's story will feel familiar. Brianna brings the classic Seven spark—ideas for days, community energy, and a calendar that rarely sits still....

Fatima, a clinical psychologist from Kuwait, shares her journey from people-pleasing to authentic living and how she helps women reconnect with themselves after trauma and disconnection. • Discovered her calling to psychology at age 11 without understanding what it meant • Studied anthropology before completing a master's in clinical psychology at the University of Edinburgh • Specializes in helping women who feel disempowered or unable to express their authentic selves • Explains how collec...

Beneath the surface behaviors of each Enneagram type lies a profound emotional pattern the passion that influences how we see the world and react to life's challenges. These patterns operate largely unconsciously, steering our reactions and perceptions in ways we rarely notice. But within each of us also exists a virtue which is our authentic essence that emerges when we're grounded, present, and aligned. This conversation offers profound insights for anyone who's ever wondered: "Why do I ke...

Have you ever felt completely stuck in life, like you're trapped in a cycle with no way out? That overwhelming sense of stagnation where nothing seems to move forward despite your best efforts? You're not alone—and there's profound wisdom waiting in that uncomfortable space. Feeling stuck is universally human, yet we rarely talk about it honestly. We live in a culture that celebrates constant motion, achievement, and productivity, making the experience of stagnation feel like personal failur...

What if the thing you thought was wrong with you was actually a pattern shared by millions? For Kristi Rider, discovering the Enneagram was like finally finding a mirror that reflected back not just her perfectionism, but the hidden anger underneath it all. From the moment she identified as a Type One, Kristi recognized the internal pressure cooker she'd been living in. As a mother of four children, she had mastered the art of keeping everything together - coordinating sports schedules...

Chuck and Linda Lesem share their 37-year marriage journey and how discovering the Enneagram transformed their relationship by giving them a language to understand each other's patterns. Their story reveals how complementary personality types can create both challenges and beautiful balance when partners learn to appreciate their fundamental differences. • Chuck (Type One) and Linda (Type Two) met at a pizza parlor after a missed introduction • They navigated early relationship differences w...

The Enneagram 9 pattern is often misunderstood as merely "easygoing" when in reality Nines have a complex inner world filled with untapped wisdom and power they struggle to access. • 9s often have difficulty defining their own characteristics and may assume others think and feel the same way they do • Self-preservation Nines can appear similar to 6s due to shared behavioral patterns • Nines give others grace easily but struggle to extend the same compassion to themselves • Being "easygoing" ...

The journey of an Enneagram Two reveals a fascinating paradox – an extraordinary capacity to sense others' needs paired with a profound disconnection from one's own. This conversation with Molly Knutson-Keller takes us deep into the world of "The Helper," where we discover how mirror neurons create heightened empathy while simultaneously masking personal needs. Molly shares her winding path to discovering her true type, revealing how even Enneagram experts sometimes misidentify themselves bef...

What if the key to saving your relationship isn't trying harder, but seeing deeper? Relationship psychologist Tracy Baker-Lawrence reveals how our unconscious patterns can either destroy or transform our closest connections. After witnessing countless couples on the brink of divorce after decades together, Tracy developed the DNA method – a powerful framework that examines each couple's unique dynamics, neurobiology, and attention patterns. This approach helps partners understand what's real...

Join me for a Life, Family, Business, and Podcast Branding Update! I'm transitioning this podcast from "Your Enneagram Friend" to "Uniquely You: Enneagram and Real Life" to better reflect the blend of content I want to share with you. The new direction will expand beyond pure Enneagram teaching to include diverse topics and guest experts while maintaining the Enneagram insights you've come to expect. • First episode under the new name will feature Tracy, a Personality and Relationship ...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! In this episode Wendy and Molly dive into the head PDP's of the Enneagram, unpacking the complexities of the subtypes of five, six, and seven. We discuss how fear drives their behaviors and the significance of understanding these nuances for personal growth and deeper connections. - Overview of Enneagram subtypes and their importance - Self-preservation five: the need for privacy and ...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Explore the transformative power of the Enneagram with Milton Stewart (Type SP 7) as he shares his experiences, teachings, and insights. In this episode Milton and I talk about self-preservation Seven, techniques for managing energy, overcoming emotions, and the impact of continuous improvement on personal and organizational growth. • Milton's journey discovering the Enneagram • Mana...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Uncover the secret: How to transform from a people-pleaser into a confident boundary-setter with Elizabeth Stranzl, an insightful boundaries and relationships coach. Elizabeth, once a school psychologist, shares her personal journey and professional insights, offering listeners a fresh perspective on the power of setting boundaries. Discover how coaching differs from therapy, providing a direct a...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Ever wonder how a career shift could transform not just your professional life but your entire worldview? Meet Therese Fitzpatrick, a mental health therapist from Chicago who made a remarkable transition from a 25-year tenure as a U.S. probation officer to a fulfilling role in therapy. Her journey, interwoven with her Irish Catholic upbringing and values, offers profound insights into parenting a...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Discover the transformative power of the Enneagram as your personal roadmap to self-awareness. Join me, Wendy Busby, on "Your Enneagram Friend" podcast, as I unravel the complexities of this intriguing personality system and address the 10 most frequently asked questions. Here are the questions I answer! 1. What is the Enneagram? 2. What are the nine types or numbers? 3. Can my Enneagram t...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Unravel the complex world of Enneagram subtypes with us as we journey through types 2, 3, and 4 in this enlightening episode. Ever wondered how individuals of the same type can behave so differently? Wendy Busby and her insightful teaching partner Molly Knutson-Keller help crack this enigma wide open by exploring the hidden layers added by instinctual drives: self-preservation, social, and sexual...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Ever wondered if a midlife transition could be more of a rebirth than a crisis? Join me, Wendy Busby, as I chat with Nevada Lane (Type SP 3) on Your Enneagram Friend Podcast. Nevada talks about the often misunderstood midlife phase, not as a crisis but as a crucial stage for reevaluating life's priorities and personal identity. This episode is brimming with insights that could illuminate your pat...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Imagine discovering a tool that not only helps you understand yourself but also transforms your marriage. That’s what my husband Josh and I experienced with the Enneagram. Join us on "Your Enneagram Friend" as we unravel the intricate dance between a Type Nine and a Type Four, sharing heartfelt stories from our 23-year journey. From Josh’s revelation of his conflict-averse Type Nine tendencies to...

Send Wendy a Message! If you'd like her to respond add your phone number or email to the message! Ever wondered how the Enneagram can offer even more nuanced insights into your personality? Join us on Your Enneagram Friend podcast as we delve into the fascinating world of Enneagram subtypes with Wendy Busby and Molly Knutson-Keller. You'll learn why the Enneagram's 27 subtypes provide a richer understanding of human behavior. This episode is part 1 of our 3-part series on Subtypes. In it we ...